Guest Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 This Whole Chris Brown & Rihanna Thing Has Got Me Speculating I know for me personally, I would never hit a girl esp. someone I care about, and fortunately, a girl has never hit me but in light of recent events ie the chris brown/rihanna drama i'm beginning to feel that abusive relationships are much more common than we all think... have you guys seen that video clip of Chris Brown on Tyra Banks vehemently speaking out AGAINST domestic abuse because his mom used to get beat by another man? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHkyv1oVjvE and here he is one year later doign the very thing he said he would never do...it seems to pass on from generation to generation the sons of abusive fathers seem to be likely to repeat their father's actions (although chris wasnt talking about his father) but still... i know that alot of asian parents still thikn that beating their kids is ok and alot of asian men and women from older generations still adhere to traditional conservative values of a mans place above a woman. so what are all of your thoughts on this? have u ever been with an abusive guy/girl? or do u know of someone who has? are your parents in abusive relationships? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chll51 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 My friend told me one of her ex hit her when they got into a heated argument awhile back. however, my friend's case a bit unique because she turned around the threw things at him and punched him after he hit her...so uh... it ended with her beating him and then breaking up with him. my parents are in an abnormal abusive relationship. they both just hit each other and curse each other out. i personally dislike violence. i think that no man should ever raise a hand against a woman unless the woman slap a man first, especially if he did nothing to provoke her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest KanyeWEST Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 if a girl makes me mad, i show her whos the boss and give her a black eye because thats what REAL men do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest erure Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I've seen a lot of cases where men get frustrated when they are having trouble communicating in fights and whatnot, and they end up exerting physical force, either by hitting the person or breaking things. In a way I guess I can understand their need to let out the frustration, but neither of the actions are acceptable to me. It seems like women abuse verbally and men abuse physically -- they're both bad but hitting the other person is just disgustingly low. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest cantthinkofaname Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 not literally but yeah i know someone my BFF during our high school years sometimes i wonder why she even stuck with the dude makes me want to slap her across the head for being so dumb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jaeka Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I hate hear cases of men hitting women. It's disgusting. I am so against it. If a man ever raised a fist towards me, I would seriously beat him to death. =P Then dump his richard simmons straight after. I find it odd how people persist to stay with their husbands/bfs when in abusive relationships. I can understand they're frightened... but sometimes they stay because they love them? I dunno, maybe I have too much pride. I've never been in abusive relationship, and if I end up in one, I'd certainly be abusive back then leave them. XD I don't know of anyone who's been in an abusive relationship either... thankfully. :] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest faerie87 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 abusive relationships aren't just physical! it can also be emotional! i don't recall anyone in particular in an abusive relationship...thank goodness but i myself, was in an emotionally abusive relationship. my ex called me stupid, b___, richard simmons, rainbow, swore a lot at me, said a lot of degrading things to me, tried to control me, manipulate me, lied to me. there was this one time when i found out he lied to me, so i was yelling at him in his own fraternity house about what he's done (cheated on me) and he hates losing face, so he grabbed me and kinda threw/dropped me to the ground (i'm pretty light and he's pretty strong) he felt really bad about it tho. there's also a couple times where he's pushed me or cornered me. but physical wise, that's about it. just a lot of screaming and yelling, and he's usually much meaner to me than i am to him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hodduk Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I dated this guy and I never really thought about it until after we stopped talking but whenever he would get drunk he would always shove me around, pull my hair, punch my head, and stuff but I always shrugged it off because he would always do it as kind of a "joke". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest une_fleur Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I really hope, when this all blows over, that Rihana will have the courage to come public, and become a public figure for this issue. I've gone through it, and it sounds naive, but I was shocked that it happened. The thing is, it can happen to anyone, celebrity or not. And I know that definitely for myself, it would give me a lot of strength if she spoke out on it. When she's ready of course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest miss_juicy Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 one of my close friends some what went through that when we were in high school but her bf did it in a sneaky way, a way that he himself didn't know it was abusive when they got in to fights or she pissed him off or even say something that he did not agree with... he would pinch her cheeks...sometimes one cheek sometimes both… like in a teasing but harsh way.... her cheeks would be rosy and in pain for a few mins but never bruised or anything She was confused if it was abusive or was it just something he did to shut her up? i don’t think her bf even knew he was on the verge of being abusive. But in my eyes if he cause you ANY pain physically in a regularly bases, it's wrong At the end I talk to him about it (bc we were frds too) and pointed out that his actions are heading him to have abusive behavior...(and I kind of threaten him a bit too) he had no idea and stopped, now they are going on strong and have been for 7+ years. if my bf ever laid a finger at me... i would prolly beat him up myself... and call it quits... even if i love him becuase love should never be painful in anyway!! on the other note chris brown is a dumb a$s and he's lucky he's so young because even if he goes to jail he can still make a come back... sad but true.... look at T.I and r kelly... both was in deep ish and they still making money. and RiRi... she'll be alright she'll makes songs about being strong and bank a million!