[영원한 사랑]

I'm a freshman and I feel so much lonelyer in college than high school.
I see none of my friends anymore and I haven't made any new ones yet.

It's so hard to make friends cuz you have only like one class together only a few times a week..
and people are so wrapped up in their own business..


Anyone feel the same way??
How do you make friends in college??
Through clubs, etc//??

[joogrlpekaun]

I kind of feel the same way I guess, but the girls on my floor are pretty friendly and we hang out and go to events and meals together sometimes. I'm pretty sure by this point that I won't actually be making any friends through classes, so it seems like clubs and the people who live around me are more likely places to look for friends. So don't give up--find people you have things in common with (intended major, clubs, other stuff) and use them to run into and talk to each other a lot. Works for me, although it hasn't really been long enough to make friends for me since it's still the first week of school. When you feel lonely, find someone else who's around and just strike up a convo if his/her door's open. And leave your door open and sometimes people will just wander in to talk or ask you if you want to go places with them.

[Midnight Dreams]

on my first year of college, i felt the same way. as time goes on, i don't. i just go up to people and talk. that's how i made most of my friends.

[heyitzthatfc]

A lot of my friends go to college and we hang out regularly, but all my high school friends that are going to different colleges are leaving and basically we have to keep like an internet erlationship now.. it makes me sad that their leaving.. Your best bet would to just go up and make some new friends, I know it isn't as easy as it sounds but if you feel lonely you shouldn't be afraid to make new friends, because feeling lonely sucks especially with long hours at school.

[BishieAddict]

i'm in fourth year and i'm still feeling a bit lonely
first year... my friends were in my classes...then second year, we split off.
I made "friends" the last couple of years (we do homework together/check assignments/... i guess we're more like study buddies than friends) since I don't really have anything in common with them, we don't hang out outside school very much.
this year...I kinda just went on my own.... usually i say hi to everyone i know. but this year, i'm just getting so lazy that if they're not even looking at my direction i don't bother. (lol before i was happy to recognize anyone i just shout a greeting if they're within 5ft.)

How i met my friends:
say hi to ppl... check assignments. talk about random stuff. get contacts (msn). work together in projects.... it's probably easy for me because everyone takes the same "core" subjects in my faculty.

[outofthisworld]

sometimes i feel this way, when i come back to my dorm no one is outside and i dont want to just knock on people's door and start a conversation. its so much harder to hang out with friends. making friends is easy but to be able to hang out together, is hard to do.

[ngpossible]

believe me, it takes a long time to meet real friends in college. because i'm on the quarter system, we only see each other for about nine weeks. the chances of us seeing one another again is very slim unless we make an effort to see each other. and people me, it's easier said than done.

i actually made friends working on campus. there, we all got to know each other and ur customers could be potential future classmates. it's like a social network when working on campus. it's a little tough because college students are difficult customers, but if you'd like to meet ppl, that's always an option.also, is there something ur really interested in? like photography or a particular language? i'm sure ur school has a whole bunch of clubs. look for something that ur interested in and attend the first meeting to see what it's like.

also, approach classmates with confidence. it can be pretty nerve wracking the first week of class having to introduce urself to everyone, but that's how it's going to be like every few months when a new quarter/semester starts. you just have to gradually build that confidence in urself. that's the most effective way of meeting people in college.sadly to say, it's much easier said than done. but that's what college is for, right? we're not only learning from books, but gaining valuable social skills that will greatly contribute to our future occupation. that's another form of motivation to be bold and randomly introduce yourself to people.

believe me, it takes a long time to meet real friends in college. because i'm on the quarter system, we only see each other for about nine weeks. the chances of us seeing one another again is very slim unless we make an effort to see each other. and believe me, it's easier said than done.i actually made real good friends working on campus. there, we all got to know each other and ur customers could be potential future classmates. it's like a social network when working on campus. it's a little tough because college students are difficult customers, but if you'd like to meet ppl, that's always an option.

is there something ur really interested in? like photography or a particular language? i'm sure ur school has a whole bunch of clubs. look for something that ur interested in and attend the first meeting to see what it's like.

also, approach classmates with confidence. it can be pretty nerve wracking the first week of class having to introduce urself to everyone, but that's how it's going to be like every few months when a new quarter/semester starts. you just have to gradually build that confidence in urself. that's the most effective way of meeting people in college.

sadly to say, it's much easier said than done. but that's what college is for, right? we're not only learning from books, but gaining valuable social skills that will greatly contribute to our future occupation. that's another form of motivation to be bold and randomly introduce yourself to people.

