[*.:StarryEyeSurprise:.*]

IT is hard making frds
especially if you're in a diff country like me, T-T
and have hardly any asians in your course (archi)
the whites don't bother talking to an asian
oh and I don't live in a dorm so T_______T

[*.:StarryEyeSurprise:.*]

^ i so agree!
i only have like 1 good friend so far, others are just purely aquiatances ...

did i mention most of my university is international students o.o; they all speak mandarin and i wish i can speak english once in a while like in HS...

ooo and they have soooo many koreans here too XD but they just hung in their own lil circle

yes....EXACTLY like me
In nz, there are quite alot of europeanised asians, in my uni now, not only does my course have VERY few asians, the other asians round uni are all basically intenational students that stick together (cos they flat together T_T)
It would be hard to make frds with them, and I would rather speak english
not only that, they prob think I'm too white, while the whites think I'm too asian
oh god, I have frds now, but I want more T_T
I miss my family SO much
I miss my frds
*tears*

[yoshiba]

Woah.
First week at uni, and still no proper friends.
It doesn't help when there is up to 500 people in your lectures. I have really no problem approaching people if they don't look intimidating, but it seems that in a particular lecture, no one actually talks (unless they know each other previously). Since no one from my High School goes to my University, I feel lonely. After talking to them, they either have no similar breaks with me or completely different classes.

Although tutorials consist of a smaller classroom-like style, I'm not really close to anyone there. Lets hope I find some friends.

[baoi]

lols.. it's a part of college. Make new friends and move on.

i rarely talk to my high school friends.. we all went into different directions after High school..
well.. i think ALL of my High school friends are married, except one.

I don't know what they like or what they do now, so it'll be awkward to talk to them randomly out of the blue.



and talking about lonely. Tuesday is my birthday, and i'll be a loner. My roommates goes to different schools
and all of them have spring break this week, and i had spring break last week. My family lives across the nation..
and daymn, i have class Tuesday.

But, thank god i have friends (from work and school) to hang out with!!

[touche`]

Well... I was never really "lonely" because I would hang out with my sister's friend. At that time I was all right with my roommates and I didn't have any friends of my own, yet. Right now, I wouldn't consider myself to be "lonely" because I'm always busy with my friends! Now, I want to be alone at times and it's hard when your friends are looking for you all the time!

[PDURRR]

this sucks more when there's group work and the teacher have to allocate you to a group because everyone already picked people to group with. major loner points right there ugh, the pain of transferring. but its only my second week so hopefully this loneliness will end soon. =(

i never really had that before because small classes everyone are pretty much loners, so the teacher either groups up him/herself or it'd just be like your classmates next to you etc..
but i hate the big seminar sized classes, where you see a group of like ten friends sit with eachother depressing
whats even more depressing is that they have their laptops and iphones...and then i just feel POOR AND LONELY

[yeuthuong]

sometimes i feel lonely but i really don't think about it a lot. i've made some friends and my suitemates are all really nice. we usually go out for dinner or hang out on the weekends. none of us are partiers so we have like game nights and stuff on the weekends or watch blockbuster movies. they're the only ones that i've actually become real good friends with. my best friends are all back home and they're the ones i usually tell everything to. so i get lonely when i need to talk to them but can't ...

[Amethist]

I'm having rather the opposite feeling (I have a lot more friends now), because I'm studying Gamedesign and most of my classmates have the same interests as I do, ofcourse there are groups, but most of us can get along with eachother ..
But I guess if I'd study economics or something, I wouldn't have made friends that easily, so I guess I'm just lucky to be studying something that not an average study ..

Also, I remember that I also created friendly relationships with people through the projects we have here, you always kinda get this 'bond' with your project group, so yeah, making friends through projects would be my suggestion ..
Oh and with project groups I mean those project groups that are created by the teachers, not those you have to form yourself.

