[boa808]

I'm posting this here because I hope to receive more mature responses.

So, I like this girl that I have never talked to before. Why we haven't talked.. let's just say I'm dumb and shy. But if given another opportunity, I would really try to talk to her..

Anyway, we had two classes together. But now, unfortunately, I don't see her anymore. And sometimes when I tell people about this girl, they say, "how can you like a girl when you never talked to her. You just like her looks." Well, I don't know who's right. But I know that I have feelings for this girl, and I almost go nuts sometimes just thinking about her. Like in the past couple of days, there were two instances where I thought I saw her, but I didn't get a good enough look. And I'm going insane wondering if those girls were actually her or not. Yeah, she is definitely a beautiful girl, but there's more than that, at least from my point of view. Some people tell me, "well you never talked to her so you don't even know what kind of person she is." Well, that's certainly true. But I guess what I'm trying to say is, I liked what I saw about her when I had class with her. She seemed nice. She seemed dorky. She seemed kinda sporty. She seemed like a girl who doesn't party a lot. She seemed smart/studious. She seemed to be friendly, outgoing, and fun to be around. These are all things I look for in a girl and I imagine that these traits belong to her based on her behavior in and out of class, whenever I saw her. Of course I don't know for sure that she's that kind of person. But being around her for a couple of months, that's the impression she left me with, and that's why I like her. That and just the plain old feeling you get when you like someone. I mean, it's kinda hard to explain. It's just something you know if you've felt it before I guess..

So yeah, I don't know why people are telling me that I don't like this girl, or that I like her for her looks, when I know that I do like her and that she is someone special to me. And like I said earlier, she is definitely very pretty. And I see many good looking girls on campus every day. But I can't say that I've ever liked any of them. And trust me, I really do see a lot of them around.

So yeah. What do you guys think. Can you like someone without talking to them? Feel free to tell me if you think I'm wrong and I don't really like her. But please explain why.

[rromeo]

I said yes, but I think its more infatuation than really "liking" them.
Honestly, you can IMAGINE all of those traits that she may or may not have, but you really don't know for sure since you haven't talked to her. You really should just go up and talk to her if you see her again. Be like, "hey, we had a few classes together..what are you majoring in?" Like there have been a few times where I see a guy and I'm like, "oh my gosh he is gorgeous" and I'd definately want to see them again, but I don't consider it liking them...but there is always love at first sight. I dunno if my input helped at all or not..sorry if it didn't

[Xiaoba1tu]

Yep liking the person but never talked to them is based on looks only.
It's just like 'oh he's hot..'
That's it.

It is just like you are in the whole fantasy land thing.

If you talk to her and she is not close to what you expected, you will get over her fast.
You will hit reality and stop thinking about this stranger.

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I guess some guys would read this and go: 'Gee, just go and talk to her already!'

[jello24]

yeah you can like someone based on looks alone, but some people call that shallow.

if you want to like someone without talking to them based on their personality, to see that personality you have to do something called "stalking"

[fabrications.]

If you think about it, in a way you have talked to her.
You know who she is and what kind of personality she has.

Maybe jello is right. Maybe you were stalking her without knowing it. LOL. =)
You should put "in the middle" on the poll. Haha.

[0HMi_M0CHi]

i think you do like her and its beyond her looks. but at the same time, i think you're having feelings for her too strong based on such a vague understanding of her. it makes sense though. when you see someone who looks like your ideal person in every way, you almost wanna convince yourself that they actually are in every other aspect.

i'd say you're getting yourself too worked up if you're never going to approach her. or just keep daydreaming if that's what you like lol.

good luck :]

[kim_sienna]

you know i've been in the same sort of situation as yours. it was way back 2004.. i met this guy in our school orientation he's one of the speakers.. like that.. to cut this short i don't talked to him personally but we do exchange messages in friendster. i think it's up to 4 messages then. but since then i like him until now but not that strong though..

[agiri]

I don't think you necessarily have to talk to a person to know what type of person they are. If you've seen her and been around her for long enough periods of time to have a grasp on what type of person she is -- I don't see why not!

I, for one, fall for a person's mannerisms first since I observe people before I even go up to talk to them.

It's perfectly possible.

[j1youngxj3]

i say no because what you're liking is the empty shell of the person...which is filled with things you think are true about the person. you may think she's like this or that..but then you start talking to her and getting to know her..then you're so confused because she's not what you thought she was..blah blah blah..all that stuff..so i think you can only like someone if you truly know them

[miridia]

Dude, why is this in the college students section? LOL. I was like...oohh...what?

xD Anyway, I think it's possible. :) Though feelings will definitely change if you get to know her more and actually talk to her. You'll either like her even more or totally run away because she's not the person you thought she was. And note, you know this person's personality in a certain situation, hence you like her because of her personality and of course, looks. :) It's not like we just sit around, see someone pretty and instantly think, "I like him/her" unless you're really that shallow. But because you examine so-and-so's personality and make assumptions, you can definitely like. Though, yeah...shouldn't love until you talk to her and introduce yourself. Don't hit on her though. That's lame.

