[영원한 사랑]

I just finished my freshman year of college and I can honestly say making friends my first year of college was tough. The sad thing is that the only friends I see are the ones from high school ... which are very few. The thing is I talk to people and stuff but we just don't click so I don't even bother to further friendships.


I hope it gets better in sophomore year cuz its been kinda lonely
the friends i have now are only like the 2 i had from high school and basically no one else
(everyone else left me for out of state)

[hungrycollegeboy]

I've got to agree. It was pretty tough.
One reason was because I lived in an apartment my first year instead of a dorm so that made it worse.

[touche`]

Really? I'm the opposite. I can make friends easily but I don't wish to make friends. It's hard to make friends when some people don't want to be your friends either. :[

[felinius]

I have problems making friends... even though I had "friends" when I did live in dorms, a lot of them don't stick and are just fairweather friends. When I moved out most just drifted away, blah!

To remedy the situation I joined a club, which has helped me make a few more friends.

[pri-T]

If being unable to find common interests is your main problem, joining orgs might be a good way to remedy that. It is pretty much luck whether or not you click with people you live around, but when you join orgs, all the people there share at least one commonality, whether it's ethnic/cultural background, love of volunteering, interest in a particular career field, a sport, etc.

It was pretty easy for me to make friends in my dorm my freshman year, but my closest friends are those I made through joining orgs. Transitioning from high school to college really forced me to come out of my shell and be outgoing in order to make new friends.

[asianpanthers]

hm. this thread sounds depressing. i made a bunch of friends living in the dorms. i think that just through room mates, their friends, and people on your floor, you've got at least 100 people to choose from?

plus, i was easy to pick out when i was a freshman. my hair was...as long as it is now =P and i just randomly started talking to people who were in my classes. maybe it's that people are talking to you, but you're not picking up a conversation because...i mean, when you're in class, your first thought probably isn't "lets make a conversation" but i also met a lot of people just going out and drinking. not to say that i promote college alcoholism, but i WOULD say that just going out and nursing a beer at a bar/club is a pretty easy way to meet new people =)

i wouldn't say that i had any trouble meeting new people when i was a freshman. maybe you should try going to a church? it's kind of like forced friendships. i never cared for those, since it was church, i felt like a jerk not wanting to associate with some of the weirdos, "you're going to hell if you're not as christian as me" freaks, or just socially awkward people so i picked up and went to a different one that didn't make me do that kind of stuff...but i guess i met the most people through my best friend. we met randomly playing bball (something i'm awful at, but he's super good at) he had a good laugh at my terrible game, and invited me to a beginning of the year party that he was having...and he's got charisma to spare, so he attracted a lot of people...i guess i kind of had it easy as far as making friends by using him as a crutch?

but a lot of people you'll befriend just because you see them around a lot, same hangouts, same study area, same classes, etc.

i rambled a ton. i dont think anything i said was helpful =P

[pseudobread]

I've got to agree. It was pretty tough.
One reason was because I lived in an apartment my first year instead of a dorm so that made it worse.

i was pretty much in the same situation
however, even though i lived in an apartment, i still made friends (mostly by joining orgs) but not many close friends

[ronmexico]

Since you seem to have stayed in-state, are you living at home? If I hadn't lived in a dorm my freshman year, I don't know if I would have made any friends. Looking back, I met just about all of my close friends from college either on my floor freshman year, or through people I met on my floor. I lived in an apartment during law school and didn't really make a lot of friends there.

I think it's generally easier for girls, since guys will usually approach them.

[ringo<3]

Ah...its super hard for me too. It seems like everyone wants to stick with their high school friends. I'm just hoping living in a dorm will help me communicate with more people.

[tofu plushie]

Yeah, I agree it's kind of difficult make friends. Easy to make acquaintances occasionally in class. But, hard to make friends that you like hang out with and do stuff :\

[Sweetraindrops]

what i see... girlz mad shy... same boyz...

ask ppl bout the class... homework.. when you miss day ask what happen last class..

yea.. ask ppl stuff.. then you be makin friend..

[<3 Kim]

Yeah I don't really like talking to new people randomly :x
So I didn't make many friends either.
But i did make lots of new friends during fresher parties

[ashchronicles]

agree..agree..*nods*
it's easier to make friends in middle school huh?^^
i've been pretty depressd with my choice of major so i dont really bother to click with my friends last sem..
but i'll try to meet new ppl nex year ^___^
good luck to me!

[SHARK]

I dont know how hard it is making them IN college, but I've made a couple of decent friends that I talk to quite often on FB who are going to be attending the same college as me, and they're not from my school (Like...5 buddies from FB?).

[koneee]

I have trouble making TRUE friends in college. I know I have a couple, but I haven't been spending time with them. I miss my crownie friends.
It's easy to make friends in college, but it's hard to make REAL friends in college, those who would go out of their way to see you, hang out with you, and do anything for you. THE ONES WHO YOU CAN RELY ON!

[supersoad1]

it's definitely not easy, i can sympathize with you

[Sl1ckb00ty]

I think it's a lot easier to make friends if you live on campus. But don't worry! There are plenty of things you can do to get involved- Join a club, sorority/fraternity, club sports team, school govt... etc. Trust me, there is a LOT you can do so stay positive for this coming year! =]

[Pogichinoy]

I found it easy to make friends, the ones I made were people who approached me outside of class, people in class, etc.

College/University was the best time!

[ra123]

I had a very hard time making friends in the first few months of my semester.
I was shy, reserved, and avoided contact with surrounding peers, not because I wasn't sociable but because I lacked the drive to socialize and make friends. It seemed less work to keep quiet and stick with my small group of friends rather then to spend my time contacting other people that may not necessarily have the same conventional needs as me. I weighed the risk of staying comfortable over the possibility of having a discomforting change.

Things went for the better in the past three months for me though. I brought up that drive and I made an attempt to make friends. In multi cutural society like America its very easy to talk to strangers without having them look at you strangely and think otherwise. I've talked to mexicans, arabians, caucasions, and a variety of people from different ethnic origins and it was smooth sailing from there.

I think what makes the difference between someone that can make friends and someone that can't is the incentive behind their urge to socialize with many people. The more urge they have to talk with people, the more likely they are to make friends.

[hippiehop]

Freshman year was easy to make friends since I lived in a traditional dorm and everyone was meeting new people then so it was easy to just meet a whole bunch of people and chill with people you didn't really know well.

After freshman year though, friends were usually made through friends or through class.

I talked to this hot guy because I knew he had a couple classes with me and I saw him working on work for the other class and so I just asked him if he was in mine (even though I already knew) hahaha. I'm sly.