[hiphopislove21]

Okay..so I don't know about you guys, but have you ever had people mentioning your bad complextion or continuosly give advices to get rid of pimples, zits, etc. It�s okay if they�re just trying to help, but when they just always talk about it, I feel that it�s COMPLETELY unnecessary and they should seriously mind their own business. It almost feels that they�re trying to make you feel ugly or something..

So, I don�t have ridiculously bad skin complextion. As a sophomore highschool student, I get a few pimples here and there. So one of my �friend�s� mom always mention acne whenever I�m there && it�s seriously starting to piss me off. Her daugher (we�re somewhat friends..not too much) has better complextion than me, but her moms paranoid that she�d end up getting a lot of acne or something.

Today was Valentine�s Day and I guess her mom normally doesn�t let her eat chocolates since according to her, it causes breakouts/acne or whatever. Again, this topic deals with acne and she�s always talking about this kind of stuff when I�M THERE. Geez.. Honestly, mine�s not even that severe. I just get occasional breakouts like typical teens.

Another time, I overheard my �friend�s� mom that I have �turtle-like� skin to my mom. She also told my mom that she blends vegetable juice for her daughter in the mornings to prevent her from getting pimples. She told my mom that she should do it for me, too.

It�s not as if I don�t care about my complextion. I actually care A LOT about my skin. I�m use Pro-active, green tea, and masks (weekly) to make my occasional pimples go away and to prevent getting more.

Ugh. Did anybody else ever experience this before?

[clauric]

happened to me before especially since high school...i think it's more of my relatives who constantly talks abt it...i mean i don't mind, but sometimes they talk abt like it's the main topic of the conversation..ive felt like i wasn't doing anything on my skin to prevent acne...
but now that im in college n my face is acne free, my relatives would ask me what my secret was so they can tell their sons/daughters...

[addickshun]

i admit i'm one of those people who criticises

[NotFromThisPlanet]

i have had re-occuring breakouts ever since i was in grade school.
when people make comments about it i just want to scream in their face.
i have had people make fun of me before, and try to offer advice. the advice i dont mind so much because i know they are only trying to be helpful.
seriously though do they really think that i havent tried every product under the sun numerous times and tried prescriptions to clear my acne?
obviously, people dont want to have acne, and if there was a cure there wouldnt be a problem. <---thats what i want to yell at them

[Antz]

yeah.. my aunt wants me to remove my moles on my face. hmm.
she wants me to get laser mole surgery.

[`faded]

yes..I had pimples..AND I HAD eczema..it was bad @_@..people were recommending me all these things I'm like OMG!!! ..I mean I know they mean good but I ALREADY KNOW WHAT I NEED TO DO!!! so bad..and then one day I Went swimming in the ocean that was filled with salt water..and BAM my complexion was all better..I still get pimples here and there but I try to eat healthy and just like wash my face with the products that I think works pretty well now

[athirah_24]

my aunt always critises me.
i dont know if she paid way too much attention towards me or she just wanted to make me feel ugly by criticising me.

[KuYA II]

my relatives are always on my case about acne or my sisters. I get annoyed, but i became immune to it since they always talk about it 24/7.

[Maybelline Li]

i admit i'm one of those people who criticises

i really hated my friend after this one time i asked her is there anything on my face and she blurted acne and started roaring in laughter

[iitzjesss]

I have acne, but it's not too bad. I think the scars just make it look worst than it really is. I understand how you feel. I hate it when people point it out especially when you're around. I mean it's like "yes i'm aware i have bad skin, you don't have to point it out to me." My mom used to constantly do it, but I totally ignore her now. I don't see why they care so much since it's not their skin. geez! My mom is always like "well don't you want to be pretty?..blah blah.." It gets really annoying..=P

[be_mellow]

Man tell her it's a part of life not like she never got them before N years ago. Well I dont have a lot of pimples just a bit here and there and it comes out *coughs* when i eat spicy food *coughs*. You're still young. Try to drink more water and exercising which helps. Acne is a natural thing. Man if I were you i woulda cursed her out. My family used to say how I got a lot of pimples even if there's only a few on the cheeks or a big red spot on the nose. I would sayd "Look, the face is mine. So what if I like spicy food and chips. Life is eat it or lose it." Plshhhhh what rights she got to say u got turtle like skin. Her's aint anything better than snake's skin!

