[blueprince]

ok i will not insult but as the moderator has said other members cannot either

just looking for advices

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?sho...0&start=120

last pg of my topic b4 it was closed

QUOTE (LunaDiviner @ Dec 29 2007, 01:34 AM) *
Okay, this is getting a bit annoying, but I'll try not to be rude, okay? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Firstly, do you want her to know you like her? If you do, then you just have to tell her. Just an example but, a guy has to ask a girl to marry her before they actually get married. They don't just magically end up married, do they?. Someone has to take the initiative to get anywhere and I think in this case it has to be you. However, you have to be mature about it. No crying, no yelling or swearing at her. You don't want her to treat you as a baby, right? So you can't cry or throw tantrums because then she will definitely see you as a baby and might never talk to you again.

Secondly, in some countries it's illegal for a 19 year old to do certain things with a 14 year old. If you're parents or someone else tell on her, she could get in big trouble from the police and we don't want that.

Thirdly, if you want her to treat you more like an adult, you can't show you get annoyed at every single thing. If you're sister annoys you, just do what she wants you to do and then go do some thing else. If someone on Soompi says something you find "rude" or "annoying" don't try tease them or yell at them or call them rude. If you're not happy with what they say, just say thank you for your opinion and then say what you think is wrong with what they said or why it won't work in your situation. Don't yell at them or say rude things. Grown up people don't do that in regards to small things. They just take it and move on.

Hope I didn't seem rude to you.



no i dont want her to know that i like her. i do but im afraid

what do u mean by no crying or yelling or swearing at her? i dont say bad stuff to her ever and i only cried when i had to go on the ride

i dont want her to treat me as a baby

we dont do nething illegal or bad she said if i do bad things she will be mean to me and not take me anywhere

the only time i didnt listen to her was when she put me to sleep and then i went out of the room to watch tv and she saw me. and when i ran across the street since there was no cars

im allowed to make this as long as no insults happen

[uberzero]

I've read some of the stories you wrote in the closed thread, but please excuse me if i missed anything.

I'm sure that you've already read this many times but...i'm sorry to say; it can't happen. Right now you're going against a brick wall. Your situation could very well parallel people's affection for a celebrity. Take me for example. I like Boa very much. But it's impossible that anything will ever happen between us[even though it would be splendid if something were ]. Why do I like Boa? Because she is simply stunning, talented, and overall: awesome. This is all just silly infatuation. I don't know her personality or much of her interests. I have only fallen in love with her characteristics known to fans.

So pretty much, you're just infatuated by her looks and care. This is something that will happen to you quite frequently as you go through high school. True love it not what you're feeling...it is best for you to sweep your feelings for her aside so you won't get emotionally hurt at such a young age.

[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

I'll try to help as best as I can?

Let me just say, that in soompi, i started a thread about older girls liking younger guys.
At this very moment, I do like someone younger.
I'm 17 (almost 18) and he's your age, 14 (turning 15).
The guy I like also happens to be shorter than me. x] But I'm just freakishly tall.
I'm around 5'8", and hes around 5'6"

It's possible for an older girl to like a younger guy (like me as an example), but being honest, it doesn't really happen much.
Yea, age is but a number, but there are other factors to take into consideration.

From what I read in your previous thread, it seems like she sees you as a younger brother.
She sounds like a very caring person, but it seems like to her, you are only a kid.
See, the only reason why I like the guy I do, is because when I first met him, I thought he was older.
He's a lot more mature for his age.
But it seems to me, that you still have some more maturing to do.
I think as you grow older, yes the possibility of her liking you back is possible, but as of now, chances are very slim.

The reasons why you feel this way towards her is probably because she is treating you so kindly, and so you adore her and her personality.
But I don't think she means to lead you on, just to show sisterly affection.

And the distance is also a problem.
She lives very far from you, and to spark something while that far away ... is very difficult.

