[o0ohenryo0o]

I apologize if this is long or in the wrong area, but I'll have a go with it.

I've had this struggle with my parents. I don't think they value my happiness at all, I think they care enough just to listen and tell me to shut up. I've wanted to move from this area I live in forever. I can't stand it, and I'm scared living here. They say when you go to school you're supposed to feel safe? Well, I don't. People give me hatred, and stupid remarks everyday I go there. I hear the word 'kool-aidgot' so much it doesn't seem to get my attention much anymore. I practically begged my Mom to think about it, she told me to deal with it. How can I deal with it when I have no one to talk to? My friends really don't understand, they think I'm paranoid and stupid. Junior year, I got beat up. Just because I have a different side to my orientation. I'm just living my life how I want to. I couldn't tell my parents, because they'd make a big deal about it. I just told them it was over my friend, which was wrong of me. Few days ago I found out my best friend said I deserved to get beat up? What the hell? I thought she was someone I could confide in. Nonetheless, I was furious. (I no longer speak to her, fyi). I can't set foot in that school again, and if I have to. I don't think I'll be able to stand it. Every time I go there I feel like I'm going to get the hell beat out of me. When I came 'out,' I lost about 70% of my friends? I didn't exactly come out the way I wanted to. Everyone spread it around the school. (Ex. best friend's fault there, also). The town I live in is close-minded, and very hypocritical about everything.

I have no idea what to do. I feel trapped, and my parents won't listen to me. Any advice?
=/

UPDATE:

I'm still at the SAME school! I'm now a Senior.

My parents are PLANNING to sell our houses, so we MIGHT move in the middle of the year. I'm not keeping my fingers crossed.

[xTwilight]

If your parents won't listen, then they won't listen. Can't do anything to change that.

Counselors?

[asianami]

1.) Talk about this to your guidance counselor. Vent it to her/him and let it out. Guidance counselors are really nice and your guidance counselor will do something about the situation since your parents aren't willing to help.

2.) Get new friends. No offense but your friends are crap, including your best friend. Got beaten up junior year what the hell? True friends would understand you, help you and would have your back. Hell, true friends would even go as far as to find out where the person who beated you up live and get revenge.

What do you mean you came "out" by the way?? The image you tried to represent yourself or something??

Oh and

3.) Look into self-defense classes or learn some good kickass moves other than kicking a guy's groin to defend yourself. You say you're paranoid at your school, well then it's good to learn something to defend yourself other than relying on some weapons.

Good luck! Fighting!

[vegtansamtof]

I don't know what I would do. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. If I was in your situation, the first thing that would pop up in my head woud be to run away. But I don't know..

Have you graduated yet? Perhaps you can go to a college out of state.

I'm sorry I'm not much help/

[o0ohenryo0o]

I don't know what I would do. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. If I was in your situation, the first thing that would pop up in my head woud be to run away. But I don't know..

Have you graduated yet? Perhaps you can go to a college out of state.

I'm sorry I'm not much help/

Not much to run away to. I wouldn't get far. =P
I'm a senior next year. :/

1.) Talk about this to your guidance counselor. Vent it to her/him and let it out. Guidance counselors are really nice and your guidance counselor will do something about the situation since your parents aren't willing to help.

2.) Get new friends. No offense but your friends are crap, including your best friend. Got beaten up junior year what the hell? True friends would understand you, help you and would have your back. Hell, true friends would even go as far as to find out where the person who beated you up live and get revenge.

What do you mean you came "out" by the way?? The image you tried to represent yourself or something??

Oh and

3.) Look into self-defense classes or learn some good kickass moves other than kicking a guy's groin to defend yourself. You say you're paranoid at your school, well then it's good to learn something to defend yourself other than relying on some weapons.

Good luck! Fighting!

Come out, usually means to say your orientation. If you catch my drift. =P

Actually, I've been in Counseling, once. They said I had anger problems.

[Swtess]

So why are they all targetting you? Are you talking about those gr. 9 orientation stuff?

[o0ohenryo0o]

So why are they all targetting you? Are you talking about those gr. 9 orientation stuff?

1. I'm 1/8 Asian students in my school.
2. I'm vulnerable.
3. I'm different, yes orientation.

[mchelly114]

1. I'm 1/8 Asian students in my school.
2. I'm vulnerable.
3. I'm different, yes orientation.

sexual orientation? i still don't get what you mean by orientation.

