[Vindictive]

I KNOW. I AM GRATEFUL FOR MY WONDERFUL PARENTS BUT MY PARENTS ARE SO F;JDKGD;LFKGJDFG
HOW CAN THEY BE LIKE THIS?
I need some serious help before I go crazy.

I'm leaving for college this fall and my parents are punishing me by cutting me off completely.
YES COMPLETELY.
JUST BECAUSE I DIDN'T GET INTO UC BERKELEY LIKE THEY HAD DREAMED THEIR WHOLE LIVES.
I got accepted into UC IRVINE INSTEAD WHICH IS LIKE COMMUNITY COLLEGE TO THEM.
IN FACT, they rather me go to community college instead but I refused to.
I WORKED MY BUTT OFF FOR THE PAST 4 YEARS.
Going to community college will not compensate for my losses.
Now, don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with community college.
I just don't want to go there if I have a chance at a great university with a great program for my major.

SO.
Since they're cutting me off I've been working my ass off the whole summer, literally.
I work 7 days a week, 10-11 hours a day.
That's nearly 70 hours a week.
It's like slave labor the way I work.
AND.
I work in another city than where my home is.
I go home 1-2 days a week.
When I get home I'm bombarded with errands.
I haven't seen my friends at all. Boo hoo I know cry me a river for me please since I have no emotions.
I don't mind doing them BUT DAMN GIVE ME A BREAK.
Most of my errands are for my younger brother who is mentally challenged.
I DON'T MIND.
REALLY.
But just let me do it on my own pace instead of bugging me about it every other second!
UGH AT MY MOM.

BUT EVEN WITH WORKING,
I will still be broke when I leave for college.
WHY?
I have to pay for my own tuition, food, and housing!
AND
Because I have to purchase a laptop!
My parents refuse to let me buy a laptop and won't even let me take my desktop because it's too "new"
I got my iMac desktop last summer even though I insisted on getting a laptop because I knew I was leaving for college.
My mom refused to let me buy a laptop stating that I won't have any use for it and now won't even let me take my desktop now and I have to pay for my own laptop.
LIKE WHAT.
Are my parents really going to use it? NO.
It's just going to sit in my room and collect dust seeing as they don't understand a lick of English.
YAYY. Still not complaining.

CAR ISSUES
I'm one of those really spoiled brats with a car.
HOPEFULLY I GET THE CAR WHEN I GO TO COLLEGE.
Because if you didn't know.. UCI is surrounded by nothing!
So not only do I have to do work study but also a part time job ON TOP of a major + minor.
No complaints since the bus takes me everywhere but the thing is my parents said that I can come home whenever I have money.
Since they're cutting me off completely remember?
NEWS FLASH!
I have no money!

WHAT REALLY GOT TO ME.
I come home this weekend and on the car ride home my parents tell me that they switched my bed.
MY BED.
MY OWN BLANKET OF SECURITY IS GONE.
WHY AM I SO MAD ABOUT A BED?
Because.
I used to have a queen sized bed. then my parents thought since I was leaving for college, my younger brother deserved my bed.
HEY. TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE. My brother deserves the best.
I gave him my bed which is a pretty good bed btw and I got an old twin sized bed from like 10 years ago that I used to use when I was like 5.
Then I come home today and my parents tell me that they switched my bed AGAIN with my brothers old bed which is a king sized bed because they couldn't find room for it in the house seeing as how they're going to rent out the basement of the house starting next month.
;kfjsdkfjsd.
REALLY?
LIKE REALLY? THERE'S A BACK STORAGE HOUSE FOR GOD SAKES.
Ok first of all I already have the smallest room in the house.
The bed can BARELY fit in my room.
The bed REEKS OF URINE because of my brother PS I STILL LOVE HIM NONETHELESS.
And since they're cleaning out the basement for rent, they threw EVERYTHING in my room.

I asked my parents why they would do such a thing, their response "You're leaving for college anyways."

[Chlorate]

omfg wow thats really messed up. sorry but its the truth =/
what they r doing is stressing u out more and putting more pressure.
they should be happy that at least u got into a good university and seems to me,ur a hard worker!!!
Theres sum ppl i know that went to sum okay university..but now that they have a job..they get a pretty
good pay for it =D

Asian parents...ALWAYS expect so much from their own kid.
You Really needa talk to ur parents about that =l


Even though im only 14 i was arguing wif my mom cuz i couldnt take it anymore.
my parents like to compare me and my brothers with my friends and cousins. saying how
they r smarter so on...and make us feel like worthless idiots! when the thing is, my friends and I both get 4.0's
i told her its not bc smartness, its just hardwork and if they were genisus theyd be wayyyy ahead.
the point is, it mightve worked? she hasnt compared me since then :]
(just wanted to give u an example...but sorry i kinda went too off xD)
u should just try and talk to them i guess...hope that works...

