[BoAFriend]

It's my second year in college and I have never felt worse in my life. I'm not happy where I'm at right now, and honestly speaking, I have very very little friends. The one person I always am around the most is a good friend of mine from high school, and things just get really awkward because she has a boyfriend (who I'm good friends with) and it just seems like I'm always the third wheel. For a time it seemed like I depended on this one friend of mine for my social happiness, but she's making school her second priority and me her third and ditching class all the time to do God knows what. I'm always on erratic terms with her, getting in fights with her on/off, and I just grow sick of her sometimes.

Other friends of mine from high school don't talk to me anymore. Friends I made during my freshman year don't really talk to me either. It just really sucks.

Currently I'm trying to transfer out of here so I can start afresh somewhere else, but it's discouraging from the beginning considering that I'm @ a UC (University of California) campus and it's difficult to transfer from UC to UC.

[JinEnjuce]

It's my second year in college and I have never felt worse in my life. I'm not happy where I'm at right now, and honestly speaking, I have very very little friends. The one person I always am around the most is a good friend of mine from high school, and things just get really awkward because she has a boyfriend (who I'm good friends with) and it just seems like I'm always the third wheel. For a time it seemed like I depended on this one friend of mine for my social happiness, but she's making school her second priority and me her third and ditching class all the time to do God knows what. I'm always on erratic terms with her, getting in fights with her on/off, and I just grow sick of her sometimes.

Other friends of mine from high school don't talk to me anymore. Friends I made during my freshman year don't really talk to me either. It just really sucks.

Currently I'm trying to transfer out of here so I can start afresh somewhere else, but it's discouraging from the beginning considering that I'm @ a UC (University of California) campus and it's difficult to transfer from UC to UC.

Do you attend any clubs or activities in school? Look into that, and maybe join organizations related to your study in school. I've met people in various clubs during college, and I've developed closed bonds with many, as well as opened up opportunities for myself, because the people I got to know had a hand in various things. Hell, the same night I joined up the American Society of Civil Engineers, one of them invited me on a snowboarding trip! On the flip side, I don't talk to anyone that I knew in High school anymore.

[denniscakes]

Yeah, I'm not going to lie, College is pretty lonely. I mean well I go to NYU and what makes it even harder is that there isn't really a set campus, it's just the city. The classes are so spread apart and there isn't really one area where you can meet people, I suppose. I mean, I haven't been able to meet many people here because I have so much work and whatnot. I mean the only plus side I suppose is that I've made one friend here who I'm pretty close to and I've become closer with a friend that came from back home. I just feel the environment here is completely different from where I'm from (California). Hard to adjust to. :/

[Bonsaitea]

I'm posting again with.. HOPE this time!

I have felt much less lonely now. Once you get more involved in your major, you get close to some of the people in your classes. Also, i am only in one club, but i get along with everyone in it, and we have had some social events. So when i go home to study... or procrastinate, i feel a lot better having been able to be plenty social with people school.

It really helps to be able to do something outside of school.
I went camping for a class, and that was really fun. meeting with my club members outside of meeting times and school just to plan future events is fun as well.

But i've been so busy with school... and procrastinating [god, i need to get more focused] that there's little room for any more socializing..

[BoAFriend]

Do you attend any clubs or activities in school? Look into that, and maybe join organizations related to your study in school. I've met people in various clubs during college, and I've developed closed bonds with many, as well as opened up opportunities for myself, because the people I got to know had a hand in various things. Hell, the same night I joined up the American Society of Civil Engineers, one of them invited me on a snowboarding trip! On the flip side, I don't talk to anyone that I knew in High school anymore.

I've joined TSA (Taiwanese Student Association) at my school, but honestly (and I'm Taiwanese so no one should take offense) a lot of the fobs in TSA here just aren't friendly, give a lot of dirty looks, and just stick to other fobs.

I tried looking for a photography club or something on campus, but no luck.

[Bonsaitea]

^ Have you seen a list of EVERY club?

there has got to be random clubs such a board game clubs, anime clubs, something club (lol), etc. something really simple like that where you can go and just have fun, instead of sitting through meetings and stuff.

[koreanballads]

Yeah, I'm not going to lie, College is pretty lonely. I mean well I go to NYU and what makes it even harder is that there isn't really a set campus, it's just the city. The classes are so spread apart and there isn't really one area where you can meet people, I suppose. I mean, I haven't been able to meet many people here because I have so much work and whatnot. I mean the only plus side I suppose is that I've made one friend here who I'm pretty close to and I've become closer with a friend that came from back home. I just feel the environment here is completely different from where I'm from (California). Hard to adjust to. :/

Greetings from a fellow NYUer. Take it from a senior, you'll eventually come to terms with it. Just try to avoid the Andrew Williamson Noble route.

[tsuki_no_megami]

Its been a LONG 3 months of my first year in college. It's totally different from high school, which makes me miss high school where you get to hang out and chill with your usual group. Going away to college is not a regret, but rather to grow and be independent. Crap, I am very independent, but the campus I'm at... THERE IS NO WHERE TO GO!! I live on a MOUNTAIN, my roomy is a Junior in the Army and National Guard program, so she's always gone.

When I go home, I feel as if I was going on a damn vacation trip. I get to hang out with my girlfriends again and I get to eat home made food. It just feels very much at home.

I feel really lonely... This school doesn't have a lot of active clubs that seems interesting as well. Everyone is into the fraternity and the sorority life. But overall I rather just try to stay focus on my studies than think about how lonely I am. LMAO!!

