[IATEYOU]

i debated about posting this topic, but its been bothering me for a bit..so hang with me here? hehe thanks.


<stuff deleted just in case because i guess people know about soompi more than i thought xD>

lol so general question:
do you think you will HONESTLY choose personality over physical attributes/attraction? (i'm not speaking about going out with a dumbass gorgeous model or something. just the scale is tipped in favor of one over the other)


gracias.

edit:
and a line from one of my favorite songs:
"its the heart that matters in the end."

true?

[shirotaka]

Well if you're worried about seeing his face, you don't have to. You're going off to college. Anyways you'll meet new people if you don't think this guy is right for you. But usually doesn't personality make people look better or am I just a mutated human?

[xTwilight]

Obviously you need both.

[lshluvr]

Give the guy a shot!
For me...personally...I will admit that I am shallow. Really shallow. I only like people for their looks and a little personality. If their personality is crap then obviously I wouldn't like them regardless of looks. But if I had to choose between a not so cute guy with great personality and an omg amazingly cute but personality is average and nothing special, I'd chose the omg amazingly cute guy.

[Reagan1986]

Funny how the layer of skin of someones face actually makes people think they are in love,

[IATEYOU]

Well if you're worried about seeing his face, you don't have to. You're going off to college. Anyways you'll meet new people if you don't think this guy is right for you. But usually doesn't personality make people look better or am I just a mutated human?

true true i agree with that one.
but my little shpeel above remains

Obviously you need both.

are you referring to me? or..yes. i think you do. maybe. perhaps. maybe god should just turn off all the lights

Give the guy a shot!
For me...personally...I will admit that I am shallow. Really shallow. I only like people for their looks and a little personality. If their personality is crap then obviously I wouldn't like them regardless of looks. But if I had to choose between a not so cute guy with great personality and an omg amazingly cute but personality is average and nothing special, I'd chose the omg amazingly cute guy.

lol thanks for your input.
give him a shot? would you though?

Funny how the layer of skin of someones face actually makes people think they are in love,

was that directed to me? which is fine, but im not in love

[EtherealEnigma]

I don't want an ugly girlfriend, that matches my personality profile perfectly... then I'd feel horrible for dumping her. CHYEA!
No
Yes
Yes

[Malice_Kaiser]

I would say go for him... He sounds like a keeper. And soon enough he will start to become attractive to you physically and everything.

[hiswendy]

Honestly, I prefer personality all the way.
I always get crushes on the hot guys, who doesn't.
But I only fall for someone if he has really awesome personality.

Give him a chance because if ever you fall for him,
he'll look like the most beautiful thing in the world to you.

[Reagan1986]

No not directed to you, its an overall assumption.

[Deadalready]

I've had a similar experience, I know this girl who shared basically many of my random interests, which ranged from social sciences, rockclimbing, book collecting, martial arts and dumb things like Harry Potter. I felt very relaxed around her and felt a connection to her, yet at the same time I didn't feel an actual attraction to her. Personally I decided to keep her as a friend and when she picked up a boyfriend, I must admit to feeling a little loss somehow.

~

Personally I do believe there has to be both a physical attraction and personality match, otherwise I would rather keep them as a friend as opposed to a lover. It all boils down to the type of relationship a one desires.

[IATEYOU]

I don't want an ugly girlfriend, that matches my personality profile perfectly... then I'd feel horrible for dumping her. CHYEA!
No
Yes
Yes

lol are those for the above? i see....thanks so much for the answers
and lol at the other comment. sigh. i dont want to be a dumper. harder than being the dumpee at times.

I would say go for him... He sounds like a keeper. And soon enough he will start to become attractive to you physically and everything.

should i?
i just dont know why im hesitating so much and i feel bad because...i feel like im being so shallow and i always thought i wasnt and...balhahhah lol

Honestly, I prefer personality all the way.
I always get crushes on the hot guys, who doesn't.
But I only fall for someone if he has really awesome personality.

Give him a chance because if ever you fall for him,
he'll look like the most beautiful thing in the world to you.

thats so true.
and i quote from the little prince: "it is only with the right that one sees rightly. what is essential is invisible to the eye. the eyes are blind. one must see with the heart."
but why am i so...hesitant

No not directed to you, its an overall assumption.

i see.. your comment above is true, though. i think.

whoa. im so confused and messed up

[blush]

I think everything you listed played a role as to why you don't want to. I mean, if he's going to be your first, and you two are long distance, then that might give you doubt. And to top it off, he's not your type, physically.
I think that I would not choose personality over looks if I doubted it for a bit. I want my guys at least decent or better.. but if he's not, and I kinda doubt, as SHALLOW as this sounds, I might be a bit edgy on my decision. ;x

[ChromeHearts]

well i have noticed females saying they prefer personality over looks
but so far this is false 100% of the time

[DiscoJox]

aww. If you like him then like him haha. If you miss him when he's not there then be with him.
There's this guy that I really like too. The one thing that makes me like him even more
is his humor, kindness, intelligence and the fact that well haha he makes me laugh and smile.
I would say he is decent looking but I couldn't care less.

[Uh O Dianuh]

I remember I would always say that I look for personality in a guy; however, I gradually found myself looking at both. Like you said the guy doesn't have to be super model hot, but decent enough for me. It's 50/50 for me. Good luck on your decision.

[shirotaka]

well i have noticed females saying they prefer personality over looks
but so far this is false 100% of the time

Especially when they're being honest...

[tossig_chima]

If you are under 25 then I think there is no need to commit to any boyfriend

especally if you have not established yourself in a career

once you establish yourself then you can have anny bofriend

the guy you described sounds like atypical smart talker - just knows how to talk to people and women. these are cruddy people - salesmen more than anything else. cannot be a nobel prize winner. so i wouldnt bother with him.

[MizzprEEETy]

I say go for it...or else don't regret later...The more you like him, the more he'll become good looking to you.

[ANJEE<3]

the guy can't be that bad =P

the only thing that is stopping you is yourself
you can't get over the fact that he's not your "ideal guy"