[frog]

thanks everyone for their thoughts

[dann]

chill...getz da popo nd cop a restranin orda STATS

[tecktonik/]

Agreed with dann. RESTRAIN ORDER ASAP

[0nekhmer]

omgsh thats so serious =/ your parents should know what to do and if they dont o.o call the police.

(wow, =/ a lot of people are realllllly open about their personal lives on soompi)

[mchelly114]

don't know why he made the death threat, but she should definitely call the cops.

[TyneeTom]

maybe the girl is under age.

[beana*]

wow imo you shouldn't be
posting on here your sister needs
to like take the kids away at night
or something and GET OUT! call
the po po or something

[ajlee613]

no one said being married would be a nice smooth easy road. no one said that it would only have little scraps and cuts that you can handle.


if they are married and have kids. then that love should be stronger then that. tell her, dont leave.

she is not a little girl. ur sister is a woman. she is married. weakness and selfishness is no longer allowed. she must think for those around her. must think for her children. must think wide, deep, and powerful thoughts.

just because her man is not yet a real man. doesn't mean he will not grow into the large shoes of a married man with children.

to hold in the pain for the sake of her children, to stay even when it is not easy, to stand by his side when he did more then just a mistake, when he wronged her, that is real love.

marriage and love, shouldn't be allowed to the weak minded. ur sister did it anyways, it means forever. divorce is an abomination. it completly destroies any meaning of being married at all.

the day ur brother in law becomes a man and starts acting with thoughts not about himself but about everyone else around him, he will find happiness for ur sister.

but if ur sister cannot wait untill then, then she does not deserve that happiness that he will break his fingers in order to find. he will go thro horrible tortures giving up everything later in order to repay her for her love. he will go thro that pain to repay her for going thro the pain she is going thro now.

when u get married. when u say those vows. u should mean wat u are saying. even tho u are just copying wat the guy says. thro the good and the bad.

right now is the bad. stand thro it. tell her "dont go"

the threat was said out of passion for his children. if u were a mother and some guy could just take ur children and leave wouldn't u react the same way? think before you speak. everyone is talking like children. these people are already adults. they should think like adults.

he will never hurt his children if he would say somthing like that to ur sister in order to stay by his children. he loves them.

for the sake of the children they should work it out. getting all emotional way to fast like high school kids. the world wasn't made for the weak. only the strong survive. even if they aren't that strong now. they will become strong. but if they run away right now. they will continue to be weak forever. running away from ur problems is wat children do.

real men, and good women, persevere through the storm of troubles that come along the path of life.

[SkeptiCal]

Whatever happens, make sure your sister and the children get away from your brother-in-law. Whether he was serious about the threat or not makes no difference, when there's a life at risk, don't take the chance. If your sister doesn't know how to get away from her husband then go to the police.

[xTwilight]

why would he threat her with a death threat?

lol, cause he's possessive, that's what.
He's allowed to see other women in his own eyes, and she doesn't have say in it.

Talk about traditional.

[<3goesDOKIDOKI]

thats not right. tell her to report this to the police. she should be able to come and go whenever she wants.
and she should DEFINITELY not have to worry about her safety around her husband.
it might not even be a safe environment for the kids to be in.
shes clearly distraught and even has suicidal ideations, she needs to be in a more supportive environment so that she can get better.

[super piggy]

omgeee ajlee613... nice little advce there.. its so true.. but at the same time.. its like... a death threat? wtf.

[`tiffany&co_*]

honestly.. though ajlee613's advice is quite logical, i've actually seen this happen within my family, where the wife stuck with the husband though he was unfaithful. and he hasnt changed at all. the wife has just had to live with the pain of knowing that the husband doesnt love her anymore. the only thing that holds her back from leaving is the fact that she wants her children to grow up in a seemingly "normal" family.
and truthfully, the fact that he's pulled out the death threat just means that both the wife AND the kids may be in danger. it's always better to be safe that sorry.

i'd say you need to notify authorities.. it seems pretty serious and if you don't it might get out of hand.

goodluck though. your sister will need your support a lot.

