[lozerbutt]

thanks everyone for helping me and some for telling me how she probably feels. i think i will take this problem and try to deal with it on my own now :]
thanks much

-Emily S.

[_ATELIER]

your sister deserves a pinkberry slap across her face =/

... ever tried confronting her? not the "oh you hurt my feelings" but
"you're a total pinkberry, and i don't understand how people can stand you"
kind of confronting? ...try it.., i really despise nonsupporting family members, defeats the concept of 'family'.

[shirotaka]

your sister deserves a pinkberry slap across her face =/

... ever tried confronting her? not the "oh you hurt my feelings" but
"you're a total pinkberry, and i don't understand how people can stand you"
kind of confronting? ...try it.., i really despise nonsupporting family members, defeats the concept of 'family'.

Some family members are supportive by being non-supportive. My family members, although they say I won't make it here and there, and tell me that I didn't do good enough still care about me. They tell me those things so that I could push harder to defy their put downs. Maybe this is what your (topic reader) is doing to you.

By the way if you want to get into Harvard, its spelled unsupportive

[tecktonik/]

Oh my god, I have a similar sister... She's not as unsupportive as yours but she puts me down a lot and is really rude to me. She starts arguments out of nowhere talking about "my anger problems" and stuff... I don't even know if she notices how much it hurts.

I'm not sure how to deal with it myself. But all I can say about your sister is that she needs a very large pinkberry slap. As said above.

[_ATELIER]

Some family members are supportive by being non-supportive. My family members, although they say I won't make it here and there, and tell me that I didn't do good enough still care about me. They tell me those things so that I could push harder to defy their put downs. Maybe this is what your (topic reader) is doing to you.

By the way if you want to get into Harvard, its spelled unsupportive

well, reverse psychology doesn't work for me.
and i thought so, i was debating between that but Mozilla suggested "nonsupporting" -_____- *edits*
AH now i'm confused, who were you correcting buddy �_�?

[M$]

^ Correcting the topic starter, I believe.

Show her she's wrong and that you could make it.
Just be motivated when she say things like that.
Sadly I'm do the same thing to my little brother. I give him tough love because I want
him to have a good life and not mess up and be a disappointment to my family like me
and my siblings have. He's the youngest, so we're really hard on him to do good in life.
I may not be as harsh as your sister, but I just want him to be a better person.

Even if you're sister says those harsh things, let that motivate you to be a better person,
not like your sister and do big things in your life!

[shirotaka]

^
Yeah I was correcting the topic starter.

[vikkay]

i say you smack her so hard that her head falls off [:
hahha jk

but dont listen to her. if shes gonna be an Chuck Norris, then forget her.
you can find someone else that will support you all the way!

[blurr]

it kind of sounds like she`s jealous ((yes kind of.. out of the blue right? but that`s how i see it xP)) like maybe there`s something about you that she is envious of, but she`s too proud to acknowledge it & would rather see you fall? idk > <" it seems she has some problems .. internally if that makes sense xP

[simplicity85]

remember, don' try to let her words bring you down- be strong and do what you feel like your heart tells you to-

it is your life by the way, not HERS! she has no right to say anything really. you live for yourself, not for anyone else-

let her diss you all she wants, but in the end, it is your life you're dealing with. you're the one who make decisions for your future.

even if she thinks you're not smart or you can't dance, doesn't mean the rest of the world think the way she thinks as well

CHEER UP ^^

[demllequ]

eh. she's not your sister, she's so mean.
maybe she's jealous of you or something - you dont need her support.
you can always ask someone else you is close to you for their real opinions and constructive criticism; don't tell your sister anymore
and if she ever talks to you just give her, her own medicine aka calling her a retard and telling her to get away from you when your around your friends and see how she feels.
its good that you dont treat your younger sister like that, she's so lucky to have you as a sister and i think you are a really sweet older sister.

[daisy_changstah]

Sounds like my older brother.
I cried because of it.
He used to be so supportive of me, but now he's not. It really makes me sad.
Anyway, I told him how I felt, and forced him to listen. Now, he's a tiny bit nicer, but not much progress.

Even though your sister is being like that, try not to let it get in your way of success. Do what you like, and prove to her you can be successful. Prove to her that she can't look down at you.
Maybe, one day, she might realize it.

Hope you feel better!

