[InYourPants]

Okay so I didn't get into any colleges as a senior in high school so im at community college right now. My friends from high school came back from school and we all had lunch together one day. THing seem different. They only seem to have fun when theyre partying or something. Did anyone else feel so separated from their friends? Because when everyone got back I felt like a different person...to be honest, I don't really like some of my old buddies. so someone help me out. did i change? did THEY change? can you change that much in one semester of college?

[violacrazy]

It's possible that some do change, especially when they dorm.

They learn to be "independent."

[yeuthuong]

i guess i can relate. i hadn't seen my friends for over a semester. but it seems like they've gotten into partying too. i was talking to one of my good friends from high school and after school gets out she wants me to come to a hotel party that they were thinking about having. and i don't really like going to parties. but i just think we're all changing because we're being exposed to a new environment..

[thislove]

^Agree!!! My friends were like tat too!!! I went away to college and when winter break came around I came back and we hung out and everything. Except tat things aren't the same anymore, they talk about their school life since they all go to the same college and I'm the odd ball went away to college. I felt out of place too but u have to understand tat's how ppl are. They tend to talk bout things familiar to them. I guess I've changed too not just my friends. I don't get to hang out with my old buddies from high school alot anymore and now they all kind of bonded together partying or wat not and I'm doing my own things now. Now and then we talk but its quite different now. We're not close anymore

[xstarBURST]

I can relate with you, except i can't stand talking to my high school friends. I don't know if it's because I can't use big words around them or its just they found interests of their own =/

['Noche.]

For some of my high school friends, seeing them again was awkward, we didn't really have much to talk about.

But for my closest high school friends.. even though we've only seen each other a couple times a year since high school, it feels like nothing much has changed.

However, of course you can change that much in one semester. Both your and their daily lives are different. You hang out with different people and get influenced by different things.

[fROSTY.MINt]

The first semester or year of college will probably create one of the most fast-paced changes in a teen's life. It's inevitable. Whether it's good change or bad change, change is gonna happen. There are of course those few people with crazy self-control that remain true to themselves, but I'm sure they too experience at least some kind of change. It seems like the college students who attend school in a different city/state are the ones most likely to change. They're in a new environment, surrounded by new people, and suddenly feel the rush of being free from parental restrictions. They'll try new things and explore for a while, but that's what college is all about. It helps you shape who you will or will not become. Most will wander during first year and then slowly find their place as they settle in. Try not to be too disappointed or discouraged by your changed friends. Give them some time. If it's a really good friend of yours, you'll see the good in him/her and keep them in your life. The best thing about true friends is that no matter how long you've been away, when you meet up with them, everything just naturally starts off from where you left off. If a friend changes so much to the point that you no longer want to be his/her friend, then the only thing I can say is "Everything happens for a reason." You can try talking to them and tell them how you feel, but that doesn't always work. So it's kind of like that saying that goes "You'll lose some, and then you'll gain some." That's just the way life is. "The only thing constant in life is change."

[janers]

i think u all changed. when ur in highschool, u see ur friends everyday and everyone is chummy.
but once ur out of highschool, ppl really get a chance to be independent and most ppl only keep a few good friends from hs. u realize u don't need to see the same ppl, or act a certain way.
maybe they are just caught up in living the good college life. college is either bout being super studious and doing good, or partying. ppl can change. give it some time so ppl settle down into the college life and maybe u guys will re-find ur bond as good friends. if not, then its time to find some new friends who have similar interests or are at the stage in life ur at.