[assa123]

I just heard a lot since i came to the states.
I think it's kind of weird since they are from same country.
Many people say there are big culture gap between them but...
anyway, I want to hear some story how twinkie and fob be a couple and sweetheart.
If anybody experieced?? or is experiencing?

[~koe*no*sainou~]

what's a twinkie? O.O..........

[assa123]

twinkie = born in the states and has been grown up in the states

[XlYesterdaYlX]

if they like each other enough i'm sure it can work out.

[supa'Wanki]

That mini cooper doesnt matter yo. you're making it sound like an americanized person and a foreign person from the same ethnic origin are a whole new different race. It's like saying interracial relationships wont work because the cultural difference is there.

It's all a generalization. People need learn to look at each person as an individual than a general cliche.

If the two people can communicate, there's no limit to what can happen.

[pyrochild]

there's a ban on ethnicity related topics.

[Amanda Plz]

^ Yeah. A thread like this is only going to ignite arguments, OP.

[Lie]

what's a twinkie? O.O..........

Asian person who's really involved in white culture (i.e. twinkie = yellow on the outside, white on the inside). It's often used as an insult.

[xstarBURST]

twinkie = born in the states and has been grown up in the states

that's what a twinkie is? i always though twinkie meant a white washed asian. .__.

[WENJJANG]

That mini cooper doesnt matter yo. you're making it sound like an americanized person and a foreign person from the same ethnic origin are a whole new different race. It's like saying interracial relationships wont work because the cultural difference is there.

It's all a generalization. People need learn to look at each person as an individual than a general cliche.

If the two people can communicate, there's no limit to what can happen.

I agree with you.

If the two can communicate with each other, understand each other, then anything can happen.
Being American born, or w/e doesn't make a difference. If you want to make it work, it will probably work.

[Jenneh]

~koe*no*sainou~: A twinkie is a connotation for an Asian who's generally either white-washed or is very Westernized since they were born/raised in the US/Canada/UK/Australia (or any other Western country for that matter). Think of what a twinkie looks like (a cream filled yellow cake, and that's basically how some people would describe an Asian who has adapted the culture of Western countries (they may be Asian and possess Asian features, but their traditional roots may be almost nonexistent in some cases since they've adapted to Western tradition); in some instances, instead of a twinkie, people would refer Asians who have adapted to Western culture as "bananas" with the same concept in mind.

assa123: Speaking from a personal point of view, yes a twinkie and a fob can be together. In some circumstances, the culture differentiation may make it a bit more difficult for a couple to be together due to the language barriers or traditional values, but outside of that, there shouldn't be any other problems aside from what every couple faces (jealousy, trust and honesty, etc.); in the end, what it really comes down to are the individual themselves, how they make it work and how their personalities collide.

I had an ex-boyfriend who was 50/50 Chinese/Vietnamese (same as me) who was a fob, and although we lasted about 2 years, what ultimately lead us apart was due to his dishonesty, rather than our cultural differences (although his views of woman needing to be the whole "traditional housewife" annoyed me). I also have a friend who's been together with her boyfriend for over 3 years and are still holding strong; she's a Vietnamese who was born and raised in the US, and he's a Korean who was born and raised in Seoul and immigrated here about 6 years ago; and after 3 years, despite all of their cultural differences, they're still happy. A twinkie-fob relationship is just like any other relationship regardless of race or tradition; in order for it to work or not, it all depends on you and your significant other and whether or not you're willing to compromise and make it work out; culture and tradition shouldn't have an affect whatsoever.

[[HyuNi]]

That mini cooper doesnt matter yo. you're making it sound like an americanized person and a foreign person from the same ethnic origin are a whole new different race. It's like saying interracial relationships wont work because the cultural difference is there.

It's all a generalization. People need learn to look at each person as an individual than a general cliche.

If the two people can communicate, there's no limit to what can happen.

You're right to a certain degree, but I think you're over simplifying it with the general 'love conquers all' mentality.
(I'll be refering to a twinkie as American born and fob as from Korea)
I've seen a lot of successful interracial couples, and the ones that have actually worked out was because one person gave up their culture to be with his/her s/o.
The most common issue I've seen between a 'twinkie' and a 'fob' couple is that the one born outside of Korea tends to lack self-identity; they don't quite fit in the american culture and also are just different enough to not be called a true 'korean'. They try to assimilate themselves to the 'fob' culture, yet they get only as far as, "Wow, you're good at speaking Korean!" or "Wow, you know this song, joke, popular trend, too?!" I've experienced this first hand with my ex who came to the states 1 1/2 years ago... It always felt like I being treated as some kind of spectator.
I disagree with you because I strongly believe that a person's beliefs and values are formed during childhood and with an upbringing in the states opposed to in korea is VERY different.
In some ways, I felt betrayed by the korean culture because I grew up watching "Dooly" and "Bbo Bbo Bbo", eating korean food everyday, and grew up in a very traditional korean home despite living in America, yet not being considered a Korean.
But I'm past that because I have the ability to pick and choose what I like about the Korean & American culture and form my own cultural identity. I joke around that I'm like Shin ramen: I'm not made in Korea, but I'm still a product of Korea! haha

I'm not saying it's not possible, but I would rather prefer finding someone with a similar background instead of constantly clashing due to cultural differences. It's just more comforting to know that she completely understands where I'm coming from because she has most likely gone through it, too.

[영원한 사랑]

Of course its possible.
I know alots like that, some don't even speak korean at all and they dated someone who sucked at english.
You can help each other out, its no big deal