[dulce<3]

Okay, so....
I'm generally/usually really confident with myself.
I know I don't have the best face, best body, etc. but I've learned to love myself for who I am.
I always tell myself that I'm not ugly, overweight, etc. because I KNOW I'm not.
But these days, I'm starting to feel myeslf being slowly stripped of my self esteem by other people.
I've been getting snide "fat" remarks from people lately. I'm not model skinny but I'm CERTAINLY not overweight or anything. If you need to know, I'm 5 feet and 115 pounds. I have a pretty healthy lifestyle, too.
I'm starting to get really sick of hearing things like "you're so fat, JUST KIDDING(when they're obviously not because they say it often)", "_____ wants to pick you up and see how heavy you are", etc. or when they pinch my fat or something. I hate how OTHER people think I'm fat when IIII don't think I am. The funny thing is, I get this from my asian friends(not all of them but like 3-4 of them) and not my white ones. They don't KNOW they're hurting my feelings because they say them in small ways, if you know what I mean. For example, they add "jk" which I guess makes them think it's all okay. I'm just really getting sick of this. Does anyone else experience this? I've tried ignoring but now it's definitely starting to take a toll on my confidence. I have no idea what to do anymore and I'm starting to get annoyed.

And I'm really sad because....
My situation is a very minor case.
There was a girl walking in front of me in the halls and a total stranger just called out "ew, a fat cheerleader".
If you look in the "Hurtful things people have said to you" topic, a lot of the replies talked about some harsh things. People are just so mean sometimes....

[juicylips]

aw totally get you, i was once in that stage before. just ignore it and have fun u kno, and if i was you i'd confront my friends and tell them theirs joke isnt funny. drop em or fight em haha

[sushiwhore]

o_O yah i get that all teh time.... still =o=

'fattie' 'hi ugly' "your fat is popping out" "thighs are jiggly"blah blah blah

o_o bothers me but meh got me more in teh 'eh' mood when i hear it =( i complain though still to my bf >>

[homiegina]

ugh, ohman! i can totally relate.
one of my closest GUY friend told me to "lay off the doughnuts" after not having seen me for about 5 months. i was perfectly fine with my body too, but it played on my self esteem becus:
#1. its coming from a guy and he's very honest
#2. he hadnt seen me in awhile so he could notice a few changes..
he said he was "sorry" but i made sure he fully understood how screwed up it was telling other peole stuff like that.

[aznbabe214]

dont worry i get called a fatty too. and im lol. i have a butt like jlo. just be happy that ur body is better than mine =] to raise ur self esteem just think of me. the asian with jlo's butt!

[clauric]

well my coworker friend had a horrible experience today..one of the customers was trying to call her by "fat girl, can u help me over here?"..

[gd-ise.]

i noe,
especially when they go like "no offence, but blah blah blah"

[helloPanda!]

wtf?

messed up. ):
if you're happy with yourself then good for you.



but if they're making your self esteem go down, then be like "eat more? anorexic ***" or be like "f- you *****, i'll sit on your face then see whos laughing"

i'd do that. (:








blegh thats kinda immature too though.. eghhh

[SOYM1LK]

"That isn't funny." GO ALL SERIOUS AND MAKE THEM FEEL BAD. They'll learn not to do it again. o:<

[Xingz]

my parents always call me fat -.- but i just associate the word with big boned haha

[eternal.happiness]

if you're really annoyed at these remarks, do something about it.
i mean, if you're honestly "a little chubby" or "this" or "that".
there are always ways to make yourself feel more confident.

[_ATELIER]

my parents said i look like i gained weight, and should watch what i'm eating,
i think it's cus they're so used to seeing me as skinny and in fit,
a little bit of weight is noticeable, it hurts my feelings too =( ...
anyways, like someone above stated, tell them you don't find it funny, even if it IS a joke.

[AMIbunny]

well. I know Im fat >_< eep. I'm 5'1" and i weigh like 122 around there.. T_T My best friend always plays around with me and calls me Hippo XD but Honestly, i dont mind when SHE jokes around with me like that o_o. iono why XD But when someone else jokes about it.... like my bf's friend.. actually i know he doesn't joke. He just says it. He says "you're so fat! why are you going to drink that??" ugggggh i wanted to slap him lol. *sigh... my bf jokes around about my fatness too... like at the movies, there was an AD of this Fat fat fat monster XD and he pointed and saiD "hey!! there's you!!" Ugh!

[mr. lovely]

Man, I hate it when people insult others like that. Not just because it hurts their feelings, but because it's a stupid thing to do. Who really has the nerve to say something like that when they're not perfect either? Sheesh.

i noe,
especially when they go like "no offence, but blah blah blah"

I really hate that. If they don't mean any offense, why mention it in the first place? Ajskdjfhaksjd.

[oohhlala]

my parents said i look like i gained weight, and should watch what i'm eating,
i think it's cus they're so used to seeing me as skinny and in fit,
a little bit of weight is noticeable, it hurts my feelings too =( ...
anyways, like someone above stated, tell them you don't find it funny, even if it IS a joke.

^i know how it feels
i try to ignore my parents
but it gets me..arrgghh!!
it's annoying

[OOOOO]

dude i totally know how u feel! except i get it from my famly T_T
my aunt even called me ugly
anywayss just ignore them some people just say that to mae themselves feel better, and seriously they are not ur friends if they says things like that

[kimchii]

aww i'm sort of in the same situation but opposite LOL
ppl always tell me how "skinny" i am but i (seriously, i wouldn't say that to flatter myself) am AT LEAST 10 pounds overweight
i feel like they're (mostly friends) trying to sabotage me in trying to lose the extra weight it's terrible to think like that but thats the message i get sometimes haha
yeah a lot of ppl make comments like that not in the derogatory sense but just playfully, so try to just ignore them lol it's hard but yeah haha

[BattleRoyale]

i've been through the lows. i was never really confident about myself to begin with because hearing remarks like "wow you're so skinny" "do you even eat?" "she's just skin and bones" were quite common - most of them were from my friends too. it really hurt me inside because they said it so casually but for me it was like another heavy rock that they were chucking at me. i never said anything though to stand up for myself :/ i just stayed quiet cause i was too hurt i guess ):

but whatever you know. i'm confident with myself now. that's other people's fault for being so critical and weatherproofing. i'll either ignore them or thank them sarcastically for pointing that out since i "obviously" didn't know it myself. just try to be comfortable in your own skin. if they annoy you, then tell them. if not then ignore them or just let those remarks slide by playfully agreeing with them and they'd drop it neutrally & you won't get any negative feelings - i read that in a book. apparantly it helps. don't let it get you down!

[SOYM1LK]

I remember how I used to go out shopping with two of my friends, and one of them would always be like "You're so skinny!" to the other girl, and I'd just be standing there thinking like, "So what am I?"

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[manly girls = mad cute]

be happy with your weight and face!!!!!!!!!