[Mrs.Winchester]

after just coming out of a serious relationship.i was just wondering.its been about 1.3 months.. ive noticed that ive become more secretive, less comfortable around men. i sometimes zone out and i just notice im not like i used to be before i STARTED dating..


what changes have you guys noticed after you break up. do share, im just wondering if everyone goes through changes like i did. lets make each other feel normal!

[supa'Wanki]

Learned from my mistakes and matured in the relationship area.

[v_23]

i used to believe in every single little word my ex say, but now my current bf, i dont give a crap. he always say "i love you baby", and i go "uh huh" then hang up the phone. "i love you" is crap. i prefer him telling me to sleep tight.

[puzzlebox]

After break ups, you always mature in relationships and always learn from your mistakes (if you were going through a serious one).

[maguschrono]

With every relationship I refine my understanding of what kind of woman I want to be with. Some breakups are hard, and the memories have a way of haunting me. Some breakups are better, I will always have a (platonic) place in my heart for some of these women. I went through a period after one breakup when I started cheating like crazy, then I got cheated on and realized that I never want to hurt someone like that. I broke up with a girl (out of my league) who treated me poorly, and became the kind of guy who doesn't allow anyone to treat him poorly. Every relationship I've ever had has changed me. I think, in the long run, for the better. I'm sure, given time, that you'll agree.

[Amanda Plz]

I became more abrasive, selective, and insecure. A LOT more insecure. But I'm working on it. I also realized that no relationship is perfect and I shouldn't secretly gloat to myself about how MINE is better than SO AND SO'S relationship.

[imkbx]

i used to believe in every single little word my ex say, but now my current bf, i dont give a crap. he always say "i love you baby", and i go "uh huh" then hang up the phone. "i love you" is crap. i prefer him telling me to sleep tight.

totally agree on the whole 'i love you' ordeal. me and my ex's used to throw words around like they were nothing.


i haven't had a drastically bad breakup so none of really affected me much. though i did learn to not drag relationships on, and to think twice before committing to one.

[breathless_]

i matured, learned to not say "i love you" when i didn't mean it, and became less naive

[Radiance]

hmm, yeah there is a misconception of that love business now a days.

well suppose that, after my break up, i felt like i understood that person more, appreciated them more than i did before, as a person. it's strange though, i didn't want her back then, straight after. but i wanted what we had before, because that was the best.

now it's more of, i really do love this person, i am happy with this person. it's not a... possesion kinda of thing.

[ur AD0RkABLE]

i became depressed, angry, sad, embarrased, hurt .

i was a little raincloud around my friends.

drifted from them .

didnt trust any guy as easily .

lost interest in guys.

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[Childlike Faith]

I became, or I am, sad a lot more often, get hurt more easily, get suspicious of things really easily.

I actually learned that I need to say I love you more often, I didn't get to tell my ex that often enough before it was too late to say it.

But most of all, I learned from my mistakes and hopefully, that'll help me grow. It's been 3 months for me, so yea, still getting there.

[Co-coLove]

Learn from my mistakes and I guess, take a break from dating.
And I guess the mature subject comes in.

[Big_Bang]

I started swearing excessively-which is strange because I rarely do that.
I also isolated myself from people more and found it harder to trust.
So I'm still working on that.

[k i k a i]

there's only ONE "memorable" break-up or one that really changed me!
it's been 4 years now since then (I'm 21 now)..
my ex broke up with me, telling me he already loved someone else, WHICH WAS A LIE (I found out later from his sister)! he only used it as an excuse, hoping I would get over him in no time.. the real reason why he broke up, was because he knew I was going back to Germany soon (back then both of us were in the Philippines and now I'm back in Germany and he lives in the USA)..
I really though back then that my life had no meaning anymore, I cried a whole year not getting over him.. until I decided that life goes on.. I'm more careful when it comes to guys now, I'm not giving all I have already.. I'm more sceptic, yet I do still trust.. and I don't easily cry anymore.. I'm stronger than before.. I also can givve a lot of good advices (accroding my friends), when it comes to relationships.. I'm just stronger and became more mature

[ss5o1em]

with my ex..
after breaking up wif him i learnt not to trust ppl so easily
and ive become more suspicious of EVERYTHING around me

[Ningyo]

The changes from my first breakup, were all negative.
I got angrier, held grudges, and saw all the bad in people.

But then, I didn't like these changes... and I tried to change back, and it was/is really hard.
Trust me, becoming more insecure, suspicious... hurts you more in the long run.

Thankfully I met someone new, who changed me for the better.

Now I learned that the best thing I can do for me after a breakup, is to not change.

[Antz]

i learnt about how i'm in like relationships. and learnt how to improve myself for my next.
i guess i learnt how to open up more and express my feelings.
when i was with my ex, i was kinda scared to be with him ROFL. he didn't do anything bad to me, i just felt awkward after time. o_o

[RE.]

i become less-loving after each breakup.

[imaviet]

i learn that ...
anyone could be a jerk.

[SassyGirl23_35]

Changes?

Hmm...I've had one serious relashionship (3 in all but the other 2..I don't totally count because they never had time for me...and the others only lasted a couple weeks anyways)


I am a much sadder person. I don't feel open to opening my heart enough to love someone like before...and I'm not even sure if I can trust as much.