[可愛い]

zomg... so my close friend (who is my manicurist, as well) is trying to hook me up with a guy from her church. she's korean evangelical christian and i'm... well for lack of a better word i'm agnostic, and if i believed in anything at all it woud be buddhism.. half of me wants to meet this guy she is hooking me up with but the other half is like hell no.

but i'm more worried about my friendship with sarah (my friend's name) than i am with this matchmaker situation. its like the more comfortable she is around me, the more hard core xtian she gets. i offer no rebuttal, response, or opinions. after all... i dont want my cuticles to bleed. but i dont feel comfortable going to her nail shop anymore. do u think i should just give in? i mean is this a conversion tactic? or should i just go elsewhere to get my mani/pedis done? and third... what if the guy is hot? would that alone be worth it?

help!

[alasam]

If it makes you uncomfortable to hear the gospel from your friend, I can't imagine it will get any easier coming from a possible significant other. I can't speak for the guy's beliefs, but I know I would not want to marry someone who is not also a Christian. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs, but I want to marry someone with similar ones to me. Just my 2 cents.

As for being set up by friends. I'm learning the hard way that it can be the most difficult to end. I went to my bff's wedding and a guy she tried to set me up with 3 years ago saw me there and is back on the chase. Who keeps someone's cell phone # for 3 years? I get rid of a guy's number if I haven't gotten back to him in 3 weeks. But now I have to extricate myself gently because he's her husband's best friend and he really is a great guy...just no spark for me.

[watcher]

zomg... so my close friend (who is my manicurist, as well) is trying to hook me up with a guy from her church. she's korean evangelical christian and i'm... well for lack of a better word i'm agnostic, and if i believed in anything at all it woud be buddhism.. half of me wants to meet this guy she is hooking me up with but the other half is like hell no.

but i'm more worried about my friendship with sarah (my friend's name) than i am with this matchmaker situation. its like the more comfortable she is around me, the more hard core xtian she gets. i offer no rebuttal, response, or opinions. after all... i dont want my cuticles to bleed. but i dont feel comfortable going to her nail shop anymore. do u think i should just give in? i mean is this a conversion tactic? or should i just go elsewhere to get my mani/pedis done? and third... what if the guy is hot? would that alone be worth it?

help!

sounds like a headache. plus, you don't see too many hot evangelical men who are serious about their faith. on top of that, if he somehow pulled of that rare hot/faithful combination, why would someone like him need a hookup? he'd have church girls all over him.

i say dun do it. *thumbs down*

[HERMIT]

I believe there aren't any commandments that say "Thou shalt not covet a new manicurist", so you should be free to move on without any guilt on your conscience. Oh wait, I forgot - you're the agnostic one.

I've had offers from people trying to "fix me up". But it was more along the lines of being fixed up by a therapist/doctor.

[[HyuNi]]

sounds like a headache. plus, you don't see too many hot evangelical men who are serious about their faith. on top of that, if he somehow pulled of that rare hot/faithful combination, why would someone like him need a hookup? he'd have church girls all over him.

i say dun do it. *thumbs down*

tsk tsk~
And I thought you were above stero-typing haha

Although I admit there are those who cling to religion because they can't face reality, use going to church to hide their naughty side, or just simply suck as life, I would say most people are level-headed and don't practice the "do what I say, not what I do" kind of faith.

I, personally, am not interested in someone 'hooking me up' because I'd like to try to help myself first.
I'm actually against dating within the same church. It brings SO much drama and unnecessary pressure on the relationship. Certaintly, casual dating has no place in a church setting, just like casual dating shouldn't happen between a tight group of friends. Imagine the mayhem of not only dealing with your friends on your case when you break up or fight, but your parents, relatives, parent's friends, and even pastors. ew. There's SO much pressure when you date someone within the church for them to be the one you marry.
I wouldn't go for it either, but if you are brave enough to test the waters, why not?

In regards to your friend, I think you should politely tell her to stop.
Say something in regards to, "I know you care for me enough to not want me to go to Hell, but I'm just not ready for this kind of conversation and it makes me feel uncomfortable. If you want to help me, why don't you pray for me? I'll come to you if I ever feel like I want to talk about Christianity."
*I'm all for bringing people to Christ, but I've seen so many fall away and become very displacent from forceful Christians, I don't want to be one of them. If I really wanted to bring them to Christ, I would pray for them and ask God to touch their hearts until they feel comfortable talking about faith.

[watcher]

tsk tsk~
And I thought you were above stero-typing haha

lol... ionno man.. church is a place to meet someone 'nice' not a place to meet someone hot. unless you have a church you'd like to introduce me too

[709394]

i dont like the idea of setting ppl up altogether..
i mean, i wouldn't mind seeting my FREINDS up, but as for me, i hate it. It makes me feel like i am incapable of finding my own guy. So intorducting me to ppl yes, its cool. But introducing for the sake of hooking up, not cool.

man i cant spell today

[Meenuh]

lol... ionno man.. church is a place to meet someone 'nice' not a place to meet someone hot. unless you have a church you'd like to introduce me too

i dunno man .. but i say church isn't a dating service and shouldn't be used to meet people period. lol.

it's not gonna kill you to just meet the guy once. it's also possible that it was just something she was saying but isn't really going to follow through with. you know how girls are when they gossip.

