[paggie]

i have to choose between the college close to home or the one away from home.

if i stay at home, my parents say that they will help me but that college doesn't have my major.

if i go away, my bf is never going to trust me and he'll keep reminding me of how i don;t care about our relationship. but the college away from home has my major.

my parents and my bf only want me to stay at home for them, they never think about what i need...

WHAT TO DO???

[RaIn33]

You should pick the one that will be best for YOU in the future, not them. It's no use satisfying their wants if it's not helping you at all. College is important step when you decide on your future career. So, I would suggest you choose the college that will benefit YOU.

[roguechinadoll]

1. If you really want to go to that college, then go. If it's a matter of money, then find a part time job and maybe take out some loans or find scholarships.
2. Your bf sounds insecure. If he has that little confidence in you, then you two probably gonna break up sooner or later.

[eliteninja]

do what's best for you, not them
it's your future and your family/bf should understand that

[suju sarang]

i agree with RaIn33 i say just go to the college that has your major..i know its gonna be hard for you because of your bf but it will be better for you in the future..

[watcher]

how sure are you of your major? do you have any other options for school? the average college student changes major several times. it's good to have the option, but odds say that you'll switch eventually. the question is whether this major is a dream that you've wanted to chase in a long time, and whether you feel you can make it to the top within this field.

don't think about it in terms of 'me vs the rest.' you are important, and the people you love are important too. think outside of the box and see if you can come up with other solutions. good luck

[Gackt]

If you're absolutely certain you don't want to switch majors, go to the college which has what you need. Don't throw away your future career because your boyfriend has trust issues.

[t1ffiexp]

Don't stay at home just because of your boyfriend. It might sound harsh, but you guys will probably break up sooner or later if he can't trust you. Choose what's best for you - does the college close to home have something close to your major? Do you get homesick a lot? etc.

[MangoStar]

Do what's best for you! This is your career, not your parents and especially not
your boyfriends. If he can't trust you, you two need to reevaluate your relationship.

My mother doesn't want me to go so far for college either and I understand why, but
I feel like I need to do this for me and to assert my own independence. Among other things.
It would be better now for your parents to let go of your hand now than later.

[itrayya]

is your bf gonna help you pass college?
is he gonna do all the work for you?
and if you fail, will he get the degree for you?

you have to consider yourself first.

you want to look back and see what?

will you be happy? IN YOUR HEART.
and that's not cheesy saying, it's true.

ive been there done that and until this day, i have no regret my decision.
i can sleep at night knowing i did what was best for me and my family.

think, hard work, in the long run,
will benefit you, your parents and your bf.

think long term too.
short term, but long term.

GOOD LUCK.
take care.

[thislove]

I really think u should think for yourself. It's ur future that's going to get affected not ur parents or bf. If ur bf can't be supportive of u going far away saying he doesn't trust u, I don't think he's worth keeping then.

[kirra12]

your boyfriend isnt your husband who can order you around.
and im sure if he really is a carin boyfriend will trust you enough and all.
tell him that you are glad he thinks alot about you,
but you need to have some space to at least chase your dream.

n yer parents, idk bout that. it all depends on what you are majorin in.

*doesnt help any bit T>T9

[imyoursweetheart]

do what you what will make you happy not what will make others happy. first, you should consider yourself first and besides, once you're happy with your decision, im pretty sure that they'll be happy for you too. its hard doing things for others especially if you're not willing to do it. it will give you a very very very hard time. it will affect you and your life. one wrong move can ruin all your plans. so why depend on others? well, my point here is that, i think, you're old enough to decide for yourself and this is the first step to make you more independent. this is a tough decision but you really have to think carefully on what path would you like to take.

[Lebanese_Blonde]

if your relationship can't handle distance then it's not worth it. and part of going to college is to experience life parents-free.

[hellotiffy]

if your relationship can't handle distance then it's not worth it. and part of going to college is to experience life parents-free.

what she said. i couldn't have said it better myself.
seriously, let's be realistic here. you're not going to live at home for the rest of your life. your parents and boyfriend need to realize that. your career is more important than anything so don't let these small factors affect your future.

[emc123]

i was in a similar situation and i chose the college away from home. and to be truthful i don't know if i made the right choice. i have the major i want but i'm paying lots more (out of state tuition) and there's less support here. motivation, focus, etc. its all on me and nothing to really hold onto when i'm tired. the experience has been great and i am pretty happy that i came here but at the same time i wonder if it's worth it. i dunno. choose what you feel is right.