[bbyxDELICIOUS]

So I been going out with my boyfriend for three and a half years. and we have our up and down and we get through it. I been with him every since freshmen year of highschool now im a freshmen in college. my boyfriend the jealous type and I am too but not to the point where i dont let him have any girl friends, but for him its different he got jealous of my feminine guy friends which hella piss me off, but i decided to let that go. I don't have any guy friends at all not even one=[. and its not like im desperate but it be cool to have a guy friend who can give me opions on presents and stuff. so recently this summer vacation I been hanging out with him everyday and I was okay with it, but when my friends ask me to go to with them on a roadtrip I said no since I didnt have any money and i was okay with that. They came back telling me about how great it was they told me how they met great guy and girls friends and i regretted not going.(they stayed in a hotel) They went again at the end of summer and they decided they were gonna stay at a guy friend house which was cheaper for them and this guy live with his mom and sisters. They ask me to go again a few months and I said yes. I was so excited since this is the first time i been on a roadtrip and out of my house my strict parent agree too, but I told my boyfriend he got piss he was like are those friend so important that you have to meet them. I didn;'t care I was going to go anyways, but we were going stay at the guy friends house again since we will save money and it not a random guy my best friend for 15 years know him and of course i trust her and it also going to be 5 girls in the house too. He said if your gonna stay at the guy house then I dont want you to go. I was piss I'm like why cant he trust me. but yesterday we had a fight about this subject and im not talking to him right now cause we got mad at each other and recently i met a new guy friend we click right off the bat he so easy to talk too and very nice (no we not interested in each other) he has a gf and i have a bf but im scared to tell him cause he over exagerate things. I feel that in the future im going to interact with guys and its not like I'm doing anything wrong. and I feel that if I don't get space from me imma explode I don't know what to do because he so sensitive he might cry or something.sigh



EDIT09/16/08

So we finally broke it off after 3 and a half years, and I feel so free and relieved but it was scary and hard. thanks everyone for there help. I really appreciate it

[ShadowMax76]

john tesh him. just get out of the relationship

if he can't understand. ..bleh.


talk it out. that's what i think.

[wishiwsh]

Maybe you're not trying hard enough to get him to understand. Honestly he doesn't have to "agree" with your decision but as any caring person would to another they should understand and ACCEPT it sometimes. Just like your parents they love you and they won't agree with all of your decisions but they will trust you to do what you want and be okay at the end. Your boyfriend should not be having this tight of a lease on you where you cannot even sleep with 5 girls just because it is in a guys house. He can be concerned. He can be jealous but no he cannot and should not make you "not" go trying to make you choose between him and your friends. I say try your best to talk to him so that when you go you guys won't end up being awkward with eachother. Tell him you'd rather have his support in this fun adventure!!! Rather than being on bad terms. If he refuses than that boy needs to learn a lesson. Don't accept his calls while on your trip! He will go insane!

[awesomestuff]

tell him how insane he is.
if he doesnt want to give you space/ change for the better
then you leave him cos hey, you need to spread out your wings man.

[OMGitzYOU]

try talking to him more, does he have female friends? tell him that if you didn't have any guy friends how would you two meet. Does he have a male best friend that you know? Is it possible that you invite him along (if he's cool with your friends)

[bbyxDELICIOUS]

thanks you guys and wishiwsh i did try to make him understand i said you just gonna have to trust me its only 3 days you gotta understand this is for me and my friends to experience something different and your going to have to accept the change im going through.

[Inspector]

Sounds like hes insecure so he want to keep the other guys from you. You can't NOT have guy friends just because he has a problem with that. You should have a talk with him about that. If anything, he should let you interact with them because if you're not doing him wrong despite the fact that you can, then he'll know he has a good girl on his hands. You need to talk to him about that because its going to be a serious problem. The whole is full of men, and here I am trying to give you a advice. He cant hide you forever and it would probably only make you resent him later on. If you want to save this relationship then talk to him. AND if HE wants to save it then he needs to get over his insecurities.

