[chopstick^^]

I was planning to confess to my crush that i like him.. since i liked him for a year now, and my course is almost ending!

But today, we was out n about ... n i realise what a great guy he is! I used to think of him as this nerdy, dorky guy! So i found him easy to talk to and b friends with! But hes more than that, hes very clever, really sweet, humourous and lots more...

I feel embarrased to tell him i like him... there was about 3 opportunitys today for me to confess, but i couldnt! ....
Thinking back, i dont know why i even thought he liked me! >< ... feels embarrased.. since hes such a great person! He must like someone else way better than me!

But the hints i was getting from him, did made me thought he liked me... but i realise it was his normal behavior! Hes just a naturally sweet guy! ...

So now, i dont know wot to do.. i want to talk to him, but not think so highly of him! Everyone is equal.. but he makes me feel intimidated!

I dont want to feel intimidated! Help!!

Do anyone understands how i feel..

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Update

To those who are interested..
i finally confessed to him i like him by giving him a letter >__<
He reply back with a text message! =p
At the end.. i am rejected! =(
But im fine...
Theres plenty of fishes in the sea!! ~~~

[puzzlebox]

No, you're just feel afraid you'll get rejected.

[watcher]

yea, my first ex was outta my league. hit on by all the guys, upper class / wealthy background, and a few years older than me. as long as you compare yourself though, you will always feel intimidated. don't look at it that way. he's just another person like yourself that he can have fun with. that's all that matters in the long run... that you guys enjoy spending time with each other.

[RE.]

heck yeah.! Cheryl Cole (tweedy)... No way can i get her.

[spiral_flare]

"Everybody's equal"?, I disagree with that one.

The thing is, you really shouldn't feel this way. Like he's out of your league I mean.
Sure he might be "smart" and "funny", but how do you know YOU'RE not? Smartness can't be judged so you can't assume/feel that you're a level below him. Some people, I'm sure, find you really sweet and funny, too. And you think highly of him obviously because you like him. There's no other reason. And I'm sure you'll get over him eventually and realize that the feeling that he's better than you is not there anymore. It's nothing BUT a feeling. You shouldn't let it bother you so much. And if he doesn't like you, that's too bad. There's not much you can do about it. Move on with your life. But you if you're still not sure if he likes you or not, give it a shot. Just let him know you like him. Whatever the outcome might be, at least you'll know what he thinks of you, right?

[xTwilight]

Get your friend to tell him for you if you can't do it yourself.

[chopstick^^]

No, you're just feel afraid you'll get rejected.

Probably >< ...
i dont think he likes me anymore in that way!
So telling him that i like him, would seem awkward! ..

yea, my first ex was outta my league. hit on by all the guys, upper class / wealthy background, and a few years older than me. as long as you compare yourself though, you will always feel intimidated. don't look at it that way. he's just another person like yourself that he can have fun with. that's all that matters in the long run... that you guys enjoy spending time with each other.

thanks! yeah, i should stop comparing myself! ...

heck yeah.! Cheryl Cole (tweedy)... No way can i get her.

hehe

"Everybody's equal"?, I disagree with that one.

The thing is, you really shouldn't feel this way. Like he's out of your league I mean.
Sure he might be "smart" and "funny", but how do you know YOU'RE not? Smartness can't be judged so you can't assume/feel that you're a level below him. Some people, I'm sure, find you really sweet and funny, too. And you think highly of him obviously because you like him. There's no other reason. And I'm sure you'll get over him eventually and realize that the feeling that he's better than you is not there anymore. It's nothing BUT a feeling. You shouldn't let it bother you so much. And if he doesn't like you, that's too bad. There's not much you can do about it. Move on with your life. But you if you're still not sure if he likes you or not, give it a shot. Just let him know you like him. Whatever the outcome might be, at least you'll know what he thinks of you, right?

thanks alot! u made me feel better! i dont know if i confess.. but i think today wasnt really a good time, since i talked rather too much to him ... its a bit too much to take in! i try n find a another oppotunity! ..

Get your friend to tell him for you if you can't do it yourself.

non of my friends from 'uni' .. knows i like him.... sooo.. i dnt knw! >_< ... but thanks!

[marlborowe]

in your shoes i wouldn't worry about how good he appears to be at all.

you see, many guys come through high school being quite talkative and good conversationalists - supposedly "impressive". girls tend to overall be a bit more quiet. so really there is NOTHING to be impressed about. a guy is witty and talks good - so what? he does't have a steady job yet, he hasn't shown the ability to look after a girlfriend, he hasn't shown the ability to be successful and so on..

so basically all he has shown is a fast tongue. that's IT. nothing more.

as a girl you still remain in the driver seat. it really is up to him to show to you if he is any good. so just stay friends. if he chases you then good. if not, then he is probably too preoccupied with his tongue. go find a guy who is more committed and capable to meaningful things besdies fancy talk. so NO ONE is out of your league -- its up to them to show they are IN YOUR LEAGUE.

finally -- pls don't go conffessing you are in love or like the first guy out of 30 that you have met. there are several million of these beasts out there so you need to be more discerning.

[JPizMe]

haha ur funny about that above ur league stuff =p
I would'nt care much about that.
Because a great special wonderfull personality wins anything =p

and besides that..
ur always better off confessing and taking the chance of getting rejected.
Than not confessing at all and regret it for the rest of ur life =/.