[Mardi09]

Do you know that being an older sister is really tough?
Coming from an older sister herself with THREE younger sisters
ages 16(one year younger than me), 14 and 12
it's a tough life to live...I don't know if your sister would feel the same as I
but...me being a big sister is hard...
I once read in an article, so this is statistically true, that older sisters will
usually have LOWER self esteem compared to their younger sisters...and it's quite true...
I boss my sisters around, yes
I say I don't care, yes
I am unsupportive sometimes, yes
but...it's because I want to be a good role model to them...and I feel as though
I'm not good enough...I'm not as smart as my younger sisters, but there are things they don't know that I do..
and you know...i do feel jealous of my sisters...all the time...i do things......i b!tch them around...what? to make me feel better? maybe so....but you know...deep inside...I want what's best for them...I'm trying to help them..
I love them dearly...and even though they view me as a "mean sister"...trust me...I understand....
but....I want you to know....I'm pretty sure it's not because she's "unsupportive"....I'm sure she supports you..
or like me...I just say whatever...because unless I know they need some advice..I let them do what they feel is right and good for them...
so before you b!tch at your sister or do something retarded....
just remember that she's your older sister...your only older sister and that she loves you...
even if she doesn't express her feelings to you or something...

shoot..if you are great in the things you did..of course I'd be jealous too...
hey..I'm jealous of my sister...I wish I was smart like her...and had some qualities like her
but I know there are some things I know and do and have that are unique..so...yeah...

I know it's hard for you that your sister is unsupportive of you...but....I don't really know what to say...
my situation is the same as yours...except...I'M THE OLDER SISTER.....
I let my sister boss me around, even if she's younger than me....and I don't know why....

but...hope everything works out for you...I'll check back here when you reply...


*i might even ask my sister for her opinion..although..she thinks what I do is dumb..but I'll ask anyway...*

[pnguyen1028]

You need to stop listening to your sister because you obviously understand your own situation all too well.

-She won't listen
-She's unsupportive
-She won't change after 4 years

I have two really close cousins to me. They're brothers. The older one... let's just say he's not the popular type and the younger one cares about his looks, works out, plays tennis, fun to be around, ect. The older one tends to put the younger one down when he tries to do something. He'll make fun of him when he loses at tennis (even though he's #1 in his school, there's always better right?) and junk like what you're going through.

You know what he does? He does it anyway and he does it GOOD. When the older brother makes fun of him cause he thinks he's stupid, the younger one gets motivated to try even harder. When he gets BETTER, he rubs it in the olders ones face.

As of right now, there's nothing that I can think of that the younger one hasn't beatten the older brother in.

17 years old, half way to his bachelors degree, #1 on his high school tennis team, fit, smart, and still young.

That's where the bullying got him and that's what you need to do too! You need to have confidence in yourself instead of looking for it elsewhere. Use the bullying to get you to higher places.

[lozerbutt]

To mardi09--
idk if she could be jealous of me because other than being smart, she's a excellent singer and a very good dancer...but it could be a possibility that she thinks i could go farther than her?

to others thanks much for your advice...she's moving out when the new school year ends so hopefully i will live happier in this house.

[AsobiSeksu]

I'm crying as i write this
i know most people will write "just tell her how you feel when she says these things"
but she isn't the type of person to listen to others people problems. She'll just laugh at me and say "your retarded. I don't care gosh. Get away from me."

wow. your sister sounds really immature if she says that.
i know this is going to sounds pretty harsh, but you need to stop crying over it.
there are going to be people like her in the future, but could be twice as worse.
all i can really say is don't listen to her. don't look up to her if she's saying those kind of things to you.
you really don't have to take sh*t from her.
ask her how it would feel if she told those kind of hurtful things to your youngest sister?
you can find someone wayyy more supportive than her.

[dancingbymyself]

Honestly... maybe you do suck, and she just doesn't want to lie to you.

OR

My older brother wanted to sing, I told him he sucked, and he went and practiced for like
3hrs a day. He's actually really good now.
He wants to lose weight, so I call him a fat cow, and poke his (not really there) gut.
I may seem like a pinkberry but, I think it really spurs my brother on lol.
Maybe being unsupportive is her way of being supportive.

AND

Finally, If little things like that make you cry, then you should see a therapist... you seem a bit overemotional.

[HOSHIKO--]

reading this just wants me to burst into tears.
I know what you're going through too. I have an older brother that
says the most hurtful things in the world, unsupportive, abusive too
And i know there's a lot of people to say that we have to get over it
but they just haven't realized what you had to go through for so long
that you've been keeping it inside & now you just like gotta explode!

...at least that's how i feel :/


Honestly, the only thing you can do is just IGNORE it. I know it's
kinda hard to avoid your sister since she lives in the same house-
hold as you...but just try to overcome it. Try avoiding your sis
for awhile. Keep a distance from you sister. It'll kinda ease the
whole unsupportive thing. I don't think anyone wants to hear
those kinds of comments that your sister gives to you on what you
do. Keep doing what you love doing, don't let her stop you.

But what i think you're sister is doing is just lowering your
self esteem. It's kinda hard for the older siblings to get
attention around & love, so i think maybe that's why
she is acting like that. Overall, pull it together. Be tough
& dont' let her stop you. If you keep on pushing yourself
to do well & she sees it, eventually she'll stop pestering you.

[�|y]

Don't take her words to heart, she obviously doesn't understand the importance of good relationships between sisters.

[.iBumm.x]

Smack her HARD Don't listen to the hurtful things she says
You could tell someone in your family
Shes doesn't deserve to be called a sister D<
Your sister is not in Harvard, so that means shes the stupid one, you're not
Unlike her, you're nice