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest GloomyPookie Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 I know of 2 cases actually... Why does everybody always think it´s men only who are abusive? My (female) cousin can be very abusive... When you know her from outside her house, she's sweet, social, funny etc. But.. pfff. She used to beat (kick him etc her ex boyfriend, while he never ever landed a finger on her. Always screamed at him. She hit her mother once... Her brother told me she also threatened him with a knife once. I don't know how she became so abusive. To me she's awesome although she can be bossy/mean though. I don't know what's wrong with her. Maybe she needs anger management. I hope she won't do anything to her new bf. And my best friend. Her ex used to beat her up. :fury: And she just wanted to stay with him. :S To me she was very desperate and naif to stay with him. I told her numerous times he was no good for her. It's good that he broke up with her! He broke up with her because they were both going to a foreign country for school and he didn't know if he could hold out. :S Riiiight he just wanted to hook up with other girls. She didn't see it that way. I'm glad it's through between them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sleepy213 Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 Nope..none of my friends or family are into those stuff. I personaly dont think I can hit a girl myself and I never did. For a person I care about..I would just bow down to her hahaha. Even when it comes to cheating..I would just break it off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Regina Rae Posted February 12, 2009 Share Posted February 12, 2009 if a girl makes me mad, i show her whos the boss and give her a black eye because thats what REAL men do. Hahaha ;D Thissssssss, made lol. Anyway, I have never been in an abusive relationship. But, I'm sure if I was with a guy, and he hit me, I would hit him back. So the abuse goes both ways. My sister was in an abusive relationship. She, never told anyone about it. She didn't have to really, because the whole family could tell. I don't know why, but we did nothing. My family is the kindof family where, if YOU don't open up about it, and YOU don't report it and leave his richard simmons, then...we don't care. My other sister was with an abusive guy as well. But this time, she was the one who started hitting him first. I guess he got sick of it, and he started hitting her back one day, hahaha. She didn't seem to mind, because..she beat him to, soooo. I guess, when the abuse goes both ways, then, it's okay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chilovesjj Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 He only bashes me in the face when he flails in his sleep lmfao On a more serious note... yes I did know someone in a horrible abusive relationship. ): But!! She left him several years ago, and she eventually met someone else, and is now getting married to a reeeally sweet guy later this year~! He's also quite a lot younger than her. XD They seem really happy I also had a friend with a boyfriend who never hit her physically, but had a terrifying temper. He'd get so mad and raise his voice and just keep screaming at her while she was like, curled up and crying hysterically T__T But she left him too. Also before you all judge Chris, people have been saying Rihanna was abusive to him as well from quite a long time ago, and that he only just lost it recently and fought back. I guess no one really knows what's been going on but them so.. yeah ^^; Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ミ★♫윤아♫ύ Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 I know one case. She only sticks with him with the hope that, "Maybe the nice guy is still deep down somewhere inside. Even if he hits me he still loves me so it's okay." I think it's pretty retarded. -__- Doesn't help that she completely refuses advice from her friends and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RenaRyu Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 It happened to me before..... but the stupider part was that he was actually one of my closest friends...=/.....He used to punch me really hard for no reason just because i touched something of his.... He stopped though....so its allgood.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sympathetic Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 My friend mhm.. they were an on/off relationship. She'd go begging to take him back and he would hit her and and punch her because she was 'annoying' She wasn't scared of him though.. hrm. She'd also cover him up and say that her mum hit her but in reality everyone knew her bf did. Well they're not together anymore. I don't think in the future she'd say that she was in an abusive relationship because she wasn't scared of him and she really did love him. Edit: The only time he'd hit her was when she kept begging for him back. That's basically the only time. But still, abusive relationships are a no-no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ShadowMax76 Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 i get why a guy might wanna hit a girl LOl... but. to actually do it is entirely different... self-control. if you don't have that. you're just another criminal. or..an unfortunate person pushed to his or her limits. ..i don't want to make it right by saying so, but i think there is always a situation where we will do the unforgivable... _ and it is our responsibility to fight against that fact as hard as we can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ninyaah Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 My grandma told me that when someone hits you once, the person will likely do it again. I've read before that people who are in an abusive relationship find it hard to let go of their partner (the one who beats them up). I forgot the explanation for it, but it's true. My best friend isn't really in an abusive relationship, but her boyfriend gets mad whenever she leaves the house, say, to hang out with us. It's been months since we last seen her. I dislike the guy, really. Me and my other best friend don't like him. That's why we don't hang out with my other best friend now because the guy's always there. He is so freaking possessive. He gets mad when my best friend doesn't seek permission from him when she goes out. I hate the fact that she's more scared with her boyfriend than her mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Malice X Innocence Posted February 13, 2009 Share Posted February 13, 2009 I know Friends who have been in one...... and friends that are in one at this moment ._. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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