[manlytoe]

"HAVE YOU USED PROACTIVE?THOSE THINGS REALLY WORK, YOU SHOULD TRY IT..?"
PSH, I DISLIKE THEM JUST BECAUSE THEY HURT ME SO MUCH WITHOUT EVEN SAYING IT..
OH WELL, MY FACE IS PRETTY HIDEOUS SO I GUESS YOU CAN'T BLAME THEM RIGHT?

[bepiozo]

hmm i have pretty clear skin but my friend sprouts a big pimple here and there.... lol and we all have fun with it and give them names. The one on her nose is Frank because her boyfriend thinks it looks "masculine" and the one on her chin is Shannon or something.. haha

[nanshi]

I think I'm guilty of the reverse psychology version of this. But I also have pretty bad skin too (grrrr)...

Anyways, I'll do the opposite: "Oh wow! Your skin has gotten so clear!" Or "Wow you skin looks so good today!!" as in, I've noticed her bad skin, but I've noticed that it got better? Does that have the same effect on people? Because sometimes I get insecure when people go, "wow, you look so nice today." Uh because every other day I don't look nice?

[ART SCHOOL DROPOUT]

when i was younger i would occasionally break out...and whenever i did it was BAD.
[a bunch of little ones all over the forehead]

and everytime my little brother would say [in public especially]
"oh kendra, your pimples are sprouting again! they're huuuugeee!"

[shootingstarz]

why do acne have to exist!!!??? ahhhh

[SuparShell]

I don't know, as a long time sufferer of acne myself, I know how unsupportive many people can be (especially my own family, which wouldn't be healthy psychologically but I guess Asians don't understand that) -- even when they don't mean to be, you know?

But all in all, I say try not to stare or bring attention to it, because I always hate when people do that. And don't go out of your way to try and "help" them, because honestly, an acne-sufferer is bound to already be more educated on the topic as the people criticizing them are.

Some people might thing phrasing their words "nicer" will help, and sometimes it does, but for me and many others I know -- It just makes us feel all the more out-casted and different than others. You know? Acne shouldn't ever be tacked onto someone's personality or character or anything.

Treat people like people. Treat them like you would treat any other person, with or without acne. When the topic accidentally somehow does come up, don't make a big deal out of it. Don't twitch out, change your tone or be all concerned about offending them.

And this can go for things other than just acne too, like eczema or hyperpigmentation, etc.

[__CHINA.DOLL]

Awww.. i know how you feel T_____________T; sometimes the people that love you the most, hurt you the most.. which really sucks. i dont know if they do it on purpose.. but it still HURTS..

i personally have REALLY REALLY bad skin, for so long now since i hit puberty it has never stopped, which really sucks because everyone around me has such nice skin, and when Im looking at their face it makes me feel so jealous and DOWN..
i hate it when i'm so stressed and mention that my skin is SO bad and they would go " no, its not THAT bad " they think that makes you feel better, but honestly it doesn't <___________<

i know everyone judges everyone, and id be a hypocrite if i say we should stop because honestly i judge people when i first meet them too, but honestly i would never call someone ugly or whatever just because they have bad skin, because number 1 i have no rights to judge people because i myself am not perfect, and i always say this but even if you see a person that is not attractive in your eyes no matter if its a boy or a girl, they will have something that makes them more fortunate then you are, either intelligence, body , hair etc .. i often see people with great skin judging people with not so great skin, and honestly it sucks because they dont know how much WE hurt.. we dont want the skin we have and we do SO much to get beautiful skin, but some people are just born with it.. which totally sucks T___________T;

[_ATELIER]

i had such bad acne, one of my 'classmates' (not necessarily a friend or a stranger...just a classmate) would point out my acne and go " did you realize your acne is noticeable?" and he makes it sounds like i have severe acne or something. to tell ya the truth i didn't just sit there and smile... i kinda bashed him back for being a fatty, but w/e works right? soo much better then punching him in the face and risking myself
anyways, i hate people like that, keep it to yourselves if you dont have anything nice to say.

[CitrusFlower]

happens to me all the time, people wonder why my self-esteem is low because of my pimple but seriously those who have clear face say its no big deal but how the heck do they know?when i see people complaining about a bump that you cant even see unless you feel it i want to punch them. i'm very sensitive when it comes to my pimple so anytime someone talks about it i just tell them to shut the john tesh up and if it's an adult i role my eyes