[kaowin]

I know this is a lame question but the few times i've been to a bar, my friends and I always stand there awkward. Like we've suddenly ran out of stuff to talk about. but the second we're out of the bar, we talk like normal. also I've never been the one to order drinks at the bar. how do you go about doing this. what do you say exactly.

[addicted2kdrama]

^ that means you haven't had enough to drink yet. It should be somewhere along the lines of bartender can you get me a ...

[precious4e]

eH.. I usually just lean over the counter and shout "Can I get a _____" over the music.
And the more I drink the more I talk.
But some people just aren't bar people and feel out of place there. Nothing wrong with that.

[kaowin]

people always talk about menus at the bar, but I never see it. I usually get the same old coke and rum. Where do these bar menus tend to be?

[Unseen Choice]

people always talk about menus at the bar, but I never see it. I usually get the same old coke and rum. Where do these bar menus tend to be?

Ask the bartender they'll pull one up for you, I usually frequent bars and I think the best time to get comfortable there is when a home town team is playing. You'll have plenty to talk about and it keeps the ball rolling if you run out of something to talk about.

[Pogichinoy]

Either speak to your friends about what you talk about outside of the bar, i.e. work, relationships, toys, food, etc. Or meet and speak to strangers at the bar.

[TyneeTom]

How to act at a Bar....hmm...

1. Less stressed than you were, when you came in.



Epic win answer!

[kaowin]

Ask the bartender they'll pull one up for you, I usually frequent bars and I think the best time to get comfortable there is when a home town team is playing. You'll have plenty to talk about and it keeps the ball rolling if you run out of something to talk about.

i'm never been to a sport bars. I've only been to trendy bars, no TVs or at least they aren't usually on. Do you still ask the bartender for menus then? Also, how do you go back ordering drinks with crazy names like adios m*therF*cker? you usually say the full thing?

[Unseen Choice]

i'm never been to a sport bars. I've only been to trendy bars, no TVs or at least they aren't usually on. Do you still ask the bartender for menus then? Also, how do you go back ordering drinks with crazy names like adios m*therF*cker? you usually say the full thing?

Yes I'd still ask for a menu, and I usually say the full name of it unless the bar isn't packed.

[W-K]

eH.. I usually just lean over the counter and shout "Can I get a _____" over the music.
And the more I drink the more I talk.
But some people just aren't bar people and feel out of place there. Nothing wrong with that.

Same here.. i get really talkative when I drink haha.

Bar Menu: Are you a beer drinker or do you prefer mixed drinks? If you're a beer drinker then you should be set on what you like. If you like mixed drinks you can always ask the bartender to suggest some drinks to you. If you're gonna ask for suggestions, try that out at a bar that isn't too busy or loud as you'll get passed over if its busy and it looks like you're indecisive. Alternatively, you could just google some popular bar drinks online and remember the names to try out.

Discussion topics: Most people like to unwind after work--but talking about how much work you did, office politics or how much you hate your job is usually dull. You can talk about:

- recent movies you've seen
- stuff from the news
- gripe about your relationship
- gripe about not being in a relationship
- randomly talk about philosophical points (i.e. is photography art? What is the purpose of religion? Hotdogs and Buns unequally distributed???)
- what your vacation plans are
- plan for future adventures

Really conversation should be free flowing and always moving.. try to be spontaneous and random.. always be thinking.. and linking thoughts so that you can keep the ball rolling.

[[HyuNi]]

If you feel awkward at the bar... why do you go?
That's how I feel going to clubs, so I don't go, unless it's someone's birthday or an event, or my friend's got the hook up for a free night.

I'm guessing you're not much of a drinker.

I like the bars, but lately I just gather a few of my good friends, and rotate drinking at each other's house.
It's cheaper and more relaxed than going out. I'm getting LAZY... haha
Next time, it's going to be Soco-lime shot pong night. haha

[rachilde]

Get drunk and the rest of the night will come together for you!

