[Chanellas]

So I have a really fobby mother who thinks all black people are gangbangers, carry guns, do drugs, are out for her money, and all other stereotypes that brainwashed her due to the media. She's the type that will lock her doors whenever a black guy walks near her car. I was watching Sweet 16 (Makes me feel so much better about myself!) and this girl tries on this gorgeous emerald dress and my mother makes this ludicrous remark,

"Oh, black people love that color." As though it was common knowledge.

WTF

Next a dove commercial for dove deodorant comes on, and as they show different colors, emerald green comes up and there are people of all color wearing emerald green. I pointed that out to my mom and I even told her I liked the color, but she just pretended not to hear me.

Does it bother you when someone close to you says something ignorant or racist?
What do you do?

I wanted to go ape shiet... but that's just me. I love her and all... but her attitude bothers me a lot.

[Lie]

Does it bother you when someone close to you says something ignorant or racist?
What do you do?

Yeah, I kind of know how you feel. The only one in my family that is really racist is one of my older brothers, based mostly around some bad experiences he's had. It annoys me, and I recognize that he's ignorant in that regard, but really there's no arguing with him about it & certainly no changing his mind--I've tried before.

[bonbons]

it bothers me, because I know they aren't stupid. but it's just straight up ignorant. I would call them out and give them a lecture. lol

[Chanellas]

Yeah, I kind of know how you feel. The only one in my family that is really racist is one of my older brothers, based mostly around some bad experiences he's had. It annoys me, and I recognize that he's ignorant in that regard, but really there's no arguing with him about it & certainly no changing his mind--I've tried before.

I agree... we should not judge a group by the actions of few.

Yeah, I've constantly pointed that out to my mother, but no success. I'm surprised she did not brainwash ignorance or hate into me though, since she is my mother.

Well- she doesn't hate them. She's just scared of them.

it bothers me, because I know they aren't stupid. but it's just straight up ignorant. I would call them out and give them a lecture. lol

Ahaha, it's hard to lecture someone who doesn't want to listen though.

[BluBeryVo]

It bothers me a loooot!
If somebody makes a crude comment
like that, it makes me want to full out
punch them in the face! If it's somebody
I know, I'll just ignore them for a long
period of time, then confront them about
it later.

[dann]

tsk tsk sum pplz neva lern

mayb u shd do da same 2 her!! peace own medice namean??
u stewpid azn....blah blah rcst remrk nd wutnut

c how she lyke it!

[M$]

My parents are the same way. I always tell them to shuttup, haha.
I just tell them you don't know them so don't judge them. But they
do it when they watch game shows and gets mad, saying their stupid
and stuff. I hate it, because not all of them are like that..

Just their remarks, period makes me mad. But you can't change them they're
stubborn as can be. Just be glad they don't do it in public.

[CiNdY_iS_cOoL]

yeah .... i know how u feel .. same here ...

but what can u say ... we live in a racist society ...

[safelittlethoughts]

i know how you feel. it gets on my nerves A LOT.
and it's not just from my mom; it's from my mom, her side of the family, AND dad. tsk tsk.
the one thing that sad is that they make such ignorant remarks to EVERY ethnicity, even their own...sometimes. someone in my family once said "ching ching chong chong" and he knows that i have Chinese blood. i was really offended by that.
another time was when i was listening to Korean music and someone (don't remember who) yelled out, "Watch they're going to shoot you if you keep listening to them." -___-

i'm ashamed for having family members who are like this. it seems like only the adults make these remarks.

[masturyan]

My dad isn't racist, but he grew up in a predominantly asian/black neighborhood/school. A lot of black kids used to pick on him, and a few times I've heard him generalize about black people...maybe once or twice. He doesn't hate black people though...must have just been angry that day or something. It doesn't bother me. I don't think it's very easy to change older people though who believe those stereotypes because it's been ingrained in their heads for so long. I suppose you could invite the whitest black girl/guy who doesn't fit the stereotype and bring em home to show her that not all blacks are gangstas.

But I guess we are all guilty of generalizing...I can say that I am. One time a black guy who was wearing gangsta like attire started running in my direction while I was walking down the street and I was like "OH F---". But it turns out he was just running towards a Denny's which was right across from me.