There's also the law we have to take into consideration
Because, if she were to date you ... I mean ... she could get into trouble. Right?
19 year old dating a 14 year old.
You don't have to do anything bad, just the fact that there is such a big age gap can make a difference.

I think right now, what you are feeling is just infatuation.
As time goes on, I think your feelings will slowly fade, just because she is so much older and far away.
But if you continue to like her .... i mean i guess if you can wait like 2-3 years XD

[EHNerJI]

I'll try to help as best as I can?

Let me just say, that in soompi, i started a thread about older girls liking younger guys.
At this very moment, I do like someone younger.
I'm 17 (almost 18) and he's your age, 14 (turning 15).
The guy I like also happens to be shorter than me. x] But I'm just freakishly tall.
I'm around 5'8", and hes around 5'6"

It's possible for an older girl to like a younger guy (like me as an example), but being honest, it doesn't really happen much.
Yea, age is but a number, but there are other factors to take into consideration.

From what I read in your previous thread, it seems like she sees you as a younger brother.
She sounds like a very caring person, but it seems like to her, you are only a kid.
See, the only reason why I like the guy I do, is because when I first met him, I thought he was older.
He's a lot more mature for his age.
But it seems to me, that you still have some more maturing to do.
I think as you grow older, yes the possibility of her liking you back is possible, but as of now, chances are very slim.

The reasons why you feel this way towards her is probably because she is treating you so kindly, and so you adore her and her personality.
But I don't think she means to lead you on, just to show sisterly affection.

And the distance is also a problem.
She lives very far from you, and to spark something while that far away ... is very difficult.

There's also the law we have to take into consideration
Because, if she were to date you ... I mean ... she could get into trouble. Right?
19 year old dating a 14 year old.
You don't have to do anything bad, just the fact that there is such a big age gap can make a difference.

I think right now, what you are feeling is just infatuation.
As time goes on, I think your feelings will slowly fade, just because she is so much older and far away.
But if you continue to like her .... i mean i guess if you can wait like 2-3 years XD

i agreee. & it seems like she only see's you as a younger brother or somethingg..
sry lol
but you'll move on one day lol ~
i mean that in the nicest way possible, i'm not trynna be mean..

[LunaDiviner]

no i dont want her to know that i like her. i do but im afraid

what do u mean by no crying or yelling or swearing at her? i dont say bad stuff to her ever and i only cried when i had to go on the ride

i dont want her to treat me as a baby

we dont do nething illegal or bad she said if i do bad things she will be mean to me and not take me anywhere

the only time i didnt listen to her was when she put me to sleep and then i went out of the room to watch tv and she saw me. and when i ran across the street since there was no cars

im allowed to make this as long as no insults happen

What are you afraid of? Rejection? I was talking about screaming and yelling if she rejected you.

Do you know the kind of things that can be considered illegal? I was just saying there are certain things couple can and will probably end up doing ie. hugging, kissing and other "stuff". Since that could be illegal due to your age difference the way you'd be acting towards each other could be no different that brother and sister. I'm not saying it's impossible for it to happen, though it almost pretty much is, but there are other things to consider such as the law and her feelings. You really can't get anywhere in this relationship if you don't know how she feels. You'll just be stuck wondering. And thanks for not yelling at me.

[blueprince]

yes i am afraid if she wont like me. and also if i ask her i dont know what she would say or if she will be mad at me

but she even hugged me now. the day when we went to the amusement park and i cried she hugged me and said not to cry.


now i agree with everybody that she just treats me like a baby or younger brother

we are leaving in a few more days and i want her to not treat me like a baby so much. how could i make her not? and how could i be more mature? she always does stuff for me or takes me places and makes sure i am happy how could i do something back for her?

but how can i be mature if her and my older sister make me go to sleep at a certain time and all that. its so hard

in a few days if i could get her to not think im a baby i will ask her maybe.

i know i like her just because shes so pretty but also because whenever i am bored or sad she makes me be so happy. like even when she me made hold her when we crossed the road i didnt stay mad at her. only i asked "why do i have to?" and after she told me how come i just said "fine i will

[uberzero]

I think you could make her look you as a more mature person by...taking her somewhere instead. Or plan a day with her instead of her doing all the planning.

