[YoFatty]

I dunno, but I've noticed a lot of the better looking girls end up with boyfriends.
How much does that matter to a guy.
I dont think im ugly. but not that pretty either.


I made a lot of new guy friennds recently, since im going to a new school.
and I have a crush on one of them.
I'm pretty sure he only sees me as a friend though.
How do I get him to notice me more as a girlfriend.
should I flirt more, even though I'm horrible at flirting.
which also reminds me to ask you guys; How do girls flirt with guys?

[xlilpickleluverx]

hmmm.
you should just be yourself I guess.

Im not too sure about looks.
but if looks really matter that much to him, then he seems shallow.
but I bet hes not like that.
so just talk to him more.
& i think guys like funny & outgoing girls.
as for flirting, im not a flirting expert either.
hehe, so i dont think I can help you on that.

[blueokami]

well I don't think looks matter that much,

hmm well don't be a slob, take care of yourself and give him lots of attention =] (Like talk to him a lot) make excuses to spend time with him.
then after a while, give him blatant hints.
(me and my bf played punch, pash or partner, and came up with random names, and after a while I just said I would partner him over so and so)
hint it to your friends so they tease the two of you =]

ionno works for me =]

[jadeooo]

Obviously looks matter. When you walk into a room, its human nature to automatically check out the cutest guy/girl because they catch your attention. Looks matter when its first impression.
But Personality is more important for relationships etc. For example, if a person is known to have a horrible personality, it somehow shows in their looks. (ie eye brows, evil eyes, evil expression etc)

Careful about HOW you flirt.... you don't want to seem desperate.
I don't know how to flirt o.o but I sure know how not to flirt by observing my friends :|

[Kiribati]

There's no process really. It just comes naturally. As for me (since I'm a guy), I just see how she responds to whatever, and go with it. I say hi, if she smiles and says hi, then proceed, then ask her how she's doing, then proceed.

...Okay maybe there is a process but it's a natural process.

[sh1neweare]

well for me, I guess i pursued my boyfriend. He and i were only club members and we were i guess friends. just talking about twice a week whenever our club would meet together. i was secretly liking him a lot. and everyone in the club would know. I thought one day to just call and talk and become closer as friends. and i guess that's how he got to like me. I was myself but just spent more time communicating with him. and we just flowed

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

Be playful around him.
Just slowly talk to him more, like first on AIM and then more and more over the phone.

[touchthesky]

from my observations you can be average looking but if you have a killer personality you'll get guys.
as for how to get a guy to like you idk. i have little to no experience in that area :[

[chifuni]

Not everything is about looks. But looks are also essential. Looks and Personality are two things that can't be without each other.
For me, they are necessities in a relationship/attraction. But people have different opinions on this.

[kpxnamja]

hi!

Although there are a lot of factors involved in attraction, most people agree two things stand out the most: looks and personality.
Looks are what initiate the first impression and spark interest. However, once the first few words are exchanged, personality kicks in. I will be very honest with my experiences since I want to be sincere and understand your situation pretty well

As a guy I believe looks and personality are directly related when it comes to judging girls (probably similar for girls as well). If your looks aren't vavoom/headturning/wolf-whistling... then a great personality can certainly makeup for it. If one is a bit lower, the other has to be a bit higher visa-versa.

Also, the more attractive the girl/guy you are interested in is, the more "active" you have to be to get their attention. Attractive girls don't have a hard time having average to "ehh? but brave" guys walk up to them looking to "score" (please excuse the expression). But they have their attention turned towards the most attractive guy in the crowd who they have to work to get the attention of (see how it's a step-ladder?).

Since you are already friends with this guy. You've made the first step. Just give him a bit more attention than your other guy friends. What kind of attention? Nothing big, just do a few kind things that he will notice. I was very touched when this one girl who seemed to have a crush on me folded my jacket for me during lunchtime in high school before we had to go back to class. In another example, the girl seemed to actually have done a bit of research on me since we kept discovering interests we had in common which she obviously seemed to have taken up recently... but I thought it was very cute ^^ In a third different example, the girl liked to make fun of me often---of course jokingly-- but it is an effective flirt method used by both genders.

