[supertammie]

I've been dead-set on majoring in international business and learning Japanese/Korean/Mandarin to work for a multi-national corporation.

My uncle, however, is dead-set against it. I'm the "smart" one in the family and his only hope to be the doctor. I've decided on the college I want to go to (not the best one in the state), but it is where -I- want to go.

The reason why I chose this college is because I know for a fact that I will be able to get a full tuition. My dad's a gambler and has gambled away my entire college savings. I know I can't depend on him for everything, so I've taken steps to make myself more independent. My uncle, however, is certain that I will fail. Why? Because my older sister did.

"She's three times as smart as you, and she failed. That's why I know you will too."

It f-ing pissed me off. Firstly, I am not my sister. Secondly, what we're doing are two completely different things. Thirdly, I'm as stupid enough to invest five years in a so-called "up and starting company." I'd f-ing go for the solid ones.

I know going for business is risky, but I've thought and planned things out. If I fail (which I will not let myself do), I still have my language background to fall on.

If I REALLY fail, I'd be okay with it because I'd rather fall flat on my face chasing after something I really want than to sit on a fat wallet with a secure future.

Do any of you soompiers have the same problem?
Does/do your family/friends not support your dream?

[dancingbymyself]

My mom wanted me to study Industrial Design so me and my brother could have matching degrees (Hes a mech eng). I want to study Art Management. I just told her no lol.

[hellotiffy]

my mom wants me to be a pharmacist, but she still supports me in whatever decision i make. my dream is to major in art because it's been my passion my whole life (but i'm doing business/econ :/ ). if my career turns out to be business advertising/marketing, my life will be complete

[cbxjenn]

my mom wanted me to do business, and i wanted to do culinary.
im doing business. :\

[kaelum]

my mom wanted me to take up medicine, I told her no but her decision is firm.
its either i take up medicine or i will stop studying.
i just go with her decision. I don't want to stop studying.
I'll just take up fine arts after i graduate.
good thing, i'm still young XD

[Kang1004]

I've been dead-set on majoring in international business and learning Japanese/Korean/Mandarin to work for a multi-national corporation.

My uncle, however, is dead-set against it. I'm the "smart" one in the family and his only hope to be the doctor. I've decided on the college I want to go to (not the best one in the state), but it is where -I- want to go.

The reason why I chose this college is because I know for a fact that I will be able to get a full tuition. My dad's a gambler and has gambled away my entire college savings. I know I can't depend on him for everything, so I've taken steps to make myself more independent. My uncle, however, is certain that I will fail. Why? Because my older sister did.

"She's three times as smart as you, and she failed. That's why I know you will too."

It f-ing pissed me off. Firstly, I am not my sister. Secondly, what we're doing are two completely different things. Thirdly, I'm as stupid enough to invest five years in a so-called "up and starting company." I'd f-ing go for the solid ones.

I know going for business is risky, but I've thought and planned things out. If I fail (which I will not let myself do), I still have my language background to fall on.

If I REALLY fail, I'd be okay with it because I'd rather fall flat on my face chasing after something I really want than to sit on a fat wallet with a secure future.

Do any of you soompiers have the same problem?
Does/do your family/friends not support your dream?

wow that must be so awful!! I am in the same situation, where they think you can't make it! Well I actually love when it happens cause it just pushes me to work even harder to achieve my goal!!! ^^

[kathy]

I'm an english major with a psychology minor.

My parents wanted me to be either a doctor or a lawyer, but i can't stand the sight of blood & i don't enjoy law as much. Since I'm pretty much paying for college myself, I basically told them that it's my life. If I mess up, they won't have to deal with it cause it was my ultimate decision in the end.

[supertammie]

It seems that the stereotype of asian parents wanting their kids in law or medicine is (for the most part) true.
=p
how do ya'll deal with the criticism?

[everythingxxelse]

i suppose i'm lucky here..
my parents support me, as long as i finish university... haha
but i wanted to go to a Bible college, but my dad gently said no, finish university first.. etcetc.
But they've also made it clear, they'll suport me whatever i choose later on, as long as i fin university first (any major)
so for now i'm leaning toward geography major!

[<3 Kim]

My mum is still against me studying my course I think... I'm studying Science/Commerce double degree and it's what I want to do. She wants me to study Pharmacy, but I already changed my mind on that (where i live, it's SO easy to make it into pharmacy now and standards have dropped so much ). I refused to study Pharmacy though and the university I'm going to is the best in my area, so she just gave up tryign to persuade me

[cavil.]

Just go do what you want. Life is about successes and mistakes.

[Piscesgrl389]

well being filipino my parents wanted to me go into nursing
but i decided to go as a biology major planning on getting my masters on PA.
i been in college for 2 years and my dad still makes it a point that i should have just done nursing
then i would be half done blah blah blah. He actually told me to take a semester off to figure out
what i want to do in life, and while iam at it take get my RN. =.= My sister is nursing and i swear they worship her with her
2.9 GPA while here i am a dean lister, and it still seems like im the child who has taken the
path for failure. Its really annoying but, them not really supporting what i want to do makes me want
to strive harder and prove them wrong.

[rubyx]

I'm an English major. I've never changed my major since I applied fr college yet my parents still act as if I haven't chosen a major. I think they're just blocking it out. In fact, I don't even think they approve of me learning English.