[영원한 사랑]

I still can't believe you are 14 years old.
I mean seriously only 9 year olds get treated that way.
Either you are reallyy really immature for your age or are actually younger than 14.


Anyways, main point is you have no chance.
5 years difference in your teens is ALOT.
When you both are in your twenties, its better, but not in your teens and under.

[CitrusFlower]

i don't want to be mean but you seem kinda like a baby to her, erm....crying at amusement park and whining, i think she see you more like a little brother. theirs a whole lot of girls your age or a bit older then you who can catch your attention just like she did

[blueprince]

영원한 사랑
i am 14. i dont know why she treats me like this but im asking how i could make her change or how i could be more mature

vyvy94
i cried because im afraid of the ride and my older sister and cousins were laughing at me. dont laugh please. it went upside down and i havent been on that type and it makes me scared. but when i cried she gave me a hug and wiped my tears. and on the ride she hold my hand. i know it seems like shes treating me like a baby but i like how she makes sure im not sad

i know theres other girls but i dont like them like i like her

I think you could make her look you as a more mature person by...taking her somewhere instead. Or plan a day with her instead of her doing all the planning.

good idea!

where could i take her though? and also i cant drive only she can. and also im afraid if i take her in the evening she will make us come back before 10 and say ; its past your bedtime we have to get home

with this dumb bedtime how can i do anything? i wish she didnt make me sleep like my older sister does. it ruins everything

also right now i always listen to her since i never want her to be angry with me even though sometimes i complain i do what she says

should i not do that? she always says "ur such a good boy thanks for not giving me a difficult time"

is that bad if she thinks like this?

[uberzero]

good idea!

where could i take her though? and also i cant drive only she can. and also im afraid if i take her in the evening she will make us come back before 10 and say ; its past your bedtime we have to get home

with this dumb bedtime how can i do anything? i wish she didnt make me sleep like my older sister does. it ruins everything

also right now i always listen to her since i never want her to be angry with me even though sometimes i complain i do what she says

should i not do that? she always says "ur such a good boy thanks for not giving me a difficult time"

is that bad if she thinks like this?

You could..take her to a movie or lunch/dinner or to the park. It doesn't matter if you can't drive! Maybe go biking together or take the public transit! Because you have a curfew...take her in the afternoon! It's so much more pleasant in the sun than at night! Besides, it's not really safe for her and yourself to be at night! So it's good on your sister to be doing this :]

Making it easy for her is good. But by being mature, you dont need someone to tell you to be good or tell you what's the right thing to do. So think a step ahead! Be courteous and be a gentleman! Open doors for her, pull out chairs for her, eat with manners!

[Absinthe.]

It's a bit shallow saying she's prettier than other girls your age isn't it? Give the girls your age a few years and they'll be like this girl if you just gave them a chance. I think you're just suffering from calf love. But, moving on, you came for advice from people on this forum, they all tried in vain to help you, why don't you try actually doing something about it instead of telling us about it? You know what they say, a little less conversation a little more action. It doesn't seem as if you'll listen to any of us here. But, I wish you the best of luck.

[leeyeonhee]

i think your heart is flaming so much
think of this. there is nothing wrong to like a girl..
so follow your heart .. respect her as a girl..
if you really like her.. you will notice everything in her life..
her birthday.. what does she likes.. what food does she eat..
what color that impress her so much..
get to know her better..

it's not like where places to go with..
think what does she likes to go to..

someday i know that you will open your heart to her..

and when it comes you will have it unfold...

[LunaDiviner]

Lol, you're acting maturer now. Isn't it better? Hm, maybe bake some cookies or a cake with the premade mixes you buy from the supermarket and take her out for a picnic. You could also make her a goodbye card maybe? The early bedtime thing doesn't matter. Just do something during the day.