Friends first. OKAY?


DUUUDDEE...it's just like us liking celebrities. Isn't infatuation the same as like? Dude...what is the definition of 'like'? I've never talked to the sky before but I like it. I've never talked to my computer but I like it. Like...wtheck? You don't have to talk to whatever things/persons to know whether or not you like them. It's gut feeelliinngg. Or rather, heart feeling? No wait, that's love.

[pepprmint]

i dont see why its not possible
its very easy to see the type of person someone is just by looking at how they act and react to the situations around them, and who their friends are, how they act with their friends, etc.
just think about, if you saw her act like a b**** towards people, would you still like her? if not, that means some of her personality does matter, so its not completely an infatuation

[bigfatkelly]

Yes, it's happening to me right now!

[klx13]

i say no because what you're liking is the empty shell of the person...which is filled with things you think are true about the person. you may think she's like this or that..but then you start talking to her and getting to know her..then you're so confused because she's not what you thought she was..blah blah blah..all that stuff..so i think you can only like someone if you truly know them

^ totally agree

You like what you know of them, but once you get to know them, they may be completely different. People don't always act the same way in public as they do in private. You can't ever really know another person until you have a conversation with them and spend time with them. Who knows? Someone who seems like a sweet fun person in the brief moments you see them may turn out to be extremely selfish or self-centered or annoying when you spend hours and hours with them (or vice versa-- someone seems bad when you first meet them but they turn out to be the opposite).

[hippiehop]

Maybe when I was in elem school.

[ajlee613]

someone you've never talked to. you like the idea you created in ur own mind when u think of that person based on what you have observed, but in the end. everything u've seen could have been a misunderstanding on your part, and all of the nice things could have been meant to be cruel. all of the smiles and laughs could be used to hide a suicidal drug abuser. you like her if she is wat you expect her to be, but u dont like her. u like the idea u get w/e u think of her.


its possible that when u talk to her, u'll hate her. its happend many times to many people. but some ppl are pretty easy to read. so she might be exactly as u imagined with ur educated guess.

but as of right now. u dont like her, cuz u dont even really know her. she is mysterious and u are curious. she is cute and u are attracted.

everything other then the setting and the outer skin is a complete mystery to you.



u can go in deeper to confirm ur feelings, just dont be disapointed if she is not wat u expected. lets say because of ur prejudgement u ask her out really fast when u 2 first connect. she turns out to be a horrible gf and when u leave her she gets depressed and u ruin her life, while adding drama to ur own, witch kills ur grades causes family problems etc.

for example in every situation. i dont claim to really know someone, unless they are right there. right now. cuz they could have went thro some kind of change over night, some enlightening expirence that recreates their character.

now because of a positive or negative prejudgement on that person. if they change they will have an advantage over me. abusing gained trust, or respect.

dont be surpirsed when the unexpected happens. have the possibility rooted deep within your mind. and accept the risks before you enter.


other then that, good luck bud. just dont rush in to fast. relationships have a life span. the faster u move the faster it'll die of old age. but if u dont move at all. it will die of sickness.

[Sarita]

i vote for yes
because i'm living this situation
i like person but i can't tell him i like u
so it's a little bit hard but this is my destiny

thanks alot for this topic

[kween x jenn]

^ totally agree

You like what you know of them, but once you get to know them, they may be completely different. People don't always act the same way in public as they do in private. You can't ever really know another person until you have a conversation with them and spend time with them. Who knows? Someone who seems like a sweet fun person in the brief moments you see them may turn out to be extremely selfish or self-centered or annoying when you spend hours and hours with them (or vice versa-- someone seems bad when you first meet them but they turn out to be the opposite).

Agree with her too. I think you could be extremely interested and all, but when it comes to liking that person... you have to know their personalities and who they are before it comes to that point, from what I believe.

[baoi]

yes! I looooove actors and actresses for the way they are on TV..


i love Ulzzangs, never really met one, but yeah.



and when my friend talks nicely about someone i DO NOT know.. and always talks nicely about that person, even though i don't know what he she looks like i still like him/her beacuse my friend does... and vice versa.

[Miyavichan88]

I voted yes. I think I almost had a similar experience.

Last semester there was someone that was in my class that I never talked to. I had a feeling that I really wanted to get to know that person...but I didn't know why and couldn't explain it. It wasn't because of looks...I was suddenly very curious to find out what kind of person he was. My friend told me that there was nothing to lose and that I should just talk to him...

So I did. And he was very different from what I thought he would be like, but in a good way, and I enjoy being around him even more.
I think it may just be a crush at first until you get to know her, regardless of how she looks
...I don't know. These are just my two cents on the topic.

[vancy]

wow im surprised a 80% chose Yes
it's true that i have fallen for boys that i didn't talk to much, but the question here is Never Talked.
A love like that for me is like for celebrities when you never talked to the person but you admire their talents and looks and personality. But other them that, i don't think you can really like someone fully if you never talked to them.