[4th.ave.cafe]

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[`faded]

heeeeey..I know how this feeling of yours totally..I was a freshman last year in college away from home..my fall quarter I was kind of homesick..I always went to my reletives house, and stuck to a few friends that I met during the freshman orientation..and then I always studied too, so really I kinda missed my old friends as well, but I'm a pretty social person......just that I had to adjust kind of like yourself...not until winter quarter that I really got to know some people and that was because I went on a trip that the school had, I decided to sign up for it to meet new people and some of my new friends were going to so I decided to go.

Thats where I met so many people and friends that I still talk to and hang out alot to this day, a bunch of us are like a group that hang out together all the time..
so ya on campus just try to go join clubs, groups, and make new friends at the caf and stuff. Any sort of social functions just go because you never know you might find people that you automatically click, because that's what happened with me! hope that helps

[chai]

hi =)

although the experience i've gone through is a much different scenario, but being a senior in college/resident advisor/someone who has lived with freshmen for four years, hopefully some of my suggestions may help?

for any freshmen, i think the best thing to do is get involved in school, and not just academic, but the social aspects such as student organizations. i'm not familiar with frats and such since those don't exist in my school... but, i have been able to make friends (any many of them) in many different grades through the student organizations, and definetly my job as an RA. living in the dorm is a big help in social life too, because you're more likely to do spontaneous things like go out to get food at late hours, visit a friend's room, or ect. in anycase, getting involved with school gives you the opportunity to hang out with ppl of your interest outside the acadmic/classroom setting.

[4th.ave.cafe]

^ thanks (:
that's pretty helpful but hahah it sucks that I'm not living on campus -_0
Most of the clubs start around the evening and end around 9 or so...which is late.
It takes like half an hour by bus for me to get home too T.T;

[j1youngxj3]

i'm in the exact same situation as you...i can't seem to make any new friends at my uni...i just keep on trying to convince myself that i don't need to make friends..when i do need to make friends..but it's not that easy..everyone keeps telling me to talk to people..but how am i supposed to do that if they've already created cliques that they stick to...people have already made a close circle of friends and they don't want to let me in...=[[

doesn't really matter though...i'm going to transfer out to a different school soon anyway..hopefully...good luck though...

[4th.ave.cafe]

^ ooo exactly! :x
there's so many cliques and groups and my school that it's hard to fit in right now =__=
everyone made friends and stuck to them during orientation time where they stayed in dorms.
I didn't go to those because well....I live RIGHT around there....

[yerathy]

I have a friend who is in your exact situation!

For me, meeting friends was pretty easy, especially the first week of school because everyone was open to meeting everyone (I am a freshman too, btw). Living in the dorms has been a huge advantage too. My roomies and I are pretty close and we do a lot together! I met them and chose them through facebook lol. Aside from what chai said about being involved in social resources (it's really important to be active in clubs/etc!), I think facebook and aim has helped me become closer to my friends and make new ones too, in fact most of my close friends right now I met through facebook lol! I think it's really important not just to meet people, but to actually get to know them and maintain that relationship. The more you hang out with them, the closer you'll become with them.

Good luck! Though it might seem intimidating at first, it'll be worth the friendships you'll make!! =) Good luck again but mostly be yourself and just have fun!

[jvang_07]

That's the thing about college. You tend to know how you start to make friends and how everything ends up as. Keep you old friends, but try to make new friends.

I'm currently having the same problem too. It's just that I don't talk much to people and I guess I never try to get to know anyone, but yeah, the best things is always to make friends with a few classmate so your know what your doing, and you know you'll always have a study buddy!

[`faded]

ya I know what you mean by cliques..they started forming during my freshman year of uni..first quarter..then as I said I made new friends..like lots o_o cause they knew others and I got to know tons of people..and we formed our own little circle..but I mean we let new people in too so it's not like we're a clique..we're just really close..

[chai]

ya I know what you mean by cliques..they started forming during my freshman year of uni..first quarter..then as I said I made new friends..like lots o_o cause they knew others and I got to know tons of people..and we formed our own little circle..but I mean we let new people in too so it's not like we're a clique..we're just really close..

i agree, college is definetly not as clique-y as high school. i hang out with different circles of friends, and once you know one, you end up knowing them all. so dont be shy about approaching people that are already with other friends, once one of them becomes a good acquaintence, they will invite you into their circle of friends and their activities.

another great way to meet people i find is to have dinner/lunch on occasions.
my classmates always have an end of the year/after finals party where we do potluck at one of the classmate's house. or if it is your birthday, try using that as a way of inviting some friends/classmates to a small get together or casual dinner.

school activities is a category in itself: again, highly encourage it if possible
i'm actually only in one club at the school, and there are no such thing as sports or frats at our school either (uhh, its an art school, wut do you expect?) but the club i am in is called "Peer Health Advocates" and i get to meet a small group of students (there are about 12 of us?) that are interested in learning about student health. this is a nation wide club and you can get PHA certified since the club meetings act as small training sessions.

don't live in a dorm? know someone that lives in a dorm and go there often... hahaha... well, some of my friends did that and it worked...

be friendly around school.
enough said, some of my best friends from college i made friends with just by being friendly around school. one time i was waiting for an interview and this girl sitting outside was doing a fashion hw taking pictures with her camera, then it ran out of batteries so i offered her to use mine and then i email her the pix. since then we've become good friends and kept in touch. this other time i was visiting my friend at a different dorm and i was wearing an "everybody loves an asian girl" shirt, and one of the resident came up to me and said she had the same shirt too. then we kept seeing each other at school and always said hi. then we just started hanging out and partied together. now she's one of my best friends...

i'm trying to list as many examples as possible of meeting people/making good friends outside the classroom setting. it IS very much possible!

[4th.ave.cafe]

^ the cliques at my high school were actually less clique-y hahaha :x but yeahhhhhh

Wow I wish the cliques here were more...uhm friendly?
Everyone keeps telling me that the cliques are hard to get into unless you make a new group of friends there...
My friend's sister says she didn't make any or much friends in freshmen year either...until she joined a sorority sophmore year...

I'm in two clubs actually, BUT....sometimes they hold things too late in the evening that I can't really go. I live half an hour a way by train. My mom would worry =_= unless I go with a friend...sigh.

I have met one or two that I would say hi to but that's about it. We're all just acquaintances and nothing more. I'm also the type that doesn't talk a lot to...new people so it's a bit odd. Although, OUTSIDE of school, haha, I've met some new people, especially people from my old high school because of potlucks. Which is a nice thing, but yeah, no one at my university yet (:

And study buddies! I don't know why but I can do without them O______O;; I've never had one...ever :x Like my friends and I...we all study alone...It's just odd to study together because I can't retain information that way...and I did well my first quarter too ^^; So...right now, no study buddies~