[Namine]

Sorry if this gets a bit long ...



I'm curious as to whether other people ever just wonder/know if they're bisexual/gay?
No, not in some Tila Tequila way (no offense) where you just party and it's like GIRLSS KISS!!... >_>



But more rather of a, "What if I like that girl" thing?

I've had many people ask me if I liked girls on a normal basis before ..
But some other people just tell me that it's because I idolize the girl, and I'm obsessive with BEAUTY&FASHION, that it makes people ask me that.



But have you had any internal conflicts regarding this topic before?



I've had girls ask me out before, but I always said no.



Once I had a girl crying to me, and she thought that she was in love with me, and she kept crying, because she was so confused.
Her mother was completely against gays, and she just couldn't bear to do anything against her mother, because she just idolized her mother too much.

And I mean her mom is completely aganist, as in, she'd throw her daughter out if her daughter wasn't like.. straight.

So in the end, as I was trying to think of a way to answer her, she like .. gathered herself together, and just said that she liked me in a platonic way.

But even if that situation was resolved, I was still confused, because at the heat of the moment, I had no idea what to answer, I was just speechless with shock.


After that, I guess I was just sort of like, what if I could've liked her, o_o and stuff.

But.. do you ever.. "know" ?
Like are you ever sure ?
And how do yo know?
I'm so confused, I'm sorry. T_T

[simplicity_x3]

Wow.....
I'd be like....shocked if a girl ask me out. O_____O
Oh goodness, it must be hard for you...to figure things out.
Well, just think would you, if ever, can live with a girl for your whole entire life?
If not, then I guess you're straight.
I like & idolize girls & all but I've never thought of you know, loving them or anything.
So whenever I thought of having to spend the rest of my life with a girl, I'm for sure I'm straight. ^^

[Amanda Plz]

Hm. I had one of my best friends ask me out when we first met. Haha. She was kind of "stalkerish" about it too. She left me about 5 myspace messages asking me out and telling me how much she "loved" me and blahblah. I never thought I was bisexual or gay at all though and I told her over and over again that I was straight.

I guess you know that you're gay or bi when you feel a certain way towards that person. Like you would if you liked a guy?

Agh T_T I'm not making much sense either. Forgive me.

[hippiehop]

This one girl i met online before would always be like "I think you're actually a lesbian but you just don't know it yet"... uh, I think I'd know if I want to have sex with girls (aka if I were sexually attracted to them) .

[GoYiNok]

Hmm...sometimes I do wonder if I'm a lesbian but I don't think I am. I've only been romantically interested in guys but once in a while I'll see a very pretty girl and just stare at her all day and develop a "girl crush" on her. Like, I don't want to kiss her or date her but I'll think that she's fun to look at and if she has a good personality then I'll probably admire her.

[KaoriHoshiko]

I'm confused too. Because I girlcrushed my best friend before I knew her because she was such a cool person.
Girlcrushed is like.. I liked her because she's unique, and stylish! But I'm Asian, and one of those Asian touchy person! And she keeps asking me if I was straight! I'm like YES I AM SUPER FREAKING STRAIGHT!

But sometimes I wonder too.. but you don't really know I guess.
I mean what if I like her? But well, I know now that I'm straight, I'm sure to you too it's just a girlcrush. ^^
Don't be confused, when the time come you'll know.

I think that nobody's really straight in this world because if it's love, gender doesn't really matter much.

[asianami]

Nah, I've never been confused about it and probably never will. I've never felt that way to a girl before in my life, always just a guy. Nor can I picture myself in a loving relationship with a girl. I'm straight man.

[Swtess]

When I was younger I sort of that 'hmm..maybe I'm a lesbian.'
At the time I was in the confused stage since friends around me were crushing on guys and whatnot.
I didn't particularly liked any guys but found some attractive.
Towards girls I always found them more attractive than guys. Like with their body and stuff they were.
Actually I still do think the female body is more attractive than a guy.
Later on I just came to the realization I just admire and envy the girls. lol

[insa.flyaway]

Yeah I had that for a while..
but then figured out they were just girl crushes.