[kireisnowtenshi]

HAHA lol

Im black and you should hear the things my mother says about Korean people...

Anyways yea it bothers me lol...but I just look at her like she's freakin out of her mind...I dont say anything cause she's old...well...44 lol and I have to remember she grew up in a different time...she's not right and I dont accept it...I just choose not to reply cause if I do an argument will ensue so I choose to walk away...

Sheesh...you should hear some of the things she's said about middle eastern people...yeeeeaaaaa lol...its not only you that feels embarassed to have someone say those things and be completely serious about it.

Just like my granny lol...she's crazy too...not too much...cause...well...she...is...yeeaaaa lol....

[sky.xo]

yeah, my dad is like that.
he makes a lot of ignorant racist remarks & i just ignore him.
i tried arguing with him but it's not even worth it anymore, not like he cares.

[kawaiimonstarr]

my parents are the same way. well, my mom mostly.
one time i was going to go hangout with my white girlfriends, my mom gave me a lecture to not belive them and if they ask me to be a hooker, don't?
i was like, wtf? i'm not that stupid.

[Chanellas]

It bothers me a loooot!
If somebody makes a crude comment
like that, it makes me want to full out
punch them in the face! If it's somebody
I know, I'll just ignore them for a long
period of time, then confront them about
it later.

I agree, but even after confrontation, some just pretend they don't hear it. =/

tsk tsk sum pplz neva lern

mayb u shd do da same 2 her!! peace own medice namean??
u stewpid azn....blah blah rcst remrk nd wutnut

c how she lyke it!

LOL!! I should huh!! Yeah my mom can't cook and she's also female so I should dog her on that huh. B/C all girls are suppose to know how to cook.

My parents are the same way. I always tell them to shuttup, haha.
I just tell them you don't know them so don't judge them. But they
do it when they watch game shows and gets mad, saying their stupid
and stuff. I hate it, because not all of them are like that..

Just their remarks, period makes me mad. But you can't change them they're
stubborn as can be. Just be glad they don't do it in public.

Oh man, she does do it in public! Only in a different language!! ><

yeah .... i know how u feel .. same here ...

but what can u say ... we live in a racist society ...

So does that mean I have to sit back and let these racist comments slide? Like racism is okay? =(

i know how you feel. it gets on my nerves A LOT.
and it's not just from my mom; it's from my mom, her side of the family, AND dad. tsk tsk.
the one thing that sad is that they make such ignorant remarks to EVERY ethnicity, even their own...sometimes. someone in my family once said "ching ching chong chong" and he knows that i have Chinese blood. i was really offended by that.
another time was when i was listening to Korean music and someone (don't remember who) yelled out, "Watch they're going to shoot you if you keep listening to them." -___-

i'm ashamed for having family members who are like this. it seems like only the adults make these remarks.

O_O wow. just wow.
For real, why adults? Is it because children don't have that self-consciousness yet? So weird....

My dad isn't racist, but he grew up in a predominantly asian/black neighborhood/school. A lot of black kids used to pick on him, and a few times I've heard him generalize about black people...maybe once or twice. He doesn't hate black people though...must have just been angry that day or something. It doesn't bother me. I don't think it's very easy to change older people though who believe those stereotypes because it's been ingrained in their heads for so long. I suppose you could invite the whitest black girl/guy who doesn't fit the stereotype and bring em home to show her that not all blacks are gangstas.

But I guess we are all guilty of generalizing...I can say that I am. One time a black guy who was wearing gangsta like attire started running in my direction while I was walking down the street and I was like "OH F---". But it turns out he was just running towards a Denny's which was right across from me.

Ahahaha, I should start dating a black guy to see if they'll flip out...
But you're story is so funny. I mean, if anyone was running in my direction at night in my direction I would be freaking out too.

HAHA lol

Im black and you should hear the things my mother says about Korean people...

Anyways yea it bothers me lol...but I just look at her like she's freakin out of her mind...I dont say anything cause she's old...well...44 lol and I have to remember she grew up in a different time...she's not right and I dont accept it...I just choose not to reply cause if I do an argument will ensue so I choose to walk away...