[Humilious]

Goodness, it sounds like you needed to let that all out.

What do you think you can do about it though? I'd say stick it out until you get to college (which is pretty soon), then live life your own way.

My friend goes to UCI. I think she's dying without her car.

[imready]

wow..
ill be mad for you
WTF!????????????? THAT IS JUST SO... UNFAIR AND RUDE TO DO TO YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD.
I WAS GETTING FURIOUS JUST READING YOUR POST.
ITS NOT FAIR HOW THEY'RE BASICALLY PUNISHING YOU FOR NOT GETTING INTO THE COLLEGE OF THEIR CHOICE.
I THINK THEY'RE GONA BE SORRY WHEN YOU'RE RICH AND SUCCESSFUL EVEN THOUGH YOU WENT TO A DIFF COLLEGE

[koneee]

yeah that is definitely messed up, I would try to call your school to talk to an adviser or something to talk about your situation because... that's seriously messed up.

You can try to talk to the financial aid office and see if they can help you out with that.
Look for scholarships to help pay for your tuition.
And check out some student loans to help pay for college.

I know someone who got cut off from everything because she was engaged to someone who her parents hated, so they didn't pay for her tuition at all and keep in mind that she went to a private university also!! But she pulled out student loans, married the dude and is living off pretty well.

I just wish your parents would understand your frustration and give in and start helping you :'[[[ GL


PS. YOU DEFINITELY WILLL NEED A LAPTOP FOR COLLEGE.

[yoshiba]

My advice:
Finish first year, get the credit points, get high grades, transfer to an Asian-parent certified University, hopefully it will work out. Good luck with your studies!

[EtherealEnigma]

You worked hard to get into UCI? I hardly worked to get into UCI. RAWR AT YOUR PARENTS ALSO!! Oh have you ever thanked your parents for all they've done for you? MMM their ungrateful daughter has finally grown up *tears* don't yell when you reason with them, just... well reason with them.

P.S. Maybe I'll see you around campus =D

[f0reveralways]

1) uh. chill out about your bed. i mean, you're barely home anyway b/c most of your time will be spent in Irvine.

"...a chance at a great university with a great program for my major."
2) if you went to a community college, you can still transfer and have "a chance at a great university..."


3) yeah. k iono if telling you my story will make you feel better.. but here goes.

so i was supposed to go to University of the Pacific (UOP) in Stockton, CA under the six year pre-pharmacy program. . . but in May, when my mom sent in tax return stuff to UOP in mid-May, they noticed that my FAFSA was filled out incorrectly for my family income (which, btw, my mom filled out earlier that year). so the corrections were made to my FAFSA and when my financial aid was updated, a bunch of grant money.. disappeared. i later got a letter in the mail stating that my family's income is "over-the-ceiling" and we no longer qualify for the $9000 cal grant previously offered for UOP. so being a private school with skyrocketing financial demands, i was forced to withdraw from UOP considering that my family cannot comfortably afford to send me to that school.

and.. it was already May so i couldn't possibly SIR (submit my intent to register) for any of the less costly UC campuses i was accepted into. so yeah, community college here i come. the last four years of my life? how about the last six? i started thinking about college in 7th grade when i took Spanish 1 to get a head start on clearing UC requirements. so um yeah. i wouldn't say my efforts the last couple years of my life were "losses" though. through the years of extra curricular activities and leadership junk (clubs, sports, officer positions, volunteering), i made many friends and memories also, taking all those honor and AP classes.. okay sure the honor classes may be useless now, but the AP test scores are getting me out of certain classes for community college.

i'm perfectly fine with going to community college. i'm saving my parents so much money! and plus, i won scholarship money (and yay it didn't disappear even though i withdrew from UOP) and am basically, already covered for my two years of community college. and also, it's nice to get out of that 'honors and ap' kids circle and socialize with people from other groups. i've been so used to the same crowd my entire life.

if i wanted to be pessimistic, i could say:
- the last six years of my life were put to waste
- all those extra efforts (extra credit projects, staying up late for a debate, etc etc) to get the grade were put to waste
- my future wasn't even under my control
- it's all my mom's fault
- my mom didn't even apologize (no seriously, she didn't. lol)
- all my friends are leaving me (different schools, different locations)
- i wasted money on SATs
- if i knew i was going to community college from the start I could have just prepared for it in advance (summer classes, college credit)
- i'm missing out on the social aspect of the college life (dorm life)
- i'm being deprived of the college experience both my older siblings were able to live


um yeah. i can't think of anything else.



oh and i have a friend who is being cut off from his family too, once he turns 18. he has to find a place to live, and somehow manage to work and pay for schooling fees


and my friend's bf has had to work full time and pay for his schooling and manage his time & whatnot ever since he graduated high school since his parents are separated. his dad has disappeared from his life and his mom simply cannot financially afford to help him.


ummmm. k so the point of my post? uhh. chill out. you're not alone. there's plenty of kids who have it just as bad or even worse.

