[love990024501]

of course it does.
i mean, i wouldn't wanna go out with a guy
that should rather be a father figureee. eww.

[HELLO.Cindy]

Personally, I wouldn't date a younger guy unless I digg him.
I think that is because they're sort of immature. I'm not saying that all are.
But I dig the guy, I'll give him a chance x]

[OhKaren]

I dont really mind about the age. although i dont really have interest in guys younger than me.
I guess thats because guys in my school that are younger than me are very immature,
that goes for the guys same as my age too, but that doesnt go for every guy.
Personally i like guys who are older than me.

[greyxsmilesz.]

well when you're at highschool age it sorta does
like a 15 year old with a 21 year old is illegal :/
or a 12 year old and a hs senior
but once you're legal and can do anything
it doesnt really matter
i see couples that have big age differences, yet they love eachother
nothing should stop two people from loving eachother

[passionfruitee]

in MY opinion.. NOT AT ALL !
actually.. to an extent.
like, im 16. a junior in high school. yet my bf is a 19 year old 2nd year uni student
3 years difference.
but it doesnt matter.
i love him<3

[Torento <3]

My girlfriend is 25, but I am 17.

However, she is Japanese, and Japanese tend to look younger than their age. So of course, in the initial stages at least, that helped me...

[ginger]

in MY opinion.. NOT AT ALL !
actually.. to an extent.
like, im 16. a junior in high school. yet my bf is a 19 year old 2nd year uni student
3 years difference.
but it doesnt matter.
i love him<3

Lol but 3 years is like...nothing. What about 30 years? A 12 year old and a 50 year old? It still doesn't matter at all? I'm 23 and my students are 16, so would it be perfectly okay if I started dating them?

-ginger

[mary-xo.]

love and age have nothing in common and they really should'nt be put together. age is just a number. but love is a feeling.

haha wow. this post is from such a LONG time ago. but i loved it when i 1st read it.
If he or she is really that important to you as you think he or she is, then the age gap shouldnt make a difference.
because you know that what matters to you most is the feeling that never ends.

[Torento <3]

Lol but 3 years is like...nothing. What about 30 years? A 12 year old and a 50 year old? It still doesn't matter at all? I'm 23 and my students are 16, so would it be perfectly okay if I started dating them?

-ginger

My girlfriend is 25, I am 17.

However, if she was a teacher, I would've waited until I started university before I started dating her.

[-chinook-]

I prefer older girls,

girls these days seem so overly picky it's not even funny even then they really are just very materialistic not saying all of them are but from what I've seen.
Another reason is I hang around older people but people here on soompi just from reading certain threads it amazes me.

Thank god for older girls who give younger guys a change.

[Torento <3]

I prefer older girls,

girls these days seem so overly picky it's not even funny even then they really are just very materialistic not saying all of them are but from what I've seen.
Another reason is I hang around older people but people here on soompi just from reading certain threads it amazes me.

Thank god for older girls who give younger guys a change.

Yes, it's lovely when people begin to see age as only a number. But there are limits, of course.

[aznbabygurl]

Age is only a number. My BF is 6 years older than me and we are happy^^

[~*Anja*~]

I never say never..

Anyone who has even a little bit of life experience should be well aware that things don't always go as planned... actually they rarely do.. And therefore, I would be open to it if the chemistry were right, anywhere on the legal adult spectrum..

That being said, I think if you are going to date someone significantly older or younger, you have to have a *real* foundation.. A real foundation doesn't include infatuation or some kind of faux respect due to the other person's age.. All of those little things that you experience on the road of life... they are easily communicated with someone who has a similar perspective..

So, it's possible, but just by glancing at the number of marriages (only relevant stat I could find) that occur between people that are greater than 10 years apart in age, it looks to be about ~7% of the total marriages that fit that criteria.. There are probably myriad reasons for that type of number, and probably not many of them favour an age difference of that magnitude..

[legoart]

i always think girls who go for guys who are 10+ years older to have daddy issues...

Sorry to cut your post, Morphiex. I dated a man 17 years my senior for three years, and I personally feel like my relationship with my father was and continues to be a very strong and irreplaceable connection. I can see how the theory of the whole older attraction being related to parental instability, but at the same time I don't think it plays as large a role as people seem to think.

Lol but 3 years is like...nothing. What about 30 years? A 12 year old and a 50 year old? It still doesn't matter at all? I'm 23 and my students are 16, so would it be perfectly okay if I started dating them?

-ginger

There are quite a few factors that come into play. It's incredibly difficult to say any kind of love is wrong, there's a line between abuse and love that as each generation passes becomes harder and harder to distinguish. I think we should interpret it on a case by case situation. Some key factors are the stages of life the two individuals are in, and the power they have in society...for example, the teacher-student relationship. Obviously the two are in very different stages of their life, and it takes a great deal of maturity, understanding, patience and energy to overcome the difficulties that arise from this disparity. As far as the power-concept, as long as intimidation, coercion and scare-tactics are not used (grade-control, etc.) I don't see why it has to be a huge issue.

A 12 year old with a 50 year old seems a bit of a stretch to me, simply because the stages of life the two are in are very different, and I do not think that a 12 year old possesses enough maturity, experience nor patience to be able to properly judge their situation with someone of such a large age gap. At the same time I don't think a 50 year old would be able to have the understanding, patience and energy to deal with a 12 year old as a significant other. Of course, I'm making generalizations but that's simply how I feel...I look forward to being proven wrong.

Falling in love, being in love, struggling with love and rejoicing in it is such a rare thing to be able to do. I think it's a blessing if people can find that with someone.

[yurikah]

Nope it matters nada.
I'm not attracted to guys who are my age, and definitely not attracted to guys younger than me. I prefer men who are 10-13 years older than me.

[영원한 사랑]

I look super young for my age so I don't really like guys who hav a significant age difference from me.
For some reason, I'm most comfortable with guys within 3 years age difference .....
Just cuz I think I can think in a similar way and be on the same level in life....

[Torento <3]

Age is only a number. My BF is 6 years older than me and we are happy^^

That being said, in some cases (generally with younger people) it to some degree reflects ones' maturity. This of course is important if not essential to many relationships.

[spikeyheadedjerk]

if it doesnt break any laws im ok with it.
whatever makes you happy >.<;;

[Senorita_]

It just depends really. Just as long as you're not dating someone who is old enough to be your dad, or young enough to be your little brother.

[lilTBswimz]

so basically the description says it all
I'm a freshman who has the BIGGEST crush on a senior!!
I have one class w/ him....long story on how that happens, but i do.
I"ve been talking to him more and more, about like normal stuff that we're both comfortable w/
so thats a good thing, rite?
We even flirt a good amount, i just can't tell if its just playful or if he's trying to get some sort of point across, u no?
anyways, we've talked on the phone, and we IM and txt each other a lot too
The longest we've talked before was probably around an hour to an hour and a half
I just can't tell what he thinkssss
And i no i have to really think things through...cus honestly a freshman and senior couple? how often does that happen unless you have a wh*ore/Sl*t, which i definitely AM NOT

I don't no what to do
any advice
I no thats a really general thing to ask but i really dont no what to dooo