[Kimdirect]

I sometimes feel that way too. I'm in a dorm that has a lot of friendly people (and consider myself one of them) but for some reason I feel kind of distant from everybody in some way. Maybe that's because it's still only the first month, and we haven't been able to become as close as I was with some of my high school friends. But liek I said, it's kind of early, I'm pretty sure thta it'll get better.

[Bboy Stan]

Not really...I mean I have friends from high school and friends I met here. I never really feel lonely..since every class I go to..I know at least one person in it. What a relief.

[dehoot]

Oh, the fears are tingling. I don't start till 2 weeks from now, but still I'm afraid I won't be able to make friends.

I have an idea to go around each room on my floor with chocolates and introducing myself to whoever lives there. Hopefully I'll at least know who I'm living around instead of having no idea and just walking aimlessly as a "stranger" walks by.. And they might remember me as the freshmen who fed them chocolate. --; Er.. how sad.

[dogs7268]

Oh, the fears are tingling. I don't start till 2 weeks from now, but still I'm afraid I won't be able to make friends.

I have an idea to go around each room on my floor with chocolates and introducing myself to whoever lives there. Hopefully I'll at least know who I'm living around instead of having no idea and just walking aimlessly as a "stranger" walks by.. And they might remember me as the freshmen who fed them chocolate. --; Er.. how sad.

aw i want to be your chocolates, i mean friend.
just wondering how come you're starting later than most places? most places already started

[xkrndreamer]

KCCC is always an option.

[jahmez]

I know when it was my first year, I wasn't too afraid of not making any friends in class, but more about lunch. Cause you know how like back in high school all your friends have the same schedule so you guys sit together all for lunch and stuff. But in college, the few people you know have different schedules so they eat a different times. So sometimes you ended up eating by yourself, which gets kind of lonely. But pucker up. After some time you'll get to know more people, so it won't be too bad.

[emma_fifth]

my college life is fun!
i would greet anyone i know. and thx my clssmates are friendly.

[Patra86]

i'm in fourth year and i'm still feeling a bit lonely
first year... my friends were in my classes...then second year, we split off.
I made "friends" the last couple of years (we do homework together/check assignments/... i guess we're more like study buddies than friends) since I don't really have anything in common with them, we don't hang out outside school very much.
this year...I kinda just went on my own.... usually i say hi to everyone i know. but this year, i'm just getting so lazy that if they're not even looking at my direction i don't bother. (lol before i was happy to recognize anyone i just shout a greeting if they're within 5ft.)

I totally feel the same. But in my case, it's just that people just don't want to talk to me.They're too stuck up. I mean it's not that hard to say "hi" to someone. Oh well, I don't need to be friends with that kinda people either. Soooo I guess it's all about the people you meet.

But to make friends how about joining a student association or a group that shares same interests as you. I would have if there was this kind of things in my college. I mean college is a great experience when you meet the right people so you should go for it.

[alwayzujustme]

lolz...i know exactly what you mean...it's my third week of school and i barely talk to anyone in any of my classes....lolz...when i do say anything they're kinda surprise that i speak at all...lolz...it's okay i guess, in high school it's easy because you spend four years around the same people, all heading in the same direction, in college it's a little different because that's when everyone are working hard on their own dreams...and they would have little time to really actually care about anything else...for me it's a bit harder since i also live off campus...but i've heard from a friend of mine that his floor is the only floor that really hangs out with each other, other people in his tower doesn't really do that...so i don't think i'm missing much...maybe things will pick up when you have to start studying for mid-terms and final exams...i'm pretty jealous of my friends back home cause most of them went to our local colleges and they see each other as if they're still in high school...lucky butts...lolz...but it's all good...i still keep in contact with them on facebook, myspace, etc...just gotta meet new people here....

[jphase]

i felt like that too and i felt very out of place because there aren't many asians in my college. I'm just glad my roommate is really chill. We hung out with each other, he introduced me to some of his friends etc. now I don't really feel that lonely although I do wish I knew more people. I'm not very good at meeting people and talking to them. I'm a very quiet guy haha.

Are you dorming or are you commuting because I know it'd def. be harder if you were commuting ><

anyhow good luck and dont be scared to talk to the person that sits next to you in class, just say "hi, my name is _____, whats your name?"

[badboy yardy]

you should definitely check out a club or two. even though you might think they are lame or boring, the people you can meet at the club will be rewarding. i think the whole reason clubs exists in school is to make new friends, and not about the agenda of the club.

[COREAN]

i kinda feel that way too

i know a lot of people but i haven't really found a group of people i feel close with and could chill with everyday

it seems as if everyday im chilling and eating with a different group of people

[csnrain]

Kind of...but I don't like the majority of the people I've met which is probably why I haven't made any friends yet. Truthfully that's fine, I've never had that many friends...but I never could have imagined I'd miss my family so much.