[Vindictive]

You worked hard to get into UCI? I hardly worked to get into UCI. RAWR AT YOUR PARENTS ALSO!! Oh have you ever thanked your parents for all they've done for you? MMM their ungrateful daughter has finally grown up *tears* don't yell when you reason with them, just... well reason with them.

P.S. Maybe I'll see you around campus =D

WELL mini cooper.
I'm not like you.
I'm not smart. I'm not good at sports. I'm not good at anything.
So yes I did work hard to get into UCI.
My acceptance was due to pure luck despite my efforts.

AND YES I HAVE THANKED MY PARENTS THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
IF YOU ACTUALLY READ MY POST.
**FIRST LINE** I AM GRATEFUL.

1) uh. chill out about your bed. i mean, you're barely home anyway b/c most of your time will be spent in Irvine.

"...a chance at a great university with a great program for my major."
2) if you went to a community college, you can still transfer and have "a chance at a great university..."


3) yeah. k iono if telling you my story will make you feel better.. but here goes.

so i was supposed to go to University of the Pacific (UOP) in Stockton, CA under the six year pre-pharmacy program. . . but in May, when my mom sent in tax return stuff to UOP in mid-May, they noticed that my FAFSA was filled out incorrectly for my family income (which, btw, my mom filled out earlier that year). so the corrections were made to my FAFSA and when my financial aid was updated, a bunch of grant money.. disappeared. i later got a letter in the mail stating that my family's income is "over-the-ceiling" and we no longer qualify for the $9000 cal grant previously offered for UOP. so being a private school with skyrocketing financial demands, i was forced to withdraw from UOP considering that my family cannot comfortably afford to send me to that school.

and.. it was already May so i couldn't possibly SIR (submit my intent to register) for any of the less costly UC campuses i was accepted into. so yeah, community college here i come. the last four years of my life? how about the last six? i started thinking about college in 7th grade when i took Spanish 1 to get a head start on clearing UC requirements. so um yeah. i wouldn't say my efforts the last couple years of my life were "losses" though. through the years of extra curricular activities and leadership junk (clubs, sports, officer positions, volunteering), i made many friends and memories also, taking all those honor and AP classes.. okay sure the honor classes may be useless now, but the AP test scores are getting me out of certain classes for community college.

i'm perfectly fine with going to community college. i'm saving my parents so much money! and plus, i won scholarship money (and yay it didn't disappear even though i withdrew from UOP) and am basically, already covered for my two years of community college. and also, it's nice to get out of that 'honors and ap' kids circle and socialize with people from other groups. i've been so used to the same crowd my entire life.

if i wanted to be pessimistic, i could say:
- the last six years of my life were put to waste
- all those extra efforts (extra credit projects, staying up late for a debate, etc etc) to get the grade were put to waste
- my future wasn't even under my control
- it's all my mom's fault
- my mom didn't even apologize (no seriously, she didn't. lol)
- all my friends are leaving me (different schools, different locations)
- i wasted money on SATs
- if i knew i was going to community college from the start I could have just prepared for it in advance (summer classes, college credit)
- i'm missing out on the social aspect of the college life (dorm life)
- i'm being deprived of the college experience both my older siblings were able to live


um yeah. i can't think of anything else.



oh and i have a friend who is being cut off from his family too, once he turns 18. he has to find a place to live, and somehow manage to work and pay for schooling fees


and my friend's bf has had to work full time and pay for his schooling and manage his time & whatnot ever since he graduated high school since his parents are separated. his dad has disappeared from his life and his mom simply cannot financially afford to help him.


ummmm. k so the point of my post? uhh. chill out. you're not alone. there's plenty of kids who have it just as bad or even worse.

I like my bed. It's my security blanket and I like it.
If you knew how hard I've been working, coming home to my own bed/room is the best comfort there is.
Sleeping in a bed reeking with urine when I don't have to because there's a perfectly good bed available is not my cup of tea.
I know that most of my time will be spent in Irvine for the next 4 years but this is a way of my parents not welcoming me back home.
I know I sound super spoiled because there's probably people out there that don't even have a bed but my point is my parents are treating my unfairly for no good reason.

I didn't john tesh up like you did so maybe you have another point of view but I rather go to the college I got admitted to instead of gambling with my future when DUN DUN DUN the chances are slimmer to get into a good college later on.

I'm sorry what about what has happened to you but it hasn't happened to me.
I don't want to go to community college.
I don't want to transfer.
I'm proud of myself as to where I've gotten myself today.
I'll still be competing against virtually the same people for transferring in two years anyways.
I want the college experience & I don't care that I'm putting myself thousands of dollars in debt in the future.
Everything's been done.

