[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

This'll be sorted out eventually.
Thanks for most of your responses.

[yellow103]

tell it to his girlfriend

he'll get what he deserves

[soyunee]

aww hun im sorry to hear you were in an uncomfortable situation like that
but he made you promise not to say anything to anyone???
girl, get out of there like NOW. put in your two weeks and leave when you can. you shouldnt have to work around someone who touched you like that and then made you promise not to say anything.
and if anyone does bash on you, just ignore it.
its something that you cant help. you didn't know what else to do and its okay
just the next time it happens, and in college, it WILL happen again loll, just tell the guy to back off if you feel uncomfortable
good luck hun

-s

[Terazu]

yup, def let his girlfriend know.
He cant go around thinking what he did is alright.

if you really need the job, let your supervisor know you're uncomfortable around the guy
and if either you can work at different shifts from this guy, or if that isnt possible, to simply turn in your 2 weeks.

if you really need the job, always keep a girlfriend near you and she'll have your back (hell, even if she's a pinkberry.
she'll get you for this. sisterly love and what not <3)

and i know, at times when you think of such things happening to you, you'd never understand why a girl didnt do MORE to stop
it from happening..unless you're in that situation, and its completley different =(

Its good that you at least did something, but now, if you're ever faced with this situation again, you're slightly better prepared.

and feel free to pinkberry slap like crazy and hit him over the head with a plate before escaping the house. of course.

[coreancc]

Did he force you to promise that you wouldn't tell anyone? Still, whatever the case, I don't know if that is a promise meant to be kept. I would tell his superior and his girlfriend. There are so many pitfalls with this situation that his superior will probably be quite upset, possibly scared (from the potential of sexual harassment charges), and may even fire him. Legally, sexual harassment charges may not stick in this situation, but I once had someone under me do something similar and I fired him immediately because I knew it would only be a matter of time before this person's lack of self control endangered the company.
Also, you are underage - what is this guy thinking? I mean, if nothing else, doesn't the fear of ruining his life forever hold him back? Stay away from this guy, he is trouble. And if there is any way you can take him down, do so. Protect the next girl from what you've gone through.

[hippiehop]

^ Actually in some states the legal consensual sex age is lower than 18. I know in GA it's 16 and in LA it's like... as long as they are <2 years older (I know that one because of good ol' Jamie Lynn Spears)

Maybe he's like that with all his friends, ha jk. He's such a creeper. I agree with everything Chianti said. Especially the pinkberry slapping part.

[wr3ck3dd]

Disgusting. Unsolicited attention is the WORST kind of attention. I would follow yellow103's advice and tell his girlfriend. Then film the ensuing fight in your place of work and put in on youtube.'

Oh that seems so childish for me to say! let me get back to the point. It's really up to you to decide what you want to do. For what it's worth, I wouldn't let some childish, stupid guy take away your plans for the summer. And moreover, if he does harass you at work, you can always file a claim for sexual harassment.

Good luck!

[xjuiiccy]

Seriously tell his girlfriend .
This low-life thinks he can mess with you while KEEPING a gf .
HECK NO ! & plus, it's helping his gf by letting her realize what a creep he is .
Good Luck, girl !

[xTwilight]

so I figured that it wouldn't matter if I went alone or anything..which is stupid and I know that NOW, but..

What do you know now..?

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

^ That going alone is stupid.. :/ Sorry, the way I write is really weird.

Thanks guys for your replies.. the only problem is that I have no idea how to contact his girlfriend at all 'cause she doesn't work with him or have a facebook or anything... she pops in to visit him occasionally, and it'd be reaaaally awkward and weird if I told her then or something.
I've never spoken to her before, I just know that she exists..

I think what I'll do is ask to get my schedule changed/shift hours with someone or something.

[coreancc]

...
I think what I'll do is ask to get my schedule changed/shift hours with someone or something.

That's going easy on him. Man, I want to see justice... is there no way to teach him a lesson here?

[FooFooRuk]

i don't think you should blame yourself
and no we're not going to bash you

but yeah what everyone else said
i think you should tell his gf
in the name of sisterhood, as bean pie as that is lol

[sodaniechea]

Most likely, if you tell her, he'll deny it and then theres a whole other case of thing @_@ Shoooot if I were in your situation, I would've busted his nose. But yea, you should just leave your 2 week notice

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

So I told my supervisor that I felt uncomfortable working around ___ and then I explained the entire situation..and we're going to talk to the other 4 managers to see what we could do tomorrow.
He told me that he'd rather keep me for a month and fire ___ rather than me quit..

They want to get the police involved, but I don't think that's necessary.. I just don't want to feel awkward.
And..I don't want ___ to be vindictive and like...hurt my family or anything.. he knows where I live.
If they want to get the police involved, I think I'll just quit or something..

I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks for your help. :]

[strawberrii chuuu]

let his gf know... she has a right to know.

[coreancc]

So I told my supervisor that I felt uncomfortable working around ___ and then I explained the entire situation..and we're going to talk to the other 4 managers to see what we could do tomorrow.
He told me that he'd rather keep me for a month and fire ___ rather than me quit..
...
I'll keep you guys updated. Thanks for your help. :]

Woohoo! Way to go! Your courage is commendable - you did the right thing, imho. We'll be cheering for you.

[Terazu]

Thanks guys for your replies.. the only problem is that I have no idea how to contact his girlfriend at all 'cause she doesn't work with him or have a facebook or anything... she pops in to visit him occasionally, and it'd be reaaaally awkward and weird if I told her then or something.
I've never spoken to her before, I just know that she exists..

Its great that you got the the courage to talk to your supervisors, and it seems like they're going to be completley there for you

lol. i might be being a little vindictive, but i'd use the same courage you used for your supervisors on the girlfriend that visits, and just say something along the lines of. . . . "this may be nothing, but i think i saw your b.f. kissing another girl .."


XDDDDD;;; etc. take it, wing it, whatever it. o_o; or just tell her what really happened too..


p.s. -- tell your supervisors if you dont want the police involved, or say its a decision that should be decided by you and your family. =/

[livelaughlove]

before i rush into judgment...did this guy stop after you told him you were uncomfortable? while it really doesn't excuse his actions because he has a girlfriend, if he did stop, then i don't feel like it's something to freak out so much about. guys can be sort of...dense (sorry guys!) and unless you tell them STRAIGHT UP, they will either think you are teasing, or that you don't really mean it. Sort of the whole by no, she means yes mindset . i'm totally not blaming you for what happened, but if you ever find yourself in a situation like that again (god forbid), pleaseplease do not hesitate to straight up tell the person to stop. something like this kinda happened to me once before and i was like you...i didn't have the balls to say "wtf is going on?? stop!" straight up. don't be afraid to speak up for sure. it's when the person DOESN'T stop that you have a serious problem..

[Sweetraindrops]

telll bunchaa ppl.. lol..

copp.. mangaagur.. familly...

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

^ Uhh... I did tell people.
I'm not taking police action though, that's too much.

I told him to keep his distance from me at work or else I'll 'tell everyone, including my boss'...even though I already did tell my manager + supervisors.

livelaughlove: Yes, he stopped after I told him, so props for that. I suppose if he was ""even more tired/not thinking clearly"" as he claimed, then.. I could have easily been raped or something. I don't know x___x

I'm going to work completely different shifts from him now, even if that's hard to do without cutting some hours... and the schedule will overlap some.
-shrug. I'll just have to deal with it for a month..although I really wish they would fire him for unrelated reasons, like, sucking at selling or something.

Again, thanks guys for your help.