[W-K]

I like the bars, but lately I just gather a few of my good friends, and rotate drinking at each other's house.
It's cheaper and more relaxed than going out. I'm getting LAZY... haha
Next time, it's going to be Soco-lime shot pong night. haha

fufufu thats the best way to go... bbq, hotpot... chill, relax... play some wii/other games or something.. unfortunately when people are in the rate race to find a gf/bf no one seems up for the cheaper and more laid back hanging out =(

[watcher]

sit down, order a drink, stare at the tv or the wall decor, make a grunt, gripe about work, listen to buddy gripe, then gripe about life, then talk about girls, order another, continue on girls, take a shot, come to the conclusion that girls are trouble but we love em anyways, take another shot, chase it all down with a beer, walk out and head to the nearest taco truck where we chow down on a fat burrito and repeat over and over how good this burrito is and call it a night.

[JJM]

A bar to me is like a club to my bf. He's at home in a bar (especially a dive joint). I'm the opposite. Since he doesn't like me sitting there thinking about how idiotic he and the guys are baffling away about everything and nothing or blankly staring at a TV, we go to places with pool tables, games, pull-tabs or/and karaoke. If we have nothing to talk about, we can talk sh!t about how badly people sing and brag about how we can do so much better, but never get up and sing. Or we go to bars hosting free poker nights and play for free food and prizes. I never order or pay for drinks. I have the bf and his friends for that. I love those guys.

[chunsa]

maybe u should try lounge.. so you can get a to sit down... relax get a drink menu and slowly unwind into the moood

[photo.ollie]

relax chilled out + laid back.
make it look like you've been here before
~ and you're experienced.

[Laxntiga]

^ that means you haven't had enough to drink yet. It should be somewhere along the lines of bartender can you get me a ...

I like this answer. I usually go with "Hey Bob (call bartender by his/her name), can I get a ____________".

-Now, you wont know the bartenders name until you asked him it =)
People tend to answer when you call them by their name.

How to act at a Bar....hmm...

1. Less stressed than you were, when you came in.



Epic win answer!

I concur. Dude, why did you go to the bar in the first place? Have fun, relax, hang out right? So.... just stop thinking and acting like you are at work. It's a BAR! People are drunk, they wont remember, you probably wont even see them again! Just chat up anyone, you can start with the same sex if you are nervous... compliment people on their clothes, ask them where they got it, ask them if they are a designer (they'll probably answer no) then you can crack a joke or something blah blah blah blah blah.

If bars aren't your thing... hang out places where you are more comfortable.

[HERMIT]

Well, sometimes just observing what everyone else is doing in said bar can help in your formative view of how to act in a bar. For example, the first time I went to a bar I learned from my fellow patrons that you silently sit in the dark, sipping on your two drinks, and making sure you have copious amounts of bill currency available to show your appreciation for the topless entertainment.

[kitanablade3]

LOL I think I had this problem when i first started going out...
but then again, a friend of mine's girlfriend was the bartender, now also a best friend...it wasn't as bad.
Definitely get to know the bartender, especially if you will be going there regularly!
Ask their name, make small talk, joke a little bit...don't spill your guts to them, just like how's your day
Don't act rude, it gets you NO WHERE!!! Like if they can't get your drink out pronto...they're also serving a billion other people usually!!!
Once you get to know them you can have deeper conversations and joke around more.
That comes from personal experience and it pays off in the end. >.<
For places you don't go regularly, just ask for a menu if it's not busy, or know a few drinks beforehand. (They might not have everything you need)
Just wave 'em over or get the bartender's attention in some way. A crowded club or something you'll probably have to yell for them.

As far as conversations, just talk like you normally would.
We would talk about everything, and sometimes (it seems rude at first, depends on how drunk they are) other people will give their two cents.
I look at that as making friends though. But I assume you'll always be with friends so whatever comes to mind.