[meowx]

I think it's more about emotional, mental and physical maturity and whether or not you're on the same level. If not, things just aren't going to work. If there's a twenty/thirty year age gap between you and you genuinely love each other, then heck - there's nothing morally wrong with that. But age might matter because your partner is from a different generation and has different beliefs, traditions and mannerisms.

When it comes to underage, under-developed children dating even just older children, I think that's where I draw my line. Someone who's not developed (in every sense of the world) should not be engaging in any kind of serious, let alone sexual relationship. It's just plain wrong.

My eleven-year-old sister comes home telling me about which one of her friends is sleeping with who and "so-and-so are FWBs" ... her friends are around fourteen, fifteen but it's still flat-out disgusting.

In any case, when two people are old enough and adult enough to engage in a romantic relationship, then all is OK. My partner is almost six-years-older than me and we're happy as can be:)! He and his brothers seem to have a penchant for dating girls who are a lot younger - they are both with someone who is about ten-years-younger. It's odd - but not in a pervy way or anything, we all met when we were legal and I think it's nice for the guy to be a little older - more of a sense of security. I don't have any issues with women dating younger men, but in my personal experience it hasn't worked out.

[ncly]

i know someone's dad who is like 50 now and he is divorced. and now he's dating his gf who is 20 years younger than him.
i don't know...
he has 3 kids and i just can't stop thinking about like
when she's 9, he's already 29 and already has 2 kids.
but oh well, i heard that they are happy with each other.

[oyay]

I believe that the older you get, age really doesn't matter because both the guy and girl are mature enough to take care of each other.
But, in like teen years it's kind of weird for a guy to be younger because usually they aren't as mature or developed or whatever and instead of the guy looking out for the girl, the girl has to look out for the guy.

[bonjour tristesse.]

The older you get, the less it is of an issue to date someone who is younger / older than you are. The age doesn't matter to me personally but the maturity level does.

[flyhigh1030]

how about if the guy's 10 years older than you
and you're 18 lol

[ForgottenReason]

heard from somewhere that to find the lowest appropriate age you should date is :
((Your age)/2) + 7 = lowest age

I'm 18 dating a 16 year old and I dont mind at all. Only gets weird cause people say he looks like my brother and they're the same age too ._.; But if anything, he looks older than me haha.

[RAWR--heart]

To be honest, if its a 1 year age difference, then GO FOR IT ! but if its like, 3-4 . uhm, thats a big gap ..

[NoBreak92]

nop age doesn't matter!

[chinkboye22]

like if a girl is not 18+ and jailbait, its ok for the girl to crush on an older guy even if he's in his mid 20s or w/e
like i know girls mature faster and like mature guys etc..

but when it comes to guys when he's 18 to young 20s, it seems like he can't automatically go for jailbait no matter how mature the girl is, its frown upon in this society..maybe not if its like 2-3 year diff but like say 5 years or w/e

im not trying to go the extreme here, cuz its weird if the guy's 18 and the girl is 14 and the girl hasn't fully matured physically and mentally, im talking about like 16-17ish girl and older guy

its so weird for the guy but okay for the girl, i understand it can be really hard cuz they are in diff stages in their life but its hard to deny your feelings too

[* veenee]

i've seen people date others that are older/younger than them and have an age gap. I think it's alright as long as they are actually in love and not using the other for benefits or playing around.

[michilatte]

^ agreed.

As long as they really like each other, there's really nothing wrong with it. Once the girl is in her twenties, that age difference (if they're still together), is basically nothing.

[ssulja]

^ agreed.

As long as they really like each other, there's really nothing wrong with it. Once the girl is in her twenties, that age difference (if they're still together), is basically nothing.

While that's true when you look at age, when you look at emotional maturity, a person grows the most from those ages. The difference between 10-20 isn't the same as 20-30, 30-40, etc.

[chansay110002]

In Relationships .. Age is just a number ..

[kanako28]

If both are compatible, it's okay. A good friend of mine has been dating the same guy for a couple of years, and they're 7 years apart. She was 14 when they started going out, and they're still in love with each other

[mekka]

No! Asians make a big deal of age which is pointless. If you are compatible what is the difference? You marry an asian lets say 25 by 30 you look like your grandmother, while the men still looks the same. Age is a state of mind a man can be 30 but has the mentality of a twenty something, its the pressure put on children by parents. When can you live your own life without parent interference?

[maivabvaj]

My brother says that girls mature faster than guys. Well that's how he explains for him dating a girl who's a year older than me.

[thefunkz]

So yeah, I met this girl at Starbucks a few weeks ago. She was pretty and all. I asked her out and she gave me her number. On our first date we went to a French-Japanese restaurant and then we went to the movies and then to a cafe. Then we went to the beach for lunch and just strolled around for our second date. And then I asked her how old she was....and she told me she's 16. I was totally shocked because she looked around my age. It was awkward then soon after I dropped her off.

What do I do?? She's totally my type but this age difference is kind of big for me. Is this against the law? I'm in such a dilemma. Please give me soundful advice!

[emceej]

it's not against the law unless you have an intimate relationship with her....meaning having sex.

like what they said age is just a number. if you really like her go for it. if she's mature enough to handle the relationship then why not? don't let the age bother you. as long as you're not doing something illegal then it should be all good. good luck ! =)

[P1010]

Divide by two plus seven rule: you're 22 so 22/2+7 = 18. She's too young bro.

In all honesty though age is just a number so if you like her see where it goes. ALTHOUGH 1. watch out for statutory rape and 2. people change a lot in college (who she is now may not be who she is in a few years, whereas you may have "grown up" already).

But hey you like her so regardless of what we all say on some internet forum you're going to pursue her anyways =)

[xkrn4lyfx]

it's a little illegal. just a bit. but only if you have sex, all else is like friends hanging out anyhow right?

but even if you do kiss or embrace, it's still possible to hold you on laws on touching a minor... cuz that's what she is. a minor.

well, it's only been 2 dates so just break it off, save yourself a world of butthurt