Anyway, my dad always tells me that I need to learn something useful or whatever. Well, he's wrong. There's no guarantees in life. The most important thing to do is to study what you like, because you'll be able to achieve in it.

As for you situation, go ahead and study whatever you want. You have you tuition taken care of. You're independent!

My brother was a history major in college and he went to law school and my dad was dead set against it. But now he's a lawyer and has lots of money so everything is okay. I think the only thing Asian parents care about is money.

[Kang1004]

There's an article kinda about this subject, really interesting.


http://oncampus.macl...linda-franklin/

[halcyondays]

well both my parents wanted me to go into the medical or biotech field and i was dead against it. still am. im majoring in political science and economics now and all they can say is that they really hope i can get a job. which is basically what im worrying about too but they dont need to know that.

[Mellorine]

Why is your uncle all up in your business anyways? O.o

[supertammie]

i suppose i'm lucky here..
my parents support me, as long as i finish university... haha
but i wanted to go to a Bible college, but my dad gently said no, finish university first.. etcetc.
But they've also made it clear, they'll suport me whatever i choose later on, as long as i fin university first (any major)
so for now i'm leaning toward geography major!

that's awesome! i wish you the best

My mum is still against me studying my course I think... I'm studying Science/Commerce double degree and it's what I want to do. She wants me to study Pharmacy, but I already changed my mind on that (where i live, it's SO easy to make it into pharmacy now and standards have dropped so much ). I refused to study Pharmacy though and the university I'm going to is the best in my area, so she just gave up tryign to persuade me

*sigh
parents and pharmacy... the pharmacy schools where i live are chock-full

Just go do what you want. Life is about successes and mistakes.

that's what i'm trying to do, but i'm getting incredibly tired of his criticism

well being filipino my parents wanted to me go into nursing
but i decided to go as a biology major planning on getting my masters on PA.
i been in college for 2 years and my dad still makes it a point that i should have just done nursing
then i would be half done blah blah blah. He actually told me to take a semester off to figure out
what i want to do in life, and while iam at it take get my RN. =.= My sister is nursing and i swear they worship her with her
2.9 GPA while here i am a dean lister, and it still seems like im the child who has taken the
path for failure. Its really annoying but, them not really supporting what i want to do makes me want
to strive harder and prove them wrong.

ahh that's what i've been doing all this year, studing my languages harder
i've gotten a lot better at reading/writing hangul
my dad swears i'm making it all up when i do though
incredibly frustrating...

I'm an English major. I've never changed my major since I applied fr college yet my parents still act as if I haven't chosen a major. I think they're just blocking it out. In fact, I don't even think they approve of me learning English.

Anyway, my dad always tells me that I need to learn something useful or whatever. Well, he's wrong. There's no guarantees in life. The most important thing to do is to study what you like, because you'll be able to achieve in it.

As for you situation, go ahead and study whatever you want. You have you tuition taken care of. You're independent!

My brother was a history major in college and he went to law school and my dad was dead set against it. But now he's a lawyer and has lots of money so everything is okay. I think the only thing Asian parents care about is money.

I used to want to be an english major. I realized after a while though, that although I'm good at writing, writing isn't my passion.
Is English not your first language?

There's an article kinda about this subject, really interesting.


http://oncampus.macl...linda-franklin/

ahhaha ><! "obay"
that's really funny, but also really sad

well both my parents wanted me to go into the medical or biotech field and i was dead against it. still am. im majoring in political science and economics now and all they can say is that they really hope i can get a job. which is basically what im worrying about too but they dont need to know that.

i worry about the same things too
i know i'll have to move far away, but i'm willing to work hard for what i want

Why is your uncle all up in your business anyways? O.o

i guess 'cause he says he says he "Went for what he wanted" and he's still in school
he swears that no one would hire me because i'm asian 'cause that's what happened to him

[mistahkimchi]

I wanted to major in political science and go further into International Relations and hopefully DIPLOMACY however my parents are sort of "iffy" about that idea. They said that finding a job is going to be hard, you have to be good at it to make alot of money. Yeah, i'm all about the money but then my dad goes "be a doctor, just do it" and i said no. So to compromise i think i'm going to end up double majoring in Biology and Political Science... bio since pre-med and polysci would be MURDER.

[stevenn go rawrr]

awww :< my parents raised me so that the best thing in life is becoming a doctor. i guess they raised me like that so that they don't have to deal with any conflicts when i'm deciding what i want to be when i'm in college. it's okay because now i'm truely passionate about genetics and diseases, but i wish i could have the chance to explore other paths like business (like my brother), art, history, etc. but i don't think your uncle's opinion should matter to you because it's your life. you don't want to end up with a career that you don't like because it'll make you unhappy and regretful for the rest of your life. not to mention the bitterness towards your uncle for putting you through this.

[brian032]

I have a question. Why do your relatives think that international business is such a bad thing? I mean it's pretty much the same thing as a business degree. At worse, if you don't drop out, you'll be working in a comfy little office.My parents love and don't care about what I'm doing, and I'm an international business major too, except with German, Spanish, and French as my languages. Kind of lost interest in Asian languages over the years.