[mickyticky]

I'm a freshman and some of my friends are drinking and smoking at this age. I'm getting pretty close with them. They drink whenever they have the opportunity of their parents being gone. But, recently, one of the girl's mom approved. Even yesterday when I was at church, they went to someone's house to drink. Also, like 3 days ago, this Junior slid a pack of cigarettes into my friend's bag. After my other friend saw this, she went crazyyy. She was like, "YOU'RE GONNA F*CKING DIE! DON'T SMOKE!" She was saying that because she cared about herr duh. but she was like just like "ok ok ill stop. gosh" but i dont think she will. it's like..5 of my friends drinking and about one or 2 of them smoking. so any ideas to confront to them about it without them being pissed? I really care about them. Btw, they're all asian and they're really good Christians. so im confused?

[SailorBoy62]

Honestly, what can you do about it but be a good friend and support them whenever they decide for themselves that enough is enough? I know you care about them, and as their friend you feel like you should do something, but when it comes to drinking and smoking, people kind of won't listen to you so it's better to let them make their own mistakes and learn from their lessons. The best thing you can do is to make sure that they don't overdo it and kill themselves in the process, remind them to drink responsibly and make good decisions.

[chineseduckling]

alot of people i know do that and im a sophomore in high school. sex, drinking, smoking just doesnt seem like a big deal now anymore to most people. i was really shocked when i was at a party seeing SOOOO many people smoke that i didnt know did.

[chairya]

the world has changed... sucks, but we have to get over it.
i hate it as much as you do~ but just tell them to not do that stuff around you.

[itrayya]

church?
then go drink?

fake as*.
that's what i hate the most.
'yah, i go to church'. then turns around and do all those bad things.
fake.

anyways.
you shouldnt do it if that's not what you really want to do.
yah, they are your friends,
but your friends are not you.
they wont help you graduate, literally help you.
if they do, then kool.
but... look out for yourself.
just because their parents agree, doesnt make anything right.

good luck.

[its complicated]

social pressure and experimenting. they're gonna do it no matter what you say. its their life and their decisions to live that kind of lifestyle. yea it sucks but.... not all go the straight path.

[`LANE]

smoking, drinking, havin sex, and doing drugs, etc. its life.

the guy i like smokes pot and only pot ( how reassuring >,>; ) but i overlook it because hes a responsible smoker ^^

1 of my school friend.. he smokes cigs everyday before class and such.. it smells bad, but can't stop him.

can't really do anything about it because their addiction is way in depth.. (well for me yea)

[theLOSER]

Its become to the point where its not like "OMG you do that stuff" anymore. Everyone now a days
does that and I'm fine with it. I'm like whatever, its your life, live it the way you want to.
I can't control my friends but a lot of them look up to me cause I don't do that stuff. I of course think
smoking anything and drinking is bad but I mean you can't control people.
The sophomore class at my school is the drinking/smoking class. they are the worst out of all the classes
so far. I dont really know about the freshman class this year but I bet they are just as bad.
Haha the Juniors, um, we okay, its getting like "lame" and the senior class is like "Let's party! every day & everynight"
haha but its yeah. its like whatever now.

Big deal but not.

[MaryMagdalin]

you can`t do anything.
i drink sparingly
and i think i`m pretty good in terms of sliding into that stereotypical college life.
i have friends that drink and smoke but at least they have a head on their shoulders
and know their limits and don`t drive drunk.
and they know not to smoke in front of their friends that don`t like it
thats the best we can ask for i think

[nkim4301]

its a stage alot of people go through especially in high school. that stuff is normal in college but its getting to the point where i see high schoolers and even middle schoolers trying too hard to "let loose". its kinda sad really but honestly you learn.. i did all that stuff early on too and by the time i got to college i was bored with the partying scene and moved on. so its good to worry but your gunna be seeing alot more of it as time goes by.

[sushiwhore]

its a phase they'll grow out of it if they o_o are who they seem to be with you

[Angxizzle]

woah most the people i know drink or smoke or do both iz pretty normal now..the youth iz not all that "gewd" now a dayz. lol i just do whatever i wanna do ehhh just cuz they do it dont mean you gotta even if they your frewdz iz there lyfe and iz your lyfe you noe? i mean but if you wanna tell them iz wrong you should once but buggin them all the time about it just goin led to fightin...if they your frewdz they wouldnt force you tew anything you dont wanna do...

[-trang-]

the sad truth is that there is not much that you can do to persuade them to quit
no matter how much you tell them how bad it is for them to smoke, it'll be up to
them to decide whether they want to quit or not

[xchuchanx]

well as freshman they want to fit in and "be cool"
and they think that drinking and smoking is the way to go.

wrongg.

you're smart for not doing it.
It's nice that you care about them... but i think that you should let them suffer the consequences and realize themselves that what they're doing is wrong.

if you are THAT desperate in making them stop, then get them caught. turn them in.
What they're doing is illegal anyways.

[blue_shoe]

I don't care if my friends drink and smoke as long as they don't make me drink and smoke to be there friends. Peace.

[stonerboi27]

being asian and being christian should not define who you are. you guys are young, and whatever damage you guys do to your body, you will recover fully in a short time. smoking may be bad because of the addiction, but otherwise, its really not that big a deal. its just a phase for most ppl. even for me 3 years ago(when i first made this username), i used to smoke alot of pot with my buddies, but we all either stopped or cut down eventually.

[br_Bluex]

my best frd does all that...i tried to get him to stop iunno if it worked cuz he's in taiwan and im in canada...but yeah i guess everyone makes their mistakes and in this case they smoke and drink? let them realize what theyre doing is actually killing them for themselves...but u cud also remind them of that fact? but just dont nag them cuz no one likes that.... but yeah...good luck to you

[NJSK.]

A lot of my friends drink/smoke, but they all know that it's not good for their health. I know that my nagging won't do much, so I try to keep it to a minimum.


muchlove!
-jisoo

[AzN_cHiC89]

I hate the fact that kids keep smoking/drinking at such a younger age each year. All my friends smoke and drink now and I find it really uncomfortable when I'm around them since I myself don't drink or smoke. But I can't do much but be a good friend and hope that they listen to my advice. You cant' really do much but just try to talk to about the whole drinking/smoking issue and hope that they stop.

[kathymon.]

my friends started at around 14, i first drank when i was 15, i don't think its such a big deal these days anymore.
it's their lives, once it starts to go down hill they'll know whats right and whats wrong.
kathy