I know I'm not the only one that has it bad but there's this thing called venting.

[L.FOR.LOVE]

raging is good
i like you =D
hahah
your parents seem very like " pushy "

[suki_*]

some asian parents just need to stop living their lives through their kids A.K.A yours.
cuz in the end, it's ultimately your life and they should be nothing more than just supportive!

>=[

My parents were like that, but in the end, i nearly lost my life from stress and that's where they realized that they have done me more harm than good. So now we're good and they support me in what i enjoy doing. I hope that your parents will find the same light some day too because if they raised you to be someone, they should let you do it at your pace. cutting you off entirely like that is not fair and be proud that you are able to support yourself, some people who get cut off aren't as strong as you are.

Vent it all out and talk to them maturely again. if they don't listen then you just gotta do what you gotta do.

[JPizMe]

Wahhh ur topic made me feel so sorry for you T___T.

~Im not good with words~

*Hugs*

Wish you the best!

[eximius]

I don't think you need to chill out about your bed.
You work your ass off, you wanna go home and ktfo in your own cozy bed. Not an old not-so-cozy bed that reeks of pee from your beloved sibling.
No one freaking wants to sleep in a stench of human waste, that's nasty and probably some sort of health hazard or something, iunno I'm not schooled.

Your folks could really help you out just a bit... from your ranting it SEEMS like they've done jacksquat to help you on your adventure to college. But it's not like I know the whooole story, so yeah. Yeah, definitely could pitch in at least a little... the laptop is like, the least they can do. I thought that was almost customary to give your kids a laptop when they get into college... or something. Pitch you some money, too... it seems like they're perfectly ok with the idea of their daughter working her ass off only to end up with nothing when she's settled in. Doesn't sound too cool to me :\

[f0reveralways]

I didn't john tesh up like you did so maybe you have another point of view but I rather go to the college I got admitted to instead of gambling with my future when DUN DUN DUN the chances are slimmer to get into a good college later on.

chances are slimmer? i thought it was easier to get accepted as a transfer than it is directly from high school.

I know I'm not the only one that has it bad but there's this thing called venting.

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=49238

[her_heart]

did you apply for financial aids or scholarships? they are still giving out scholarships that you still can apply for and if you did apply for financial aid there is loans and there are pell grants if you have a low income. ..

so the university you are attending is a great univ? i can see why you want to go to that college because you worked hard to get there and not to just get into some cc . you're parents just mad at you it will pass over sooner or later when they notice that you havent came home for maybe 3 thanks giving and 4 xmas dinners lol.

first thing you should do:
/calm down.
/suck it up.
/if they won't support you then just let it be, theres nothing you can do with it via... "suck it up"
/ask support of your friends, tell them your situation
/there are programs in the college like the student work programs im not sure what its called there but you get paid for doing like office work while going to school at the same time. like a student government position
/college requires lots of walking ... make sure you buy an umbrella and maybe a rain coat.
/umm i dont think the first year of college is that hard at all. its just general studies the basics that you learned when you were in highschool so you should be familiar with it so you dont have to study as much.
/apply for food stamps! oh yea they have like places in campus like *free lunches on mondays etc* usually at the religious part of the campuses.
/lastly, just suck it up.


if nothing else works >>> result to *sugar daddy* find one ASAP.
LOL!


ohhh yeah about the transfering, yeah but you gotta work harder to transfer like get the college you want to apply for its standards. so its not that easy i suppose *shrug* but if you already have all the standards and just going to a cc then there should be no problems right?

[EtherealEnigma]

AND YES I HAVE THANKED MY PARENTS THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
IF YOU ACTUALLY READ MY POST.
**FIRST LINE** I AM GRATEFUL.

I did in fact, that is why I decided to the "ungrateful girl". I didn't include that in my original post but, I thought it would be fun to poke at you a little. I'll let you use my lap top (Notice how I made it two words?)

[Shuga]

*hugs* Aaaw, man... what a situation... can you team up with your friends, maybe?

I'm so glad you still love your family though, God will bless you in many, unexpected but pleasant ways! *hugs*

[HtyPotter]

sorry that you're being put through this right now . But hey, you'll start school eventually and then hopefully you'll be able to breath easier. Good luck.

[flyxme.]

and wow your parents are really messed up, i feel bad for you but you should calm down a little..

if you dont like UCI just do really good your first year and then you can transfer to another university
since you're complaining about "slave labor" maybe you should try finding another job
have you thought about financial aid? tell you friends? im sure they can help, good luck :]

[xLionHeartx]

as much as I want to have some sympathy, I think you are one stuck up pinkberry. shut up and go QQ somewhere else if you are going to rant at people back when they respond to a thread that you started here.


oh sorry, let me try and be nice like everyone else, good luck and i'm sorry you are going through this. what are your parents thinking by taking away your blankie?