[o0ohenryo0o]

sexual orientation? i still don't get what you mean by orientation.

-.-
Is it not obvious, sexual.

[KAITOU KID.]

LOL@people not getting what is meant by oritentation xDD

Sucks for you. I suppose new friends, and some self-defense is what you need :x

[TyneeTom]

I apologize if this is long or in the wrong area, but I'll have a go with it.

I've had this struggle with my parents. I don't think they value my happiness at all, I think they care enough just to listen and tell me to shut up. I've wanted to move from this area I live in forever. I can't stand it, and I'm scared living here. They say when you go to school you're supposed to feel safe? Well, I don't. People give me hatred, and stupid remarks everyday I go there. I hear the word 'kool-aidgot' so much it doesn't seem to get my attention much anymore. I practically begged my Mom to think about it, she told me to deal with it. How can I deal with it when I have no one to talk to? My friends really don't understand, they think I'm paranoid and stupid. Junior year, I got beat up. Just because I have a different side to my orientation. I'm just living my life how I want to. I couldn't tell my parents, because they'd make a big deal about it. I just told them it was over my friend, which was wrong of me. Few days ago I found out my best friend said I deserved to get beat up? What the hell? I thought she was someone I could confide in. Nonetheless, I was furious. (I no longer speak to her, fyi). I can't set foot in that school again, and if I have to. I don't think I'll be able to stand it. Every time I go there I feel like I'm going to get the hell beat out of me. When I came 'out,' I lost about 70% of my friends? I didn't exactly come out the way I wanted to. Everyone spread it around the school. (Ex. best friend's fault there, also). The town I live in is close-minded, and very hypocritical about everything.

I have no idea what to do. I feel trapped, and my parents won't listen to me. Any advice?
=/

I think you're pretty trapped. Socially, you're trapped.


I don't want to be Mr Negative here, but this "trap" is something you may never be able to escape from.


Nonetheless, you can still go on to become a great poetry writer!

[M$]

I can't believe people do crap like that still, I wish people just accept people for who they are.
Argh, I'm sorry you have to go through that. I don't know what to tell you, since honestly you're
pretty much trapped. You're parents won't listen and your so-called friends are just stupid. Get
new ones, ones who'll be able to stand up for you.

I think it's time for you to stand up for yourself if no one else can. Just stay strong, one more year
and you'll be out of that school. It's tough, but just stay strong.

I just hope the best for you! Take care.

[asianami]

Come out, usually means to say your orientation. If you catch my drift. =P

Actually, I've been in Counseling, once. They said I had anger problems.

Oh, I see. Came out of the closet huh? People are so damn ignorant in your school. I wish they'd just accept you for who you ARE.

And you've been in counseling and they ignored you saying you have anger problems? Dude, I would've so slam the door in their face. Try a different counseling in your area or around your area? And also, have you met your guidance counselor yet? Are there any teachers you have a friendly relationship with? You can talk to your teacher about the situation too after class.

If you're 1 out of the 8 Asian students in your school, what about the other 7 Asian kids? Do they pick on them too, or just specifically you? Or were those 7 Asian students used to/are your friends? If they're not your friends and you've never met them before, try befriending them. If you all start getting closer, who knows? It might come to that they start looking after one another if something happens to a person in that group.

And an incoming senior? Sweet, so look at this way: grab a calendar and start marking off the days left 'til you graduate. You're going to leave that school and town forever! All those haters, the bystanders, and the people who wouldn't dare stick up for you F O R E V E R!

And remember: Karma is a boomerang.

Update us okay? Hope you're doing okay. Fighting!

- Ami

[maguschrono]

Cross-post this in this forum: http://www.gblforum.com/forumdisplay.php?f=11

You need advice from people who've been through these things before. As much as I try to imagine what it would be like, I will still never completely understand. All I can say is be proud of who you are, and happy with what you have (including the true friends who did stick by you). Good luck!

[ihigh]

although i wouldnt know how it is in your shoes...
personally i think like someone ^ said...ur socially trapped, because of narrow minded folks you are trapped. they set a definition for you, and they hate you for it.

1. get new friends
2. college, get away.
3. learn some defense techniques, or totally ignore the ignorant bastards =X
4. dont EVER give up. EVER

and get some counseling, try to talk to them about it...and whatever it is, never hide from ur parents. they're the ones that will always be there for you and their job IS to worry...and u never know, they might be the ones to save u from this hell hole,but they cant if they dont know about it..

keep us in check, there's a solution, but u gotta find it ya know?