[blueprince]

You could..take her to a movie or lunch/dinner or to the park. It doesn't matter if you can't drive! Maybe go biking together or take the public transit! Because you have a curfew...take her in the afternoon! It's so much more pleasant in the sun than at night! Besides, it's not really safe for her and yourself to be at night! So it's good on your sister to be doing this :]

Making it easy for her is good. But by being mature, you dont need someone to tell you to be good or tell you what's the right thing to do. So think a step ahead! Be courteous and be a gentleman! Open doors for her, pull out chairs for her, eat with manners!

i cant take her to a movie since it cost money. also i cant watched rated r movies so it wont be a good one probably

ill take her to lunch tomorrow at the park! thats the best idea! thank u!!

but what do i bring to the park? i have to carry the food from home right? what do i tell my older sister and cousins about this? if i tell them im goint to the park with her for a picnic im sure they will tease me and keep saying i liker her. what can i do then?

is it ok if we sit on the floor but on a cloth?

and also to get to the park we have to cross a few streets but its not a long walk. shes gonna make me hold her hand when we cross the road since now shes always afraid that i run across. what should i say? i know no matter what i say she will make me hold it and then ill feel like a baby grr

when i ask her to eat in park with me what should i say to her? im not sure how 2 ask her. she always asks me if i want to do something or go out

Lol, you're acting maturer now. Isn't it better? Hm, maybe bake some cookies or a cake with the premade mixes you buy from the supermarket and take her out for a picnic. You could also make her a goodbye card maybe? The early bedtime thing doesn't matter. Just do something during the day.

thanks =)

im not sure how to bake a cake or cookies. i dont know how to cook and also i dont think i can use the stove or oven unless i ask

should i ask my older sister or cousins? i think they will laugh and tease me so much if they find out i want to take her for a picnic. if they let me and dont tease me ill be so happy

[LunaDiviner]

Maybe you could make the stuff together then go to the park together? If you act mature while making the stuff then when you get to the roads just smile and ask if you can walk across by yourself. And yes, you can sit on a cloth. I think it's probably best to make the food together. More fun too.

[Bethany]

Wow, it's quite tough if you don't know how to use the stove or oven.
You should really try though. It's really not that hard to use the oven, it's usually just turning the knob.

I really don't know what to tell you.

If you really are planning to go on a picnic and you don't want to bake her
a cake or cookies, then you should try to at least save some of your allowances and buy something for
the picnic. You could make peanut butter-jelly sandwhiches ....it doesn't cost much.

Good luck!!!

[blueprince]

Wow, it's quite tough if you don't know how to use the stove or oven.
You should really try though. It's really not that hard to use the oven, it's usually just turning the knob.

I really don't know what to tell you.

If you really are planning to go on a picnic and you don't want to bake her
a cake or cookies, then you should try to at least save some of your allowances and buy something for
the picnic. You could make peanut butter-jelly sandwhiches ....it doesn't cost much.

Good luck!!!

noooo its not that. i cud probably learn it fast. but my older sister and cousins dont want me to use it or even go by it. whenever its on they dont let me go near there. their afraid im gonna put my hand on the stove...grr im not that dumb

i think i will get the ingredients to make sandwiches and then take it to the park and make it with her like luna said

but what could i tell my cousins and older sister if they ask why i want the ingredients?? thats what im most afraid of asking

and also what could i say to the girl i like when i ask if she wants to eat with me at the park

please help

ahh i have 2 sleep im gonna be in big trouble!

[nagel]

lol, honestly, its all first impression.. so im pretty sure you have no chance right now..
her first impression of you was your younger and shes your guardian.. even if you try to act mature now it wont make much of a difference..

but i guess you can still try.. and be best freinds or something

[chifuni]

It's not illegal for 19 year olds to do something with 14 year olds. It's only illegal if a person over 18 HAS SEXUAL
INTERCOURSE with someone under 18.