As a matter of fact, I still have girl crushes lol.
My friends tell me they have that too and sometimes we'd "check out" girls together.
Like, "ohhh..she's pretty hot..i like her legs" etc.

[xTwilight]

I've thought about it, but no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn't look at men the way I look at women.
Even if you were dealing with a tranny.

[angelcadex]

I've seriously pondered whether I was lesbian or bisexual.
I think its an important thing to know about oneself to understand yourself.
I know I'm straight, I could not be with a woman in that sort of way.
I love my boyfriend and content with that X]

[The Legend]

i'm bisexual. I realized it when i was in the 7th grade.

i guess you just know because you know...ugh i cant explain. hm...i guess it's when you don't question yourself anymore about it..

a lot of people don't know that they're lesbian/gay/bi until later. For others they know when they're younger.

also, you don't really need expierence to know if you are or not bisexual or lesbian. i guess it helps but..yeah lol.
at first i didn't have any expierence.

but the only thing i dont like about being bisexual is because most people always say its a stage or that they don't believe in bisexuality, you're either straight or your not (a few of my gay friends say that). but i am what i am i like both females and males so deal with it.

[KAITOU KID.]

But more rather of a, "What if I like that girl" thing?

I think that all the time.

Might have something to do with the fact I'm a guy though...maybe.

Actually I have wondered though (No, not like considering asking out a guy >>__>), but I'm pretty chill with my sexuality. I like girls definitely (!! ).

[_ATELIER]

nope, i'm straight, my friends think I'm bi because whenever i see a pretty girl i stare.
but c'mon, who doesn't check out pretty people.

[Echoe]

Yeah, I get that.

Well, for one thing, I can't stop looking at pretty girls. I size them up, check out what they're wearing, how they did their makeup, what kind of jewelry they're wearing yada yada yada.

Oh, and not to mention I tend to peep at girls with cleavage. This is coming from someone who's straight, but openminded. =)

[EHNerJI]

haha nope, not really @.@
i think i'm way too boycrazy for that LOLOL. xD
you see the way i fangirl
mmmmm but if your daddy was the only guy left, then i might consider it haha x:
but yeah, i don't think anything other than .. she's pretty *moves on* XD
but with guys it's a lot different XD so i can't imagine myself liking them that way ~
2000th post ~ ! yay

[Antz]

noooo. i can never be a lesbian or bi. i'm into guys way too much XD LOL.

[ShadowMax76]

when gay/bisexual thoughts plague your mind

as in , you want to have her -in any way you can think of -

you're bi/gay.


i reckon it's like heterosexuality. when you're a kid, you see prince charming kiss the princess and go "OMG EWWWWWWWW"

..well. something like that.


and then you're conditioned by that, as well as homophobatised ,
THEN you're 'straight'.

curiousity is sorta what leads people into 'discovering' their 'sexuality'
i think.. x3

[kkkkk]

But.. do you ever.. "know" ?
Like are you ever sure ?
And how do yo know?
I'm so confused, I'm sorry. T_T

Its the same as when a straight person falls for another. If you can tell when you like a boy, you can tell when you like a girl. Because i think when we're not talking about the sex, love is love when it comes down to it. Gay or straight.

Can you tell when you like a person? Do you have the desire to keep him/her for yourself, do you want so badly to be with that person? If it is merely a girl-crush, you wouldn't have any feelings for the person besides being impressed by her look, personality or otherwise.

[mars*]

lol i'm straight but i won't deny that i occasionally check out pretty people, guys and girls, because just like someone up there said, you can't help it. sorta like i envy them or because they're pretty or cool or whatever, so i admire them, but i don't actually like them o_o kind of like just admiring your idol? except totally random strangers..