Sheesh...you should hear some of the things she's said about middle eastern people...yeeeeaaaaa lol...its not only you that feels embarassed to have someone say those things and be completely serious about it.

Just like my granny lol...she's crazy too...not too much...cause...well...she...is...yeeaaaa lol....

Yeah, maybe until the old generation will die off, we will have less people with the ignorant mindset. =P
But what if they pass it on to the next generation? I can't imagine...

yeah, my dad is like that.
he makes a lot of ignorant racist remarks & i just ignore him.
i tried arguing with him but it's not even worth it anymore, not like he cares.

Yeah, I felt like I'm hitting the same brick wall over and over again. =(

my parents are the same way. well, my mom mostly.
one time i was going to go hangout with my white girlfriends, my mom gave me a lecture to not belive them and if they ask me to be a hooker, don't?
i was like, wtf? i'm not that stupid.

HAHAH! I can relate.
my mom has also said that white girls were more promiscuous and sexually active and get pregnant. And that Chinese girls are supposed to be 'pure'.
Wrong. Everyone is doing it. LOL XD

[beana*]

yeah i agree sometimes my mom would say something racist
about black people and i'm like "UMM EXCUSE ME how would you
like it if someone said something to YOU since your english isn't
all that perfect " and after i said that she was like whatever
bc she has no comeback. it makes me so angry sometimes bc its
like why are you saying that kind of stuff bc i'm sure YOU had nasty
remarks about yourself that i'm sure you wouldn't like to hear.

[loveforace]

My best friend makes jew/hitler jokes. And not just about jews dude. About every race. Pisses me off. And he knows it, but he laughs it off. D:

But I get to yell at him.. but I understand that it's even more frustrating if it's your mom. It's not like you can be like "WHAT THE john tesh"

[kwanitee]

i know exactly how you feel. my parents are both kinda racist, but more my dad. he once called this mexican kid stupid in some asian supermarket because he couldn't figure out how to pass through one of those turnstile things. but the kid'ds dad was RIGHT THERE.

omfg, no matter how much i call it out, they're still kidna racist. i hate it. it's not only embarassing, but i feel like one of these days my dad is gonna offend the wrong person & you know...

[PoooBear]

it bothers me, because I know they aren't stupid. but it's just straight up ignorant. I would call them out and give them a lecture. lol

>.< I knowww, I do that to my mom too! I can't stand it. She just tells me I'm crazy o.o

yeah i agree sometimes my mom would say something racist
about black people and i'm like "UMM EXCUSE ME how would you
like it if someone said something to YOU since your english isn't
all that perfect " and after i said that she was like whatever
bc she has no comeback. it makes me so angry sometimes bc its
like why are you saying that kind of stuff bc i'm sure YOU had nasty
remarks about yourself that i'm sure you wouldn't like to hear.

OMG I say that to my mom too.
She called some white ladies crazy because they were petting on our dog. O.o I was like "wow mom, that's terrible, how would you feel if someone called you a crazy chinese lady" We're not even chinese btw.
But she just responded with "So? EVERYONE is the same, they all talk about each other like that" and I said "what if they said, what a nice lady, she had such a sweet dog and yet you talk about them like that because they liked our dog, how do you feel about that mom?." and she said nothing. =)

[angelcadex]

My mom only turns on the racist switch when its about my brothers' choices in girlfriends.
Other than that, you can tell she wants to say something, but doesn't.
Oh, and sometimes when a black person is on TV and is doin something wrong

Sometimes when a white person's mug shot shows up I'm like "LOOK MOM!"
And she ignores me ;_;

[daangashleezy!]

It bothers me a great deal when someone says that. I don't care if it's a person I don't know, I'll just tell that person right then and there.

My mom does the same thing! She's racist to African Americans, Koreans, Chinese people (even though she's half Chinese herself), Japanese people, and Mexicans. Yeah, that's right. She's just so unreasonable. We were watching the news together and something about two black guys robbing a liquor store and she said, "See? This is why you stay away from black people. They're all the same."

Her comment really disgusted me and I told her that that's not true and she keeps going on and on about how black people are always on the news doing bad things. YEAH OOOOKAY.