[heylove]

I've seen multiple places where people say "don't room with your friend/someone you already know etc etc." I can't seem to wrap my head around why it's such a bad idea. I don't think rooming with your friend will ruin your chances of meeting new people, is there some other unwritten reason?

[josebiwasabi]

lets just say its very different LIVING with a friend than seeing them at school. a lot of times they'll have habits that you didn't know about that will really end up annoying you and can ruin your friendship.

on the other hand, some people room with people they know and end up loving it.

[cyberfruit]

Because as the old saying goes, "you truly don't know a person until you live with them." Your best friend that you've known since conception could turn out to be everything you never wanted in a roomate. You want peace and quiet, she wants everything loud. You prefer to keep your stuff to yourself, but she thinks that sharing is caring and sees no problem in helping herself to your deodarant/nail file/razors/etc without asking.

In the end, living with a friend can either make or break a relationship. Why risk loosing your best friend over something as trivial as the toliet paper facing up or falling down, when you can avoid the situation in its entierty?

[itrayya]

*GASP*


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it's because like the the previous posts said.
you really dont know someone until you live with them.
trust us.
i mean... yah, it might be koolios the first few days,
but after while, you see their real side of living.

true story:
two of my good high school friends lived together for their freshman year in college,
now, they are like..... cold and hot. dont mix too well.
because one is inconsiderate.
of course she wasnt like that when you just see her everyday and not living with her,
but once you live with people, they get comfortable and become their true self.

IF your friend and you are truly nice and truly great together, it's possible.
not all cases are bad, but the majority of them are.

it's up to you. sometimes you have to live it to believe it.
or live it to prove people wrong, right?

i really do wish the best for you.
im sure things will go fine, as long as you two are compatible.
patience, understanding, consideration, and space everynow and then are needed too.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
take care.
you'll be fine. positive thinking.

[xxReminisce]

I think its better to room with a friend than a complete stranger. At least you know their habits and their personality. And you also trust them more than a complete stranger. I can't deal with people though. I get annoyed easily. I remember living with one of my friends for like a couple months and she drove me insane.

[fixated on 1 star]

ditto to all the posts up there, no need for me to repeat it... lol

im going to NDNU in the fall, and i really wanted to dorm with my friend
but my guidance teacher really really advised me against it
saying that ill get sick of her sooner or later --
ill be going to class with her
ill be eating lunch with her
ill be hanging out with her
and at the end of the day.. ill be sleeping in the same room with her
its like too much "with her" time

and that one of the main parts of college is meeting new people
so... i decided to not dorm with her, and i think im gonna be ok (:

i dont even know if that answered your question. lol

[she-smiles]

i'm currently rooming with a friend.
and well. it's a long story.

YOU try it, & you'll understand.
tell me how it goes. and good luck.

[little mixed girl]

choosing not to room with your friend doesn't mean that you dislike them.
i think staying apart is a way to keep the friendship strong.

when you are rooming with a totally new person, you don't know what to expect. so when good or bad things happen, it'll just be another thing.
but when you're with a friend, you already have an expectation of how you think & expect them to act.
when they are messy, loud, etc. it kind of ruins what you thought of that person, and if it's really bad, you could lose a friend.

[angelqian]

In my experience:

Freshman year -> Random guy, different culture, turned out ok. We just didn't really communicate with each other.
Sophomore year -> Friend, different culture, turned out bad. I don't talk to him anymore, but I don't really care any ill will against him, just, wouldn't ever live with him agian.
Junior year -> Best friend, also, different gender, same culture, best year ever in terms of living, ended up better friends. I think one of the most important factors was that we could discuss anything, and therefore not passive-aggressive as so many people tend to be. I am also the only roomate she's had that she still talks to, and she's lived with friends all her years.
Senior year -> Friend and random guy, same culture, eh, turns out ok.

[tinasarangg]

I roomed with my best friend this past year...
and now we hate each other.
We don't even look at each other, let alone speak to each other anymore lol.

[evalant89]

my advice: never room with the people who is going to the same class as you.
I did that once, last year. All my 24 hours, 365 days revolve around her. We have meals together, sleep in the same room, go to class together, study together, do group project together to the point that I am fed up with her. I get angry at her easily that I am jealous of everything she does. Bad friend I sound huh?

[drgnclwk]

I roomed with a HS friend my first year and I realized he talked way too much mini cooper behind ppl's backs as well as being way over the top judgemental. this year was totally chill with two roommmates, and the third was was nice and everything but pretty messy and they were all people I already knew from the dorms. so you'll probably find out a lot more about your friends if you actually room with them, which could turn out good or bad...

[marishane]

Oh, I was about to be roomed with my friend but my mother doesn't want me to be roomed with that friend because she's way demanding and my mom thinks she could be a bad influence. That's my mom's reason. I don't know if any of you has the same reason though.

[asdfjkl;fdsajkl;]

i'm not in college yet but people have told me it ruins friendships. like everyone said, you don't know someone until you actually live with them. if i were you, i would room with random people.

me and my friend only roomed for a couple of days for a school trip and she's already b*tchin at me. this happened like right after the trip, so i somehow think the rooming thing set her off.

[Lebanese_Blonde]

lol rooming with my friend obliterated our friendship. we haven't talked since.

[Platinum]

is because you think you know the person, but then being with them under the same roof, in the same room, you tend to notice things that annoy you...
you don't really know all their habits and how they are when they're not hanging out with you. sure you can get along with them, but living with them is different.

u notice things u didn't before and u end up getting sick of each other.

[`faded]

well I roomed with 2 strangers and now I am rooming with a friend..

and one of the strangers i was cool with, I did my own thing she did her own..it was ok..the other stranger I didn't like too much @_@..
and my friend..we're cool with each other and we found out that we clicked automatically when we roomed together so it's ok..just in certain circumstances some friends can't live together..and some can..so ya O_O

[erure]

You either end up getting even closer to the person and becoming the bestest friends, or end up hating eachother and never talking to eachother again. In my experience, I've found that there are only extremes to this equation.

I didn't room with my friend but we lived in the same apartment and there were some things she did that drove me crazy (like not picking up hair from the drain after the shower even though we told her to many times ). I don't think I want to ever speak to her after I fully move out of the apartment.

[polaress]

I honestly think it depends on the friend's personality and how you guys interact. I don't think its a bad idea to dorm with a friend, but I wouldn't do it. Given my personality and pet peeves, I highly doubt I could even spend a week living and sharing a dorm, even with a complete stranger. I rather gather a group of friends and rent a house, so then we each have a little wall and room to breathe when things get a little rough.

A few of my friends talked about living together or sharing an apartment, but we all know that our different point of views will just kill each other. So if we were to live together, we would have very, very, very strict guidelines and rules about privacy and arguments and chores.

But I do know that THERE ARE some friends who I absolutely refuse to dorm with, regardless of how close we might. I just know that if I dorm with a particular one, I might just end up committing suicide and I'm not even joking. My life might be shorten by 50 years.

[crazyworld]

DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ROOM WITH YOUE FRIEND Or AN ACQUAINTANCE.

why did i say that?

1. you might not get annoyed, but sometimes they will...and it gets nasty from there.
2. no one is nice in this world
3. people fart when they sleep...and you will too haha...no privacy there eh?

don't believe, go ahead and try. don't say no body didn't warn ya.