[kaysie89]

Omg...sounds so familiar...so this is what I gots to say...

"IT'S NOT FREAKEN WORTH IT TO HOLD ONTO JUST A 3 YRS RELATIONSHIP IF IT'S ALL GONNA BE JEALOUSY & CONTROL CUZ THAT CRAP IS JUST STUPID & IMMATURE...FORGET ALL THAT LOVE & TRUST CRAP...THAT AIN'T EVER GONNA HAPPEN CUZ ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE TRUST-WORTHY; IF HE'S JUST GONNA BE JEALOUS & CONTROL YOU, then DAMN! FAWK THAT! LEAVE HIS ASS!! DON'T WASTE ANOTHER 3 YRS W/ HIM!!!! "

I'm not saying this to be mean or anything, but sh!t. I was in a long 2yr relationship & he was so freaken controlling & demanding...I ALWAYS let him do what he want, but when he FLIRTS IN FRONT OF ME and I'd confront him or yell at him he'd be like "I WASN'T EVEN FAWKEN FLIRTING!! YOU'RE FREAKEN STUPID!!" and all that crap, but if I were to smile at a long time guy friend since childhood only...he'll get all freaken mad & we'd argue for the rest of the night!!! ugh!!! >:I...but I was STUPID enough to even stay for that long...I guess cuz it was the first relationship that ever lasted that long & didn't want to just throw away my two years...LoL...and I was afraid I'd be so hurt & NEVER get over him...BUT FAWK! I got SO FED UP W/ HIS BULLSH!T...that I finally DUMPED HIS ASS!!! And NOW, i'm as HAPPY AS I CAN EVER BE!!!!!!!!!! I realized "WHAT A BIG ASS FREAKEN MISTAKE I MADE FOR CHOOSING TO HOLD ONTO THAT STUPID RELATIONSHIP!!!" So girl, forget him & move on cuz you'll find someone WAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY BETTER THAN HIM!!! Trust me, especially when you LEAST EXPECT IT!!!!!!!! CUZ I KNOW I DID...LoL 0:D

[MaryMagdalin]

thats a bit too much
70% of my bf`s friends are girls haha
i was already pretty uncomfortable with that
but i`ve met most of them and for the most part i trust them LOL

if you`ve never done anything to betray his trust i dont see what just for this one trip he shouldnt trust you
and as long as you`re not meeting that guy like on a daily basis i dont see why he shouldnt trust you on that either

he prob wont let it go though
so you either htave to deal with him
or find someone who wont care as much

[mrhungalung]

if there is no trust then there is no future.

[koneee]

You need to let him go. You just started college, you can't let him control your life all the time. Open your doors and meet guys who will be able to trust you and love your guy friends as well.

I went through the same situation, and good gawd it was the worst time in my whole entire life.. ok well not really but it was such a pain in the butt. But I gave my BF a good beating and he learned his lesson. And now he has no problem with trust and guys who I hang out with. <--- wasn't easy.

[sus]

wow three and half years is a long time
and for this prob to arise now... isnt that a bit late?
\thought it woulda came up earlier in the relationship
i think hes unreasonable but i think he thinks hes rite or watever cos its always been that way
and now that ur kinda like exploring the world n growin up, meeting new people hes scared he mite lose u

i think hes just insecure
u need to talk to him more and reassure him that ur not goin leave him if u meet new people....

hes gota learn to respect u... u both need to compromise...
good luck

[sushiwhore]

youwhould tell him to trut you and leave anyways =_+


but really if he's nto letting yu go out with yroeu girl freinds o_o then wow =(

[heavenlydreamy]

he have no right to control you.
if i have to be in your position..i would of let him go.
cause you need to have your fun and explore you own life.
he is to narrow minded.
it is your life..you are the boss of you.
not him.