[simply korean]

well i've liked this guy for about a year and he knew the whole time

my friend has only talked to him for about two weeks and now they're going out, the main reason for this

she's prettier than me

and i feel like everything is my fault

i feel like it's my fault i'm ugly, my fault that i couldn't do anything about it

i know it's stupid

but my girl hormone is telling me that it's my fault

"duh of course he choose her, she's gorgeous"

that's what i'm feeling

i look in the mirror and go bleh more than usual

any idea on how to let this just go?

just start new?

[edit] the reason i know it's mostly looks is because, when a group of us had a conversation he said he didn't care about personality, he just
cares about looks. yes i know he actually said that. and he barely knows her. i mean they talked for 2 weeks and they've seen each other about 3 times in those
two weeks

well anyways i hope they're happpy

hwaiting to 2008 too all of you as well.

[Oscar The GolDfisH]

psssh.. i wouldn't like that guy..

if all he cares about is the looks then he's not worth it.. try to erase him of your mind by doing something else that doesn't relate to him..

good luck to you

[Kahzee =]]

Well you can't help that he's shallow, so it's obviously not your fault.

And if he only goes for looks he's not worth your time. =]

[wins]

He's a jerk. Forget him.

Just try and love yourself more, ok? I used to think like you before, until I changed things about myself (hair, weight, fashion, etc) and made me just obsess about myself. Who cares anyway. And doing so.. for some reason.. things just CHANGED! It became the opposite. He's the one chasing now. Hah. Indescribable. Its your life, do whatever u want.

GOODLUCK!! Best regards and wishes.

[xeunhee]

he's stupid and shallow.

but hey, remember in PROJECT: GET-BACK?

change yourself just a LITTLE bit and he'll be sorry he lost the chance :]

i'm sure you're as pretty or can be as pretty as your friend.

good luck!

[killthecandy]

you'll have to love yourself first before anyone can love you.
i think confidence plays a key too cause confidence is kinda magnetic. for me, at least.
goodluck!

btw, forget that superficial guy. you don't need him =)

[JENNiFER*]

to the above posters, i wouldn't assume that the guy is shallow. who said anything about the girl's personality?
the guy might not have approached the topic starter because she isn't his type; perhaps the girl he picked is.
just because the topic starter stated that the girl he's with is prettier than herself doesn't automatically make
the guy a stupid jerk who only cares about looks. that's quite a big jump there. anyway, don't feel bad about
yourself. he just wasn't the right guy for you & i'm sure you'll find another. forget about him & move on. (:

[addickshun]

it happened to me before
but it's me who's the pretty girl
we happened to be best friends too
it ended up.. pretty bad D:

[Big_Bang]

Try and not take this too hard. It does suck when the 'prettier one wins' but
there will be more guys on the way. And I'm sure there will be one
who thinks you're the most prettiest girl.

Don't go blaming yourself. It won't help.

[the;andro]

you'll find someone who's better one day, and trust me on that, you'll find someone who will love you the way you are, for looks for personality for everything you are. the someone is just out there somewhere, so don't be sad or coup yourself up in misery, you might just miss the opportunity to meet him or get to know him better. Go out there make new friends, hang out more with your old friends, who knows, you have guys falling on your feet and one of them - you fancy.

if you want to look better, (not that you're ugly) you can try buying some new clothes or putting some light make up? change your style or something, which also suits you, not something which is not you at all.

good luck

[beckii]

self confidence is the key...you cannot love someone else when you cant love YOURSELF...i know, because iv had no self esteem nor confidence and its really hindered me......love urself and believe in urself. sometimes the ones we want, arent for us!

[star@soompi.com]

People just need to except the heart...I bet he has his reasons for choosing her..dont feel down. But why would your friend date him..does she not know you like him? Oh well..do something fun go out more and you'll forget about him..hopefully..

[hippiehop]

How do you know that this is the reason? Maybe his and her personalities are more compatible... or she has the qualities he's looking for in a girl.... you don't know that. Of course if the girl is pretty that may be what you want to assume, but that don't mean mini cooper. There are plenty of pretty girls who have crappy personalities and are b-words....

