[jshat4]

So I'm feeling terribly homesick right now 2 weeks after moving out. Yeah I know it's pretty dumb and I should be excited about the freedom, etc. I've always been very close with my family and now...let's just say things aren't going exactly the way I thought. Firstly, my roommate and I have like barely anything to talk about. Basically feels like living alone, I eat alone, wash dishes alone, do everything alone basically.

As for other things, things keep going wrong....I guess they're being magnified now that I'm in a vulnerable state.

As for how to cure it. I know the typical--get yourself busy with schoolwork, clubs, meet friends, etc. If only it was that easy. I'm trying to snap out of it, but it just doesn't seem so easy.

And on the topic of social interactions, it seems that in social events, it seems so easy to make friends and be friendly. But when people are in class, everyone just seems to .... change?

Anyone else had to go through this?

[twinky81]

I don't know about you, but what helps me sometimes is "soul food". I think this is different for the person depending on what you were raised on. I was raised on rice, kimchi, bul-gogi, and jigae. I can't make jigae, but sometimes, I'll go to the Korean mart here (there's a cafe inside) and get some. Reminds me when my mom used to make it when I was a kid. It also serves as a painful memory of my parent's divorce, but I just try to remember the 'good times'. Keep your head up.

[duykato]

That's what I did when I got my first apartment. It was so depressing living there. I had NO furniture anywhere except in my bedroom.. So I'd walk in to an empty apartment and it's just like.. "=_=;;"

I picked up cooking. Started off with easy italian stuff like Spaghetti... then moved on to pastas.. eventually I got pretty good. Plus you learn to feed yourself.. the only drawback was that I was eating the same meal for days in a row.. which really sucked..

[e00z]

i guess the biggest cure is finding people to talk to. once you develop a core group of friends, you'll be kept busy talking to them and you won't feel so alone anymore. that's what happened to me anyway...sorry i couldn't be of much help.

[Yuki_Muto]

It just takes time.

-Yuki

[watcher]

dunno... make new friends? i live alone. took me a few weeks of getting used to, but now im pretty comfortable.

[Irysinon]

It takes a while to get used to. From there, you either sprout or die out, depending on your choices and what you do.

[watcher]

It takes a while to get used to. From there, you either sprout or die out, depending on your choices and what you do.

hehe.. i think people are more resilient than that. you don't hear about many cases 'dying out' because they moved out. most live on.

[Irysinon]

hehe.. i think people are more resilient than that. you don't hear about many cases 'dying out' because they moved out. most live on.

Metaphorically speaking. I guess I have to detach myself from the time-line of a plant's life. It can take a toll on the mind of some of us lonesome rangers.

[erure]

As sad as it sounds, it doesn't really fully go away. I've been living alone for more than 2 years, and I still miss my mum, especially since we spent a month together in Korea and now I'm back in the States alone again. Just give it time and try to distract yourself :I

[watcher]

As sad as it sounds, it doesn't really fully go away. I've been living alone for more than 2 years, and I still miss my mum, especially since we spent a month together in Korea and now I'm back in the States alone again. Just give it time and try to distract yourself :I

i think that's the diff between guys/girls... guys dont really look back

[jshat4]

Thanks guys....

The friends thing, yeah I have "new friends' but I've only moved out for 2 weeks. And friendships usually take longer than that to really develop. Sure, there are people I'm "friendly" with but I just really really miss my family and friends back home. I MSN and e-mail them a lot and it really helps, but although they're there for me, but they can' be PHYSICALLY there for me NOW....

Yeah I know I should toughen up, but it is still difficult. I am hoping it'll get better with time, but I really don't know. I guess I should ask people to go out to dinner etc.? My roommate and I don't talk that much, which makes things a bit harder I guess.

[tlydia]

Thanks guys....

The friends thing, yeah I have "new friends' but I've only moved out for 2 weeks. And friendships usually take longer than that to really develop. Sure, there are people I'm "friendly" with but I just really really miss my family and friends back home. I MSN and e-mail them a lot and it really helps, but although they're there for me, but they can' be PHYSICALLY there for me NOW....

Yeah I know I should toughen up, but it is still difficult. I am hoping it'll get better with time, but I really don't know. I guess I should ask people to go out to dinner etc.? My roommate and I don't talk that much, which makes things a bit harder I guess.

Aww, I wish you were in Houston. I would invite you to have dinner with me and my friends. I can't say that I understand what you are going through because I don't. I have never been too far away from friends and family and prefer it that way. Of course it's difficult for you. You are living on your own for the first time. Here's a secret. Everyone feels that way when they first live on their own. It's only been two weeks. Try to give it some more time to get adjusted to being on your own. Look on the bright side, you're only a call away from your family and friends. When you go home to see your friends and family, you can tell them your experience of being independent. How come you and your roommate don't talk? Maybe you should try to talk to her. Maybe she is shy and going through the exact same thing you are. Being more open and asking people to have dinner, hang out, talk on the phone is a good idea. Good luck

[aznkids]

well my mom suggest me to find a girlfriend in the same class so you won't be boring and it will help your future career in a way. Try to bulid up more interests like playing tennis basketball etc. you don't really need make friends just learn how to do things better, and people will come for you.

[jshat4]

Aw you're so sweet tlydia. You guys are right, I've been really emotional the last 2 weeks, but now it's a lot better. I can't say the situation itself has gotten suddenly really good, but I'm more used to routine, and schoolwork has picked up, and same w/ cooking, cleaning demands. I'm kept busy all the time, I've found my own schedule, and I'm feeling not so horrible. Plus, I'm going to go back home soon, so it won't be so bad.

Haha as for finding a bf in the same class, I think that's not such a good idea =P I semi-liked this guy and it totally distracted me by seeing him everyday, etc. I think it'll be better to find someone in a different faculty, if possible haha....But yeah I agree about the extracurricular stuff, I'm going to try and join more stuff and see how it goes.