[ajlee613]

to the person abouve, that is sad, that the man did not ever grow up to be a man. but i've also seen it many times. a man will look back and see a good woman that he does not deserve. he will stand tall from then and better himself, he will give up his dreams and all of his pleasure in order to give happiness to his woman.

giving up is so easy. my mom grew up with a hard life of poverty in the poor parts of korea after the war. i grew up in the hood where cooked food was a privilege i got through it remember that my mom said "if it is easy then it is probably the wrong choice"


i'd put money on this, if u ask the dude if he meant wat he said about killing her, he will say "wtf r u stupid? i was scared out my ass about loosing my kids, i just said watever i could think of that might keep them with me long enough for me to sort things out"

somthin like dat.

for me, i would do almost anything for my kids to grow up with a full functioning family. growing up alone gets hard somtimes. when ur a little kid like 5 years old and no one is home, sometimes u get hungry.

i wouldn't let my kids grow up the way i had to. ur brother in law, maybe he understands that. how can ur sister be home if she is always out working and she has some young kids who didnt grow up hardend, they grew up with a person always around, a loving family. how would they react if suddenly they are left totaly alone?

they are children, they are allowed to be weak, selfish, it is the adults that must make up for it by being that much stronger.

if hte death threat was serious, then he doesnt deserve teh kids its true, because he would be taking away the kid's mom. and a kid needs a mom.

if she took the kids away, she also doesnt deserve them, cuz a kid also needs a dad.

if u are really rich then u can slide past this cuz u got lots of free time and money to go places and make memories.

i dont remember anything from when i was a kid other then being alone, eating insteant noodles every day, the water getting turned off in teh hood, having to run to the park to get water. fighting in the lot with everyone and going home with no one to help me put band aids on.

i dont understand how ppl dare think about leaving their children in order to be happy by themselves.

[maguschrono]

You have a responsibility to your sister and your nieces/nephews to call the police ASAP. If anything happens to her you will regret not calling the police, so just do it.

[marshmellow]

I really think your sister should call the cops.
This situation is severe and needs to be handled - but of course, I don't need to be the one to say so.



I wish the best and that everything turns out all right.

[M$]

I definitely think your sister seek immediate attention from the police.
Not only is she in danger, so are the kids. The best thing right now is
to leave the house with her kids away from her husband.

[DRELLA.]

your.sister.needs.to.call.the.cops.

I agree that married life is not easy, like ajlee613 said, but I feel that women shouldn't be
treated this way for the men greediness :/ and ... you really shouldn't be here on Soompi while your sister
is in that situation ><

[Aerolite]

How did your sister find out about the cheating? Because if he was 'man' enough to tell her straight up, I'd say that makes a difference. It wouldn't make what he did right, but it's certainly more respectable than if she found out on her own while he hid it.

Sometimes people say crazy, stupid things and overreact for the sake love. I tend to be like that in cases where I'm highly emotional. Sometimes people over exaggerate things (I don't blame your sister at all for her actions) and when they tell their friends/family about their problem, many things are just said out of context because they're in need of support. Whether it's healthy or not is the issue. I don't truly think that her husband would kill her, either...He probably just had some sort of immediate reaction, like ajlee613 said. Your sis being suicidal shouldn't be taken lightly...She's the victim, and she needs all the support she can get.

Hopefully they both learn their lessons and things work out for the better of their children (foremost) and themselves.

[suki_*]

i think the family to get to where she is... because a restraining order is only a piece of paper and it's not going to protect you when he actually does proceed for the kill. she needs family by her side and the police also.

in the long run like AJLEE said, it's really important to consider the kids and to make sure that they have a proper upbringing so hopefully they can work out the marriage... go to counselling or husband goes to anger management... and just try to keep the family relationships neutral and well for the kid's sake.