[jek]

Let me start off by saying, I am not trying to be racist even though it may seem so but how important is your partner’s background to you?

It may seem a little awkward for me to point this out but seeing an increase in caucasian/asian couples around I always wonder if their individual background affect their relationship in anyway. I suppose this is more common in more multicultural countries ie, Australia, US, etc but if you’re in this situation it could even be between a chinese and vietnamese couple for instance, but does this affect your relationship in anyway?

For me as a personal preference I would prefer an asian partner but even so my parents would rather me go for a chinese girl than say a japanese just so they can speak to them in their native language. I’ve dated a cantonese girl at one point in my life (I’m cantonese) and despite having the ability to speak the same language we never do (only in those rare instances such as when you say “who farted?” so you don’t embarrass the person who did…). Anyway for some reason I tend to have a closer connection with them simply because they understand the language my parents spoke despite never conversing in it.

[Rhapsodyy]

Hmm well for me a person's background [from what i'm reading you seem to be talking more about someone's ethnicity/race then background? So i'll base my answer on that i guess haha] isn't important. Admittedly, I suppose it may be easier if you and your partner are both the same race/ethnicity, because maybe that way you might have grown up in similar ways I suppose? But, I think relationships are never easy, and being from different "backgrounds" can be interesting for both partners, they can learn about new cultures and open their minds to possibly different ways of thinking. So yeah, to me, being from different backgrounds from a possible partner I dont think would be something that deterred me from deciding whether or not dating would be the right option for us. Oh, and about possible language barriers, I also think those can be overcome. I think if you really like/love a person, you will do what it takes it get to know them better, and know their culture more [ie. talking to them about it, possibly trying to learn their languages so you can converse more easily with each other, etcetc]

Also, if it matters at all to people reading my post, i'm a caucasian female haha.

[小甜密]

No it doesn't affect me. I've dated a Mexican guy before, and never once have I thought that his background would affected our relationship. And my mom just let me do whatever I want, because she trusts me in that department.

Edit: To me, background have nothing to do with the partner. As long as you like him/her, that's all it matters.

[Villian]

No it doesn't affect me. I've dated a Mexican guy before, and never once have I thought that his background would affected our relationship. And my mom just let me do whatever I want, because she trusts me in that department.

Edit: To me, background have nothing to do with the partner. As long as you like him/her, that's all it matters.

you dated a Mexican?!?!

WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

what do you see in them?!?!!

did you needed help moving?

[小甜密]

you dated a Mexican?!?!

WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

what do you see in them?!?!!

did you needed help moving?

LOL. No. The Mexican guy was someone that I like because he had a different view upon things that most people don't even ponder about. I like interesting people. And he was confident with himself, even though physical appearance wasn't all that, still, I found that attractive as hell.

[Villian]

LOL. No. The Mexican guy was someone that I like because he had a different view upon things that most people don't even ponder about. I like interesting people. And he was confident with himself, even though physical appearance wasn't all that, still, I found that attractive as hell.

thats absurd!

so you think he doesn't have any all that good looks

but with confident you find him sexy as hell?!

what about me? i have good looks and confident

[kuroimisa]

I used to think that as long as we spoke the same language, no problem.

Kudos to OP - I speak Cantonese as well.

My first boyfriend was Malaysian (I say Malaysian because he was more Malaysian than Chinese because of how laid back he was - and he's only been to Malaysia though his mum is from Hong Kong). He spoke Cantonese, but that wasn't the point... he was very un-Asian to me. Most of his friends were non-Asian, so when he took me to his parties and stuff like that, I felt really uncomfortable being pretty much the only Asian there (since he doesn't count - there was a Korean girl in their group, but she was very un-Asian as well).

I guess it was the way they interacted and grew up together. While we're all kinda city people, he lived really far from the city centre, so I guess lifestyles were different. While it was nice he could communicate with my parents, he wasn't my type in the end to be honest. Background? I would say more like how he grew up and who he was. He was just oh-so-carefree... it's really not my idea of a relationship.

My current relationship is almost the inverse. My boyfriend is half Hong Kong (\o/!) but his other half is Estonian, British, Austrian and a bunch of other European mix. He doesn't speak Cantonese (though I suspect he's probably being humble and knows WAY more than he says he does) and I feel much more at ease. All his friends are pretty much Asian, and I don't feel awkward hanging around with them. What's more, he knows what's going on in the Asian / Hong Kong music charts than *I* would ever know - so he totally rocks.


This is a long post, but I guess it really depends on situation. Sometimes it's not as simple as just a language - sure it helps, but there are other things like friends, lifestyle, social life... ways of thinking. It helps if your significant other not only speaks the language, but also acts like the language - if that makes any sense o_o

[小甜密]

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[Villian]

^ It's not absurd. Feelings work in their mysterious ways.

you sure its not desperation that is mistaken as feelings?

[小甜密]

thats absurd!

so you think he doesn't have any all that good looks

but with confident you find him sexy as hell?!

what about me? i have good looks and confident

^ It's not absurd. Feelings work in their mysterious ways.

you sure its not desperation that is mistaken as feelings?

Are you insulting me?

[Villian]

^ It's not absurd. Feelings work in their mysterious ways.



Are you insulting me?

no just curious

whats a cute asian girl aiming so low =P

[Miss Vivienne]

no just curious

whats a cute asian girl aiming so low =P

Because you're ugliness makes all Mexicans holy beings and because of you, no one likes Asians anymore. Oh snap.
I think it's time we stone you or burn you into a stake. :|

[Villian]

Because you're ugliness makes all Mexicans holy beings and because of you, no one likes Asians anymore. Oh snap.
I think it's time we stone you or burn you into a stake. :|

coming from a girl that never had a boyfriend.

thinking batman is your husband

i think its time for you stop living a fantasy

[jadeooo]

Yes, I think race/ethinicy/religion/culture does effect relationships!
Their values are different and may contradict.
I personall would want to date a person of my own race because their cultural vaues are similar and they speak my language. Its very important to know another language other then english.
But you shouldn't judge someone ENTIRELY just by their r/e/r/c etc! Thats bias!

[Miss Vivienne]

coming from a girl that never had a boyfriend.

thinking batman is your husband

i think its time for you stop living a fantasy

i think it's time to stop thinking every girls in love with you other than the fact you are a lonely doofus who can only almost get girls by flattering them online. :|

OHOH.

[Villian]

i think it's time to stop thinking every girls in love with you other than the fact you are a lonely doofus who can only almost get girls by flattering them online. :|

OHOH.

says the girl that got a crush on the lonely cute doofus

now is that sadder?

[Miss Vivienne]

says the girl that got a crush on the lonely cute doofus

now is that sadder?

BAWWWWWW.

[Villian]

BAWWWWWW.

there there *hug*

[Miss Vivienne]

there there *hug*

[Harbl]

As long as she hasn't been in prison. That's all the background i need to know about.