[Happy_Day]

In Korean culture, most parents expect a kind of monthly allowance, right? I think this applies more for people who actually live in Korea, but I see a few of my close older friends (unnis and oppas) giving their parents money. One of my unnis gives her parents $1,000 a month. What a sweet gal huh? I wish I'll be capable of doing this in the future.

Of course, I want to do this! I feel so much gratitude towards my parents, but I really don't think I'll be making enough to fend for myself, let alone my parents. I'll be making around $30,000 a year in NY, and the cost of living is crazy over there. And after paying off my taxes and student loans, I'll have zip. I feel like DIRT, I don't know what do. Maybe I'll work a part-time job on the side as well, because I feel like I need to help out my parents. You know, it's my duty as a daughter.

I still have another year before I graduate from my university, but I'm already worrying. They don't demand anything, but I feel like it's something I need to do. What do you guys think?



Anyway, do you give your parents $? If so, how old are you, and (you don't have to answer this if you don't want to) how much do you make?

[sasuke-kun]

My family has issues. So, I don't plan to give my dad and his wife money. Sadly I'm still living under him as I've decided that I'll just suck it up for another year so I can save up for a down payment for my own place (which I probably cannot even achieve in a year). I do want to give my grandma money though. She's actually going on a trip to Korea soon, so I'm going to buy her plane ticket and give her spending money. Maybe once I get my own place and just paying a mortgage, I can offer a monthly allowance. Probably around $500 a month.

I know someone who's giving all of her money to her parents, even buying them a place. She makes over 6 figures. Talk about filial piety, I could never be like that. Plus, I don't think my dad expects money from me. At least not yet.

[Yuki_Muto]

I don't give my parents money and they don't expect it from me. They know I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US.
My parents manage fine on their own without any help from me. However, they do appreciate the gifts I give them on birthdays, Christmas, etc.

$30,000 a year in NYC? Seriously? I make more than that and I'm barely getting by.

-Yuki

[HtyPotter]

No, but I need the money I have, and my parents don't.

[Irysinon]

I have barely enough money for myself, but I do pay sometimes for eat-out dinners. As for full-blown allowances? Maybe someday. My dad's on meds and they're expensive. So, I'll probably have to do something about that in the future.

[Meenuh]

i don't give my parents money every month but i do give my mom money from time to time or buy her stuff she wants. i also buy food for the house. maybe when i get a better job i'll be able to but not right now.

[W-K]

In Korean culture, most parents expect a kind of monthly allowance, right? I think this applies more for people who actually live in Korea, but I see a few of my close older friends (unnis and oppas) giving their parents money. One of my unnis gives her parents $1,000 a month. What a sweet gal huh? I wish I'll be capable of doing this in the future.

Anyway, do you give your parents $? If so, how old are you, and (you don't have to answer this if you don't want to) how much do you make?

Your friend is pretty comfortable or ridiculously family oriented to be giving her parents 1000 a month. I don't make much more than you and I can only really drop my parents 200-500 every once in a while, although I try to sneak in random upgrades for them (new tv for dad, new laptop for mom) and possibly grouping up with my siblings to send my parents on vacation (my siblings are like 11+ years older than me--I was the accident)

If I had more money I'd give more but they don't expect me to give them money and most of the time they tell me to just invest it somewhere and let it grow heh

[Raito!]

When i had a job i gave my parents 1/4 of my paycheck. But since I don't have a job now, 1/4 of $0 is $0 =(

They don't ask me for money though, I just feel obligated to give some.

[alasam]

I live at home and pay rent, but when I move out I hope I will still be able to make a monthly contribution to my mother.

[[HyuNi]]

You think investing in mortgages are bad, investing in your children is the worst type of investment there is! *came from my pastor. haha

I was blessed with a great job, with great parents who supported me through thick and thin, so I like to give as much as I can.
Each month, I sneak in an envelope with $500 in my mom's bag.
And then I play it all cool when she finds it by saying, "Oh it's not that much. Appa told me he wanted *this,that* for dinner"
Sometimes when we go out to eat, I like to pay for dinner. Not only do I feel proud that I can fill my parent's bellies now, but they get this smirk on their face like, "Uh Cchoo~ You think you're all grown up now?" haha
For me to think that I'll be able to pay my parents back for everything they did for me, is impossible.