[Jamila]

How do you know that this is the reason? Maybe his and her personalities are more compatible... or she has the qualities he's looking for in a girl.... you don't know that. Of course if the girl is pretty that may be what you want to assume, but that don't mean mini cooper. There are plenty of pretty girls who have crappy personalities and are b-words....

very true..you on the other hand shouldn't think it's your fault!
if you really think you're ugly..try and find your best feature and make it stand out..there has to be something standoutish about you , right?
say ..your smile..smile more and people may think you're a warm and confident person..
maybe this 'pretty' girl had more confidence than you.
you have to learn to like yourself before you can expect someone else to like you...I had to learn this too
an older friend of mine told me to tell myself I was perfect everyday then I'd start to believe it...at first I wanted to tell him to shut the fudge up..lol
but maybe it worked...
I no longer feel ugly, I think I'm pretty inside and out..lol
try it..maybe it can work for you too..

when you feel you're beautiful guys may start pilling up to talk to you and discover you have a great personality..so there! stop whyning..lol

Best of luck!

self confidence is the key...you cannot love someone else when you cant love YOURSELF...i know, because iv had no self esteem nor confidence and its really hindered me......love urself and believe in urself. sometimes the ones we want, arent for us!

yes yes I agree


I no longer need someone to tell me I'm beautiful..because I already know it! I hope you can make it to that point..along with many other girls..

[pacifical]

that really sucks - i mean, he knew her only for two weeks. if i were you i'd feel horrible about myself too

but if you think about it, would you change yourself to get your crush to like you? we all wish we could be prettier, skinnier, cooler... but it all comes down to the fact that you can't change who you are for someone else. sure you can try to improve your image, but unless it's only for your own benefit, you'd be living a lie trying to impress someone.

sorry this happened, but comes along a guy who will like you for who you are. this guy is not the guy for you. you've been liking a guy for a year, which is a long time, so i think you should start focusing on yourself from now on. quit wearing your heart on your sleeve - it's not attractive!

so good luck and i hope this helped

[Gellybeanx3]

I don't think he's shallow...it's very possible that you just weren't his type and he maybe saw something in your friend that he liked. He might like her personality, I'm pretty sure most people dont go out with someone JUST cause they are pretty. Not every guy you like is going to be the one for you, so you must have confidence in yourself and dont put yourself in her shadow like that. You probably have some amazing features that you're always ignoring or not noticing because you're too busy thinking about how she's prettier than you. And so what if she is? There is always going to be someone prettier, smarter, nicer, etc. than us, but that doesnt always make them better, and what matters is that you find a guy who doesn't care about the other someone and thinks your good enough just the way you are =]

and just a little side note...did your friend know that you like him? and did she ask/tell you before she went out with him? Cuz if she knew and didn't say anything to you, I really think you should have a talk with her or rethink how good of a friend she is.

[xTwilight]

Maybe stop thinking about looks. He might be looking at other things as well.
Not everyone is shallow.

You're only making things worse for yourself that way.

[x0_saturn_0x]

He's not worth it if he's only going after looks.
but if he's going out with her cuz he likes her personality as well, that's different.
But don't worry, I'm know that there's someone out there just for you that'll like you just as you are.
Don't change yourself just to please some guy.
=]
Good luck!

[Orchidy]

"If you don't like how you look change it."

Actually it's true, if the guy goes for look - which we are assuming - then he isn't worth your time. However, if you feel bad about how you look then think about what you can do to change that. For example? Well, if you think your cheeks is a bit bubbly cut your hair to make it less. If you think you are a bit chubby lose weight by exercising and eat healthy. It's not you change yourself for the person but actually change yourself to make you feel better and make that guy go wow wow on you.

Now if he goes for her personality then you can't help it. : ) Then again, maybe you are being too self-conscious with your looks. Sometimes guys like those who are more confident - not in a conceited way - and optimistic about life. : )

^ ^

[babyN_xxs]

You know what? You can't blame it on your looks. You know i use to go out with good looking guys and now i found someone who has the best personality makes me laugh, and yeah he isnt good looking but so what? Obviously this guy known u longer right? But he never choosed to ask you out, maybe your just not his type and you dont give him that special feeling, guys arent into the whole package. Im sure your friend makes him happy, you need to be a good friend and be happy for her.