[countrykkokkorea]

Ahhhh those of you who are feeling lonely I'm sorry to hear that... Just keep a smile on your face and generate small talk... be social and be interesting! I'm sure all of you are interesting in one way or another so don't be bashful...

Oh! And don't forget to introduce yourself. That's rather important.


Best wishes.

[jello24]

i make friends pretty easily by walking up to some peeps and saying "Hey, how's it going...?" that usually nets me 1 friend per intro... i made 2 today actually.

its all about saying hello to the person. just staring at them and hoping they approach you is a guaranteed way of being bored for the whole term.

[thislove]

I thought I was the only one with this problem. I can't seem to bond with anyone in college well I have friends but not really friends tat u can spill ur guts to kind of friends. I wonder is this how my life going to be for the rest of my life? Nowadays, if I need to talk I'll just call my sister. Oh, my problem is I'm very timid and won't really be very social so I just can't jump start a conversation with anyone.

[chiluvskk]

ah this topic is making me nervous lol
i'll be heading off to college next year and i'm really scared i'm not going to have any friends
i'm sort of shy too ><

is it really that bad guys?
i mean i don't want to do a group project or something and everyone already has a group, and i'll be lonely

[PDURRR]

it's not THAT bad but yeah everyone has their own opinion
well i've met alot of cool people and all
but i wouldn't call them my friend

and whenever a new semester starts
its like the first day of school every couple of months lol

[chickenwing]

this is my first time in other country college.. i never been in college in my country.. i don't feel lonely at all.. ..
i lyk my friends here.. they are from different country but very nice, n friendly..

[tekktekk12]

Yea. I feel lonely sometimes. I transferred and I really miss my friends from my old school!
BUT I am still making some friends in my new school, plus you always have the work friends...
I'm thinking once I take more classes that are directed towards my major, I'll get closer to some people, you know what I mean?

[xstarBURST]

I'm still having trouble making friends. Most of the people my age at my college like to stick with their friends from high school...well thats the people my age. But all my classes...are like people in their late 20s and late 40s. Joining clubs is out of the question because there's nothing that catches my eye and make me want to join. Most of the time I'm not on campus when the meeting takes place =x

[awdark]

You guys seem pretty social...
Onto my 5th year of college and I pretty much don't talk to anyone. Okay the pretty much part is really pushing it. I don't talk to people, at least I have soompi...
I don't think I care anymore although I probably do and it shows in my grades.

[Lebanese_Blonde]

i have "party" friends but not really any real friends. no one i'd ever bother getting to know deeply. and the fact that i take a while to open up to people makes it worse. i've never been hard up for making friends...i enjoy my time alone. but i do miss have best friends. i'm in a long-term relationship though so i guess that's how i manage

[vvn]

Yeah I feel lonely b/c lectures are HUGE and it's really rare to make friends in huge lectures.
However, I made a few good friends in small classes (usually language courses or senior level).
But a lot of friends I make are merely "acquaintances" and I probably will never really talk to them after that class ends.
Which is really sad.
University can be so impersonal.
All my spares are alone and I just go to the library usually. Which is kind of a plus for my grades since I'm too lazy to study any other time.

[RACH___ON]

some nights after dinner, i'll just go study in a library by myself, maybe talk to my parents on the phone, and come back to the dorm really late. no communication whatsoever with anyone! so yes, sometimes i get lonely.

however, i also think i expect too much sometimes. because in high school (and no longer) i had my bf, my best friend, a really tight knit group of friends, i expect those roles to be filled IMMEDIATELY in college. and they're not, because it takes time, etc. so i think if i just learn to appreciate the kids that i do talk to here, the people i live with, friends i have here, if i just realize it takes time for me to get attached to them and them to me, i'll be fine.

granted, the fact that after spring break, i didn't really feel glad or relieved at all that all of my so-called-friends were back, that worries me a bit...because honestly, i find it hard to see them as real friends whom i can confide in. i'm afraid i'll just be complaining most of the time.