[o0ohenryo0o]

Oh, I see. Came out of the closet huh? People are so damn ignorant in your school. I wish they'd just accept you for who you ARE.

And you've been in counseling and they ignored you saying you have anger problems? Dude, I would've so slam the door in their face. Try a different counseling in your area or around your area? And also, have you met your guidance counselor yet? Are there any teachers you have a friendly relationship with? You can talk to your teacher about the situation too after class.

If you're 1 out of the 8 Asian students in your school, what about the other 7 Asian kids? Do they pick on them too, or just specifically you? Or were those 7 Asian students used to/are your friends? If they're not your friends and you've never met them before, try befriending them. If you all start getting closer, who knows? It might come to that they start looking after one another if something happens to a person in that group.

And an incoming senior? Sweet, so look at this way: grab a calendar and start marking off the days left 'til you graduate. You're going to leave that school and town forever! All those haters, the bystanders, and the people who wouldn't dare stick up for you F O R E V E R!

And remember: Karma is a boomerang.

Update us okay? Hope you're doing okay. Fighting!

- Ami

People have always targeted me for looking it, till I finally just came out and said it. I don't know how you look it either, apparently I just do. o.O
The other Asians are completely white washed, and very snotty. No point in even trying to make friendly with some of them. I've befriended one, or two of them.

I've spoken to my guidance counselor. He's stupid, and is very idiotic. My school says they have a low-tolerance for bullying. It's sad that they can't inforce it either.

I'll keep updated mostly from when school starts back, if I've moved, or not. <.<

I know the karma will get to them sooner or later, most of these people will be here and living in trailers for the rest of their life, really.

although i wouldnt know how it is in your shoes...
personally i think like someone ^ said...ur socially trapped, because of narrow minded folks you are trapped. they set a definition for you, and they hate you for it.

1. get new friends
2. college, get away.
3. learn some defense techniques, or totally ignore the ignorant bastards =X
4. dont EVER give up. EVER

and get some counseling, try to talk to them about it...and whatever it is, never hide from ur parents. they're the ones that will always be there for you and their job IS to worry...and u never know, they might be the ones to save u from this hell hole,but they cant if they dont know about it..

keep us in check, there's a solution, but u gotta find it ya know?

New friends is not an option at my school, which is why I'm taking vocational nursing school next year. If I stay, gets me out of there for half a day.
I already know I'm attending a college away from here.
I would take self-defense, here's the thing. My father thinks I don't need them. I've tried getting Mom to, she just ignores me. They always say I quit at things. I'll look into that further.
As for ignoring, you have no clue how hard I try. Sometimes it gets to me, and I completely explode infront of everyone that's there.

I'm not giving up. I've been at this school my WHOLE life. And I've been sick of it since I came here, and my parents refuse to move for my well-being, and my brothers. It's sad sometimes.

I'm going to speak to my Mother tomorrow, because she's off work. I'll give it another go, wish me luck!

[xTwilight]

I would take self-defense, here's the thing. My father thinks I don't need them. I've tried getting Mom to, she just ignores me. They always say I quit at things. I'll look into that further.

I'll tell you one thing before you look further with the idea: doesn't work. Takes years to actually make use of it, depending on what style you learn. Even the moves you learn on the street work better, cause it's pure survival.

[ihigh]

I'll tell you one thing before you look further with the idea: doesn't work. Takes years to actually make use of it, depending on what style you learn. Even the moves you learn on the street work better, cause it's pure survival.

i didnt mean actual...defense techniques in fighting. it'll take too long for him to optimize them.
i meant defense in a sense of learning how to zone out certain things, and different defensive ways to not let things people say get to you

[xTwilight]

i didnt mean actual...defense techniques in fighting. it'll take too long for him to optimize them.
i meant defense in a sense of learning how to zone out certain things, and different defensive ways to not let things people say get to you

Oh.

Well in that case, he still needs a way to defend himself physically.

[DVAYN]

Since you're almost done with high school. I'd say the best way to start a
new life is in college. Try getting a dorm so then you wont have to deal w/ ur
parents. Get new friends....high school kids are very immature.yes. Im not saying
that college kids are any better but they wont care as much. All you can do now is
try to stay away from anyone who's been sh!tty to you. Talk to ur counselor. It'll make
you feel better. FYI...school is NOT a place to feel safe...with all those immature kids
running around and whatnot. GLUCK