[yun.yun]

^ya same here lol..im a pretty shy person but i decided i would be more involved w/ clubs and stuff to meet ppl ..but when i got into uni this yr ive been too buzy w/ catchin up and studyin >.< and the only club i wanted to join didnt exist anymore T_T

i have managed to just randomly talk to ppl who happen to be waitin to head into the same class as me..which is lik a huge step for me haha..but it helps to meet ppl..i havent made close friends yet just acquaintances but its only 1st yr rite? but is it just me or does it also seem kinda nice sometimes to be on ur own w/o all the peer pressure to hang out in a group all the time..i dunno =p

[squishybear]

If you live in a dorm, keep your door open as much as possible. So that when people walk by and are looking for someone to talk to, you'll be there.
Otherwise, you actually do have to make a conscious effort to make friends, either in classes, or clubs

[1kaaa]

^ i can't do that at my dormitory. our dorm is more like an apartment
where it's a large corridor with 4 people living in each rooms (2 rooms
each and we share the living room/bathroom). so it kind of sucks. i was
expecting to live in an ordinary dorm with just one other roommate and
planned to open the door, but that's not the case for me.

[george jones]

gosh, i didnt know so many people here feel so lonely. at my school, i often think i'm the only one suffering as it seems like everyone has friends to hang out with.
whats bothering me the most is that i had a horrendous high school experience, so i expected college to be much better. while it is, its still been a major disappointment for me. i have lots of acquaintances, but it seems like no one wants to hang out with me. i often do nothing on the weekends since i have no one to hang out with. it also doesnt help that most of my friends are nerds
i tried joining clubs, but i was really shy and everyone all had their own friends, so it was very difficult to go up to groups of friends and try to socialize with them. it also doesnt help that i dont have many interests, and have less social experience than most everyone else
it also hurt alot that i went to a CC my 1st two years of college. i'm glad to hear that i'm not the only one who found it very anti-social and lonely
my 2 years so far at uni hasnt been much better, probably because i never was offered housing at the dorms
i've felt like committing suicide SO many times

[iwanabiggal0lly]

Yeah i feel lonely, but it doesnt botter me. I commute so its harder to make friends compared to ppl who dorm.
I only made a few friends, but I don't really hang with them. lol.

[gingerpeach]

Ahh reading all of these posts worry me. I'm gonna be a freshman in the fall. :S And I don't know anyone who's gonna go to my school...! I'll be living on campus, but, apparently it's still pretty hard to make friends that way, eh?

[mintcracker]

eh I've just realised, thought I know quite a few ppl...there hasn't been any I have really really clicked with, cept this one person, who doesn't even seem to wanna be frds anymore.
Hmmm nevermind, uni only started a month ago, everybody in my course are hardout focusing and studying, not really worrying about socialising.



sigh.

[chinayzerzz]

If you're shy, my main advice is never look into any usage of a substance just to "loosen up" esp. with people you don't quite know, especially if you're a female too. Stupid people make stupid mistakes.

[BRS_]

Im going to college this year (SMC) and no one i know is going. D8 All my friends were accepted to UC's. I did too but i was only able to go in if this person dropped out (ended up staying ) *sigh*

[bawk]

my whole life i've been a loner....im gonna be a freshman next year at college...I keep debating between whether or not I want to change or stay a loner.

[sp4078]

I'm into my third year. I got stress a lot from this matter, now I don't even care anymore. I tried an Asian group, didn't work out. PPl has their own circles, it's hard to break in and become one.

I make acquaintances, not friends. I'm open, friendly and talkative (in fact, most of the time, I do the talking) when I'm with ppl. It's just difficult to move from acquaintances to friends.

Now it's not so bad, I feel enjoyable spending weekends all to myself. Pathetic or not, this is what you get for being alone for way too long. Solitude.

I really don't know if going to college means you're supposed to get used to solitude or you're supposed to break the circle, get the skill and socialize. Either way, now, I couldn't care less ...

[BRS_]

*sigh

I have a hard time meeting ppl as well. it's really hard to join a korean circle seeing how everyone is really close to each other. I've spent my college days in the library studying. I have to admit though, having no friends actually helps me do better in classes...dunno if that's a good thing or not...

[she-smiles]

I've made a lot of new friends since freshman year, but the friendly environment at my school is very different from the normal friendly environment back at home. The family and the friends that I grew up with are not around me, and that's why I'd feel the loneliness kickin' in. Lol. But this is now my third year in college, and I've become more independent. So it's no biggie anymore.

[meimei__KOUSEKI]

my only close friends are the irregular students (about 5 of us) and the people i work with for the student's council. it gets pretty lonely sometimes, since the regular students who i take some subjects with are...sort of immature and not as on the same plate as i do.

[seaofcellophane]

i'm attending a cc so it's a lot harder to be social and make long-lasting friendships

[blooies]

i have the same problem here

its really hard to make friends in classes and i hardly talk to anyone in class...im a pretty quiet girl but i need someone to start talking to me first..i cant take the initiative =[ i guess dorming helps cus im pretty close with my roommate but thast about it...i just know about 2 other really "close" friends. class..its definitely hard making friends. but i think clubs are easier? and you just gotta be brave..unlike me ;;

[yongxia]

i'm having the same problem. school started for like 4 weeks and i still don't have any close friends. all of friends are going to a different school than me. everyone here seems to have their own little circle.... sooner or i'll go crazy just because i'm lonely...

[_ShiKAndA_]

yes i feel lonely. i dont see anyone i know so i retreat to secluded places LOL.
that probably doesnt help but sometimes i just sit on a bench and read while waiting for my next class.
i was thinking maybe i should pm a soompier who goes to the same college as me and ask them to meet up.
think thats too desperate? haha....

[aZooRe]

I feel like im at such a disadvantage. I come from SF which is cold, windy and foggy almost 24/7.
Now I'm down in SoCal where it's hot hot hot, not to mention I'm inland so it's almost always 95+

I strongly dislike going outside because it's too damn hot for me to function, so I stay indoors. But when it finally cools down enough where I will go outside, everyone comes inside and hangs out with their friends/dorm mates.

It sucks not having any friends from HS at college.

[haraiso]

I currently go to CC and everyone I see seems to either be in their own little bubble or they're already hanging out with their own friends, so it's definitely hard to make friends....or even talk to people.

I've probably talked to cashiers and stuff more than I've talked to my classmates.

It definitely sucks cause I always hear you make your life-time friends in college.
I'm fine for now though, I guess. I still have my friends from HS.
It'd definitely be nice to make some new ones though.