I think my parents don't really need the money but take it because they see me becoming more responsible and independent. I don't know exactly what my mom does with that money, but I think it flows straight back to me. One thing is for sure: the dinner menus have gotten a lot more elaborate

[7thprincess]

^^^Awwww! Thats so cute! [pinches HyuNi's cheeks]

I'm a broke ass college student, but whenever I am financially stable and STILL single, they will be living with me, in my house. My very nice house.

[Meenuh]

^^^Awwww! Thats so cute! [pinches HyuNi's cheeks]

I'm a broke ass college student, but whenever I am financially stable and STILL single, they will be living with me, in my house. My very nice house.

awww that's even cuter! but .. what if you're not single?

[7thprincess]

awww that's even cuter! but .. what if you're not single?

If I'm not married, then I believe I will still be living with them. But if I do get hitched, then before I get hitched, I want to buy them a house with a maid, b/c my mommy and daddy are quite old.

[Dr Facepalm]

mm yea when i actually get a decent job ill def give umma some money

[.moony.]

Yeah I'd love to give them a lot of money.
When I used to work when i was younger I gave them all my paychecks - well they just took it to safeguard for me, and i didnt really have any problem with it lol.
If I ever earn enough to live in the future, I'd love to give them money/ or buy them stuff. I remember when I was really small, I once bought my mom a gift for mothers day, she didnt want it and she was like why didnt u save ur money!! Haha. So yea I'd like to buy her stuffs in the future when she knows im financially well off enough to buy gifts for her then she wouldn't refuse them
I dont think of it as an obligation. We were not rich folks so my parents lived a frugal life to save up for us, whereas I and my sis live a pretty comfortable life, so all I want to do is to be able to let them live a really good life when im older.

[twinky81]

As a previous poster mentioned, my immediate family is also messed up, and as a result my mom/dad side of the family are completely split. To be frank, there are many ppl on my mom's side I've never met before in my entire life (27 years now). Needless to say, it's kind of a phucked up deal for me. Aside from that, I take care of my mom as best as I can given the circumstances, and send her money whenever she asks. I also pay her cellphone bill every month. As for my father, he's very well off with his wife. He makes almost 3 times as much as I do so there's no point in me giving him any money. He lives well, and often makes trips to his timeshare in the Bahamas to which I've never been. I offer to pay for dinner when he comes in to town to visit me every now and then. My Korean family is weird like that. I guess you could almost say we're not really that close, we just kind of do our own thing. Sad but true.

[little mixed girl]

i do it, but it's cuz my mom doesn't have a job.
every month i send money to cover the bills, food, gas and my loans.

[Face]

I am not a graduate yet, this will be my third year at my university...However..

My parents never require us to give "allowances" nor do they expect us to support them. They are very proud about their ability to fend for themselves without the help of others. My father has an alphamale type of atitude. The type which states, "I am your father, I am responsible of taking care of you-not the other way around." With that said, my eldest brother does not give allowances or whatnot. Instead he takes my parent's bills every so often and pays them. Instead of giving money to pay for food, he just brings home groceries and covers up his actions by requesting my mother cook dinner. It a very indirect way of taking care of my parents.

I am not as indirect as my brother. Since I am making very good money because I am living with my parents. [They refuse to let me move away, for fear I might struggle with living alone.] I take alot of the financial stress off my parents by giving money to my RELATIVES in China and Vietnam...heck, even the ones in Canada. It wasn't until I took this responsiblity from my parents that I realized what a financial burden it was for my parents. I don't mind helping my relatives who are not financially stable, but.. 24K a year, for the past 17 years? How did my parents manage that AND support us? It makes one truely grateful to our parents...

[Meenuh]

If I'm not married, then I believe I will still be living with them. But if I do get hitched, then before I get hitched, I want to buy them a house with a maid, b/c my mommy and daddy are quite old.

awww. you know what would be even sweeter/cuter? if it was like my big fat greek wedding and your parents lived in the house next door to you. haha.

[fcuknstylin]

My parents just expects me to take care of my siblings and not them.