Wish u the best of luck~!
^.~

[kimmyb07]

It's amazing when you realize that the person you used to think was dorky and just easy to talk to is really a pretty cool, pretty popular guy, isn't it? I was dating my boyfriend for a few months before I realized that he was popular and charismatic. I thought he was just a big dork O.o When I realized this, I was very unsure of myself and very insecure because I felt that he was so much higher than me and I wondered why he even liked me to begin with. So I think I can understand what you're feeling

But, the thing is, you're forgetting your good qualities. There may be something about you that he really admires and is intimidated by. I later found out that although my boyfriend is popular, he also has a past and somehow, the way I am shocked him (in a good way). Maybe there's something about you that shocks and amazes him.

In any case, the fact that you respect him and realize that he's a great person is a great basis for a relationship. Give it a shot. Be confident. If he does reject you, then at least you gave it a shot and there will be other guys. If he doesn't, well then, who knows

[d00lie]

good luck. i think ur just nervous. but i think you shoudl give it a shot.

yeah though this did happen to me.. actually he's my most recent crush. so lol. he's really great. i thought he was this shy, nerdy guy but he has another side. he's sweet, and so cute in his own way. I thought i didn't deserve him.. and lol there are days when I still don't think i do.

i ended up confessing. well. he liked me for a time too. but he said he isn't ready for a relationship so we waited.. and i guess that during taht time it just kinda went away? (not me. him) or i rushed into it b/c iono i really liked him.. and i was somewhat insecure.. and he said that he didn't want to ruin our friendship and wanted to be friends.

so we're friends like before.. but like lol. it's a weird friendship.

[cj_]

Oh please.
Shut up.
"I'm out of his league"
"I'm not good enough for him"
You know, if you have that mindset, you'll never get yourself a lover because no one likes
":( I'm not good enough for you..."
We don't live in a jDRAMA - kDRAMA universe.
You act like THAT and I gurantee you'll make HIM believe you ARE not good enough for him.
In fact, he'll think you're more downgraded than that.

[bohemianheart.]

haha. I thought that my boyfriend was totally out of my league. Because he was a big jocky, everyone knew him in the school. He's was the popular boy should i say. I never thought about ever going out with him or even talking to him. I was just like "I'm a little new asian kid who just came to the school, i'm short and nerdy. He will never look at me or even talk to me". But one day he just randomly spoke to me in English class. and after that he confessed that he liked me. I was totally shocked because i totally liked him the first time i saw him. *blush*. But it doesn't matter, as long as the person likes you and that you like them. Who cares what other people say. As long as your in love. hehe.

I always thought that i wasn't good enough for him. Because all his friends were like jocky's too, but they liked me too as a friend of course. His friends at first were shy and so was i, i hardly spoke to them except for my boyfriend. But once we started to hang out like every one together we started to get to know each other. So it was alright i guess. and hey all of the jockys are my best friends now. har har. <33333. Don't think that anyone is out of your league, just believe in your self and go for it!

[touchthesky]

lol i think a lot of ppl are out of my league. i think i have an inferiority complex or something

anywayz i thought the last guy i liked was really dorky and stuff too. he was new and really quiet and i implanted in my head that he was a dork before i even knew him lol. then i knew him and i started to like him and realized how cool he was and my self esteem went down the drain. i've realized that that's a bad mindset to have. its too bad i realized too late

[xTwilight]

non of my friends from 'uni' .. knows i like him.... sooo.. i dnt knw! >_< ... but thanks!

Then tell some of your friends from 'uni' that you like him, then they'll be able to tell him for you.

[Koutarou]

Eh. my story isn't quite the same, but the guy was out of my league.
He was a prodigy. As in, uber smart, really talented on violin, and really, really, really smart, again. I couldn't hold a candle next to him. I knew I would never be enough for him and that there were other girls, better suited for him, so I gave up for a LOOONG TIME.

But then we started to uh... How should I say it? Get along with each other REALLY well?
Yeah, we liked each other. I never would have thought it would happen, not in a million years. We had a happy ending, blahblahblah, then we split because of being zoned to different schools, but it was for the best. :]

So basically, never, ever, EVER say you're not good enough. There's no such thing.

[hippiehop]

I sometimes feel my boyfriend is too good for me. He's literally the most caring and understanding person I know and when I do something that I know is immature (later on) I feel like such a jerk and then I feel like he could do so much better than me. But, he's helped me grow quite a bit, and I've helped him too. I'm so glad I have him because when I have a problem, he's the only one who truly listens and says what he means instead of just what I want to hear. Oh, and I should mention that he gets a LOT of girls... =_= So, sometimes I feel like he could also find better in that area, but he assured me that I'm beautiful to him.... which is good enough for me! We all have our insecurities, what's best is to try to learn to look past them.

[supa'Wanki]

Do you know how many time's i've got that? it's not attractive and it makes you look pathetic.

I hate it when girls think that I'm out of their league. I'm nothing, i dont deserve to be considered too good for them, cause in reality they deserve a guy that's way better than me. just look at me, don't you think it's funny?

if you like a guy, go for it. we arent any better than you ladies.

[mr. lovely]

hahaa more than i can count.
i guess that's just my problem--
i don't know how to talk to them 'cause i'm so baffled by the fact that they know my name...

[sweet_lia]

a long long long time ago
turns out he wasnt
turns out he was just another frog though