[incyphe]

sounds like a headache. plus, you don't see too many hot evangelical men who are serious about their faith.

Nuh uh, dude, you're so wrong. You've got to meet papabear.

[watcher]

Nuh uh, dude, you're so wrong. You've got to meet papabear.

actually, i have
in addition, he's not an evangelical, he's catholic!!

he's gonna so kill me if he reads this! LOL

i dunno man .. but i say church isn't a dating service and shouldn't be used to meet people period. lol.

who said it was? i just wanted to know where the buffet was. im just servicing myself thank you

[papabear]

actually, i have
in addition, he's not an evangelical, he's catholic!!

he's gonna so kill me if he reads this! LOL

*thinks of the best way*

[watcher]

*thinks of the best way*

for the record, my comment was aimed at hot EVANGELICALS. i've made no comments about catholics *runs away*

[Meenuh]

actually, i have
in addition, he's not an evangelical, he's catholic!!

he's gonna so kill me if he reads this! LOL



who said it was? i just wanted to know where the buffet was. im just servicing myself thank you

you're a fiend... i'm surprised you don't burn to a crisp just walking through the doors of a church. lol.

[7thprincess]

If the guy is hot, you should go and just check if he really is hot. [Please do come back and confirm that he is indeed hot! LOL]

If you dont feel comfortable at the nail shop, then go somewhere else.

I know how you feel, instead its not a friend, but a guy that I am interested in. I'm surprised we havent KOed one another yet. LMAO.

[papabear]

for the record, my comment was aimed at hot EVANGELICALS. i've made no comments about catholics *runs away*

Eh? I didn't misunderstand you on this point. Weren't you were admitting to implying I wasn't hot? You know you're just jealous.

haha but seriously, hot Catholic = Kwon Sang Woo, not me.

zomg... so my close friend (who is my manicurist, as well) is trying to hook me up with a guy from her church. she's korean evangelical christian and i'm... well for lack of a better word i'm agnostic, and if i believed in anything at all it woud be buddhism.. half of me wants to meet this guy she is hooking me up with but the other half is like hell no.

but i'm more worried about my friendship with sarah (my friend's name) than i am with this matchmaker situation. its like the more comfortable she is around me, the more hard core xtian she gets. i offer no rebuttal, response, or opinions. after all... i dont want my cuticles to bleed. but i dont feel comfortable going to her nail shop anymore. do u think i should just give in? i mean is this a conversion tactic? or should i just go elsewhere to get my mani/pedis done? and third... what if the guy is hot? would that alone be worth it?

help!

1. If she's a close friend you should be able to tell her that you're not interested, b/c he's not what you're looking for.
2. If her being so vocal about her religion interferes with your friendship, then you should tell her that, or consider not keeping the friendship.

[可愛い]

wait... im catholic, born & raised. is there a difference between the two? i notice that more protestants are church going. i only go to church on xmas tho.

[papabear]

wait... im catholic, born & raised. is there a difference between the two? i notice that more protestants are church going. i only go to church on xmas tho.

oh? I know this guy who lives in LA, he's looking for someone special. In fact he hangs around soompi a lot, his name is watcher. "People you've only met online, are you open to being fixed up by them?"

*checks to see if there is a pulse on watcher*



Anyway...

evangelicals are protestants, so yeah, there is a difference between evangelicals and catholics... any questions about that, you can pm me or Watcher.

[marvinoppa]

i say you go meet him, it couldnt hurt right? when meeting new people i like to crack a few jokes you know?

here's a few that may help you. i had to modify a few of these to fit a female.

* when he asks you what you do. tell him "im only a _____. we all know that the fastest way to corporate advancement is a shot in the mouth; im not ready to take that step yet."

* if he asks about your past relationships. say " id rather not talk about it. it would end in tears. yours, not mine."

* this one takes a little bit of setup. ask him why he came to meet you. he'll ask the same. respond with "i lost a bet."

i have more. just ask.

[Pogichinoy]

Doesn't hurt to meet him, since you can find out whether he is hot and whether he'll brainwash you.

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To answer your question, I don't like getting fixed up, as it is waaaayyy too awkward for both parties, if it goes sour - it becomes awkward for the person who fixed you up, and it made it seem that I couldn't find anyone, when in fact I'm picky.

[Drusilla]

Well, it probably wouldn't hurt to meet him (in a non-date way) once, he could be a great guy to just be around. The evangelical thing is something I can't offer advice on, though.

Re: being set up, for me it depends on who's doing the setting up. If it's a close friend who knows me well, I'll give them carte blanche to set me up with whoever they like - but not to expect anything to come out of it. I've had blind dates before, and they were often boring as hell.