Wow this is long... lol. Going into flirting methods. The one I already mentioned above is one. Another is taking advantage of (not a big secret) of guy's egos. All guys have their pride which is, not surprisingly, inflated around girls. When he mentions he likes to do something or that he is good at something, act surprised or more importantly impressed/interested. Show that you sincerely care about what he is talking about in your conversations (this kind of plays into that one case scenario I mentioned with the girl who researched my interests). Try to find out what kind of girl he likes too... cute/playful/emo (lol)/ dorky (believe it or not yes in some cases)/athletic/etc.

I hope this helped a bit? Once again, my most important points are to be ACTIVE in your approaches and have CONFIDENCE. Guys like girls who carry themselves like they are pretty even if they are average (this is a personality trait--and don't confuse it with arrogance). Make yourself stand out OR make the GUY see you.

[me.myself.&.i]

Just act natural, be yourself, be your best, be beautiful.
People shine when they're themselves.
Dont try so hard, always smile and look them in the eyes.

[Kira_Hyuu]

Unfortunately looks matter; like intially if u want to get his attention like looks is everything maybe dress a bit more stylishly....if u get to know them then it's personality that depends whether they'll like u or not. Or u can take the more revealing apporoach and just dress up like a slut and all guys will like u....since all guys want a girl thats easy to access....honestly.....

[L.FOR.LOVE]

talkj about random things
smile a lot (;
talk a lot
LAUGH AT HIM
okay maybe don't but yeah
let it flow

i think the first thing taht attracts you to them is looks ?

[idiotsucks]

haaa hi
actually i got not much thg to comment
cuz i am currenly facing the same problem as u
haf a crush on a guy
but i haf no idea how to let him notice more bout me
mmmm..
wad i do now is jz stay as active as i can
chat with him every possible chances i haf
sometimes
i kinda worry dat it will be kinda annonying to him
*shrug*
i duno..

[<3 Kim]

Looks attract people.
But I dunno, just talk to them a lot? :/

[Twinny]

I think looks really matter..

In school I work with 4 guys on a project, when they talk about girls I notice they only talk about the girls body and face. It's a painful fact I know.

[yuwing]

from guy's perspective:


simple, lift your skirt in front of his face.

F*CK YEAH! *head banging*




















Just be true to yourself. Be proud of who you are, what your values are, what you represent (and tell him), and if he doesn't like you (or accept them) then that's that. Don't make him like you, because that's manipulative and just as bad as simply lifting up your skirt in front of his face and tell him you're an all you can f*ck buffet.

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if you really want to know how to flirt:

how to flirt - know what he likes (top or bottom). if he likes top, be bottom. vice versa. adjust conversation accordingly.

something about attractiveness:
attractiveness - every guy's rating is different (my friends and I compare our ratings every time a girl passes by). sometimes my friend rates a 8 but i rate a 9.5. lol so wish the guy rate you 8?

[Xiaoba1tu]

I dunno, but I've noticed a lot of the better looking girls end up with boyfriends.

Not really. I've seen a lot of not-so-attractive couples too and average/lower than average looking girls with bfs.

For your question, I would just get to know him more, if looks don't get the attention at first, personality hopefully will, assuming he's not the superficial type. If he is, you would best get over him and find someone else.

[kayara<3]

like others have said, be yourself =]

it's no good if you put up a facade of flirting/whatever if it hides who you are. you want him to like you for you. you don't want him to like you as somebody you're only pretending to be.

keep being friends with him. if he's attracted to you, he's attracted to you. if he's not, he's not. so long as you don't have two heads or five eyes or something, and you're average looking, then it's really up to your personality to get him hooked so yeh, all in all, keep it real. don't fake it/try too hard/push yourself on him, k?

hope it works out for you ^^

[Tenshi-Tenshi]

Well, i think that regardless of how ppl say that looks doesn't matter...the honest truth is that it does even if it's just a teeny bit. but i think u should just be urself. how it went for me...um...i really liked my bf b4 it all happened and would always spend time with him as a fren. i don't think he liked me that way at first but he warmed up to me ^^