Finals are next week, so I must work hard! Good luck to you all with finals!

[snowpuffvy]

It's my 3rd year, still feel very lonely, it's depressing at time when I dont have school work to keep me occupied. I havent had time to make friends, let alone found anyone worth hanging out with. I have classmates I talk to, its usually about school work lol; other then that, it's just me and my doggy. I'm just really waiting to just graduate, then I can have all the firends I want. i'll just have to deal with it for now i guess..

[Laydee-L]

I basically have no life in college.
I go to school, go home, then work. That's my day.
There are a few students that I talk to DURING class, but we never hang out or eat lunch together. So I can't really call them "friends."
In conclusion, yes, I do feel very very very lonely in school.
And what worse is that I commute from home.
This is NOT how I pictured my college life to be. It makes me sad...so so sad.

I'm in the same boat. I feel the same way. I commute to, so I go to class & then I come home lol.
It's sad, I don't have a life either.
You're not the only one who feels lonely.

gosh, i didnt know so many people here feel so lonely. at my school, i often think i'm the only one suffering as it seems like everyone has friends to hang out with.

i've felt like committing suicide SO many times

OMG i feel the same way.

[ART SCHOOL DROPOUT]

It can be lonely at times, but I don't really put much effort into getting to know anyone. I like seclusion.

[Tiffany_kei]

Yeah.... I feel the same way. College life sucks. especially, I'm an international student from Vietnam. All of my classmates are American and I always feel left out. T__T

I just go to classes, takes note then go home. Nothing for me to do. Even thought my classmates, they don't talk to each other. It's just so weird....

[JDMz]

lol me too. I guess there are more of us than I thought. I also feel like im the only one on campus like this. I commute to school and most people live around the school...

I'm in the same boat. I feel the same way. I commute to, so I go to class & then I come home lol.
It's sad, I don't have a life either.
You're not the only one who feels lonely.



OMG i feel the same way.

[brokenTURTLE]

Wow, I'm in the same boat as a lot of you - school, work, then home. I've never really made an effort to talk to classmates so yeah, I guess it's my own fault.

This is the reason why I go home as much as possible - I've got friends and family back at home, whereas college I'm alone.

[Phaze5ive]

Saint wins Super Bowl. Life is over.

[xdanceonx3]

im glad theres many people like me here....so i guess i feel better about it.


Commutting to school is sooo lonely especially since everyone around me that i know lives on campus so i dont even bother to get to know them on a deeper level. its always about school work or this and that but i think the reason i dont make friends is because its just inconvenient for me, since i dont even live near campus. i always feel like everyone around me have people to hang out with and are having a good time but im here doin everything by myself.

[Booger Face]

I have two besties and I'm the only one who goes to school and works a lot while the other two just go hang out all day and all night. I feel left out but what can I do? I really wished that at least ONE of them went to school this semester so I don't have to study by myself. I don't know if this deals with the topic lol.

I only go to a community college so it's not like I'm far from them. My sister said I can make some new school friends, but I really see no point since everyone there is planning to transfer so what's the use of making friends when everyone's going to leave..? I just can't wait to transfer but then I will probably end up like most of you people...no offense of course.

[IonNuke]

I've joined TSA (Taiwanese Student Association) at my school, but honestly (and I'm Taiwanese so no one should take offense) a lot of the fobs in TSA here just aren't friendly, give a lot of dirty looks, and just stick to other fobs.

I tried looking for a photography club or something on campus, but no luck.

I think every school had TSA.

I was VP of TSA @ my school. The co-president of the group was an older guy so he did mostly activities around campus. I would do more far fetched activities on the weekend.... like go to China Town for dim sum and do kareoke on the weekends (also in china town)~~~~ Someone's gotta use up the funding from Student Association or the school takes it back

I would say either work out, or just join as many random organizations. As long as you keep your mind active there's no time to be lonely. Plus many random organizations for me was a good idea. I ended up finding like tons of people that took the same classes as I did. So we'd help each other out and it just made the semesters easier.

[farcus]

College is kind of lonely, but once u find that cliche of friends u're set. Its important to start when you're a freshman when everyone else is like u, when your 2nd year meeeh circles sort of alrdy formed, 3rd year mind as well live in a closet, 4th year say bye bye to all the possibilities. Sorry to be so pessimstic. My college years were fun with mixes of meeeh and lonelyness its a vicious cycle. Wait till u get to grad school its like john teshing High school all over again weeeeeeee

[Malice_Kaiser]

In my second semester of my first year, and yeah, still lonely. I made friends last semester, but most of them weren't close enough (apparently) to still want to hang out this year. There was one I hung out with outside of class, but she has a boyfriend now and when I asked her to hang out with me she said "My boyfriend isn't around, I don't know what I'd do." (he lives across the street from me). Ummm, okay. So much for that friendship.
Another friend, we just don't click as well. I hung out with him a few times and I felt uncomfortable, like I had to watch everything I said when around him. So I don't hang out with him so much.
I have a few friends from high school attending the same college, but they've changed, plus found their own group of friends by now.

It's rough, I have a boyfriend of two years and a best friend since kindergarten both of whom I'm hours from now. I want to get into extracurriculars to meet people but it's hard because I have a really busy schedule, and if I want a BFA (as opposed to just a BA) I'm going to be busy a lot all throughout college.

Meeting people is easy, becoming friends is hard.