[영원한 사랑]

I turned 20 years old awhile ago and I know this one guy who's actually one of my friends older brother.....and i really like him...but i find out he's like 8 years and a few months older than me..... but i thought he would be in his early twenties by looks.......


The thing is I think he likes me......but im a bit afraid to start anything....cuz i hav no dating experience plus im a little naive? and im concerned i'm too young for him cuz im still in beginning yrs of college....




What do you think?
Is this a big age gap at my age?
i'm kinda thinking i shouldnt like him......

[Shikabane Hime]

No experience? GREAT, enjoy the ride.

[twinkle_star]

8 years is quite a big gap
BUT they say.
age doesnt matter when you really love the person!!^^

[Sympathetic]

No, honestly - I don't think it's a big gap.

Have fun sweetie.

[Yui.]

Not really. xD My grandpa was older than my grandma 8 years.

And my supervisor's parents. Her dad was older than her mom like 17 years.

Do what your heart tells you.

[Makaveli]

You're in totally different stages in life. It probably wouldn't be a good idea.
It's your choice though. If you really want it that much.

[hello_yeee]

i don't feel its very much a big deal

[princesspoppy]

It doesn't matter, because you are now legal. BUT if you were like 17, then that is a whole different story. But since he is almost reaching 30, he'll be wanting something else, like umm....a stronger commitment...like ummm marriage. Well that is if you guys do date.

[Torento <3]

No experience?

Haha, good luck with that.

My girlfriend (might break up soon however) is 25 and I'm 17. I mean, it's just age. I don't know about over there; but in Australia it's common to finish university and have your career started around 21.

[insanelyCRAZY]

its not a huge gap.
but then again, it sounds like you two just briefly met?
and dont really know eachother all that well yet, AND you have no dating experience.
get to know the guy.
lol..some guys are wolves out there.
so be cautious. =/
realizing that you're naive is one step to being cautious.

[Yunho<3]

That's not a big gap.
My friend parent have a gap og 10 years.

[daulism]

hmmm.... i think its appropriate. ^^; as long as you two look the same age gap, it doesn't make him look like a pedophile.

[mintcracker]

once you turn 20, you're able to get with anyone up to like 28 I think so it's all good =)
it's fine. Just be careful and listen to your gut instinct since you have no experience.

[Duey]

I think its a huge age gap. He's already 28, he might be lookin to settle down (marriage). Your only 20 with no dating experience.

[Lie]

Unless he's incredibly immature, the age gap would be tremendous. Although it doesn't apply to everyone, just going from 20 to 23 was a tremendous period of growth for me. My older brother is 28, and even the 5 year gap between he and I is huge. He has a family, he knows what he wants in life, he's considerably more mature than I am. 8 years is a much smaller deal once you hit your late 20s and 30s, but the difference between someone who's 15 and someone who's 23 is tremendous, likewise the difference between someone who's 20 and someone who's 28 is tremendous. Unless, like I said, he has a really really low maturity level.

[damyoungji]

The age gap is a bit big, but that shouldn't prevent you to from getting together if the two of you feel the same way.
Just remind yourself that just because he is older does not mean that he is definitely wiser and you have the right to say "no" if you want.

Meh. Beats me. A friend of mines was 18 when she dated a 28 year old who used to be a teacher assistant at her high school O__o

[yourstruly.]

This somewhat delves into the pedophilia topic. Which is quite controversial, so I see your problem. =)
You're in total different stages of your life though, and it would be somewhat of a problem
since you have no experience in dating...he might take advantage of you.
But really, it's up to you. As long as he still looks youthful, people won't notice it.
If you truly love him, then go for it.

[Grace1o04]

i'm 20 and my boyfriend is 28 we've been together for over 1 1/2 years and are very compatible despite the age gap..so don't worry too much about it and follow your heart.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

if you're at that age, I don't think it matters much.

[Xingda]

as long as he doesnt mind and you dont mind then why not?