[mAy0_xYo0j]

Okay , so uhm .. me and my boyfriend .. let's call him COOKIE . Well me & Cookie have been going out for 1 year & 6 months .. well not including our break ups .. but i've always taken him back .

[ o1 ] My mom broke us up under my MSN Messsenger .
But then i guess that was my fault 'cus i stayed signed on .

[ o2 ] He broke up with me because i was telling him how he never talks to me ,
& he thought i was like SUPER mad at him but i wasn't & then he made me
feel bad by saying he's not worthy of me .

[ o3 ] He broke up with me again , because i was mad as hell at him because he
missed our anniversary & we were supposed to hang out that day , but then he
said sorry . & i always feel bad .

[ o4 ] He broke up with me AGAIN , because he thought i was cheating on him
with my best friend , let's call him SHINY . Ehh but i wasn't , 'cus he's like my best
friend & we don't even talk as much anymore because of this incident.

[ o5] He broke up with me because he needed to focus on school .
but we don't even go to the same school !!

[ o7 ] He broke up with me outta no where . i thought things were going good
& everything but then he just broke up with me . & then one of his close friends
let's call him GUPPY , Guppy told me he was cheating on me with this girl
and they were doing some STUFF together . so i was mad as hell .
OH & we were still together when he cheated .
but then i confronted him about it and he said he didn't cheat on me .
& his other friend , let's call him LEGO . Lego told me that Cookie
thought i broke up with him & i thought he broke up with me .
& i have a HUGE MOUTH & told a couple of my close friends that he cheated .

& so we've been talking & yeah we got back together , 'cus i really care about him
but when we still weren't together it seemed like he tried to hard to get me back
but now that we're together it seems like he doesn't care , he doesn't even talk to me
anymore . ;[ & that girl that Guppy said he cheated on me with let's call her Sun .
I was reading his stuff & he's been talking to Sun a lot . O.O & i was reading some of
he messages with his friends & he transferred to Sun's school . O.O

But i had my friend talk to him & he seemed really mad when my friend brought up the
cheating thing . So she said is mustn't be true if he got REALLY mad over it ...

OH & sometimes we fight about how i don't trust him , but i do . i just don't trust
other girls , & he doesn't trust me because he always has his friends test me
& he doesn't tell me like anything because we don't talk on the phone
we only talk online & hang out like maybe once a month .. ?

& i don't wanna play hard to get because what if he thinks i don't
like him and he won't talk to me anymore ? He's like that ..

& i almost moved on when we were still off , aha weird to say . but i started high school
and there's this dude , he's cute . & i hadn't started to talk to him yet
but then Cookie started pulling me back to him !!

& he means alot to me because he's my first serious relationship &
he was my first kiss and french.

Soo help me ? i seriously don't know what to say to him next or
if i should even stay with him or not ? ...









HELP !!

[Trinity <3]

wow... dump his a-ss -___-

if you don't wanna leave him seriously, PLAY HARD TO GET.
there's a risk he won't come back if you do though, and if i were you i would do it.
it would prove how much he'd really want you.

i learned from my past relationship which just ended not to treat your s/o like royalty.
i gave my ex way too many chances, especially when he actually almost cheated on me, and he was a compulsive liar.
in the end, he said "he needed to focus on school" just like what your bf said. i said "no more, it's over".
and when i said that a big burden came out of my chest.
seriously? he's not worth your time if he's going to treat you like mini cooper.
it sounds like he's just treating you as his second safe alternate.

[ShadowMax76]

like you said

he's not worthy of you.

but. i don't really believe in running away from the problem.
love being a work of art.. many hacks with an axe, chips flying about , a few cuts and curses,
but . x-x' i wonder.... if there's a limit to it all.

[mAy0_xYo0j]

wow... dump his a-ss -___-

if you don't wanna leave him seriously, PLAY HARD TO GET.
there's a risk he won't come back if you do though, and if i were you i would do it.
it would prove how much he'd really want you.

i learned from my past relationship which just ended not to treat your s/o like royalty.
i gave my ex way too many chances, especially when he actually almost cheated on me, and he was a compulsive liar.
in the end, he said "he needed to focus on school" just like what your bf said. i said "no more, it's over".
and when i said that a big burden came out of my chest.
seriously? he's not worth your time if he's going to treat you like mini cooper.
it sounds like he's just treating you as his second safe alternate.

Well , i don't wanna be mean , he was like me first kiss & FRENCH & he is my first SERIOUS relationship
it's gonna be hard to let go x[

like you said

he's not worthy of you.

but. i don't really believe in running away from the problem.
love being a work of art.. many hacks with an axe, chips flying about , a few cuts and curses,
but . x-x' i wonder.... if there's a limit to it all.

But then , that's just mean to say that he's not worthy of me !! ;[

[Trinity <3]

^of course it's gonna be hard to let go (: i just recently broke up with my bf and i still think of him a lot.
trust me, it's worse on my part cause he was my first everything. everything.
he even told me that he didn't deserve me, i kept denying it.
after i broke up with him, he was right, not to be conceited but he was.

i'm guessing you're still young? still in high school or so..

there are better guys in college. (:

[mAy0_xYo0j]

^of course it's gonna be hard to let go (: i just recently broke up with my bf and i still think of him a lot.
trust me, it's worse on my part cause he was my first everything. everything.
he even told me that he didn't deserve me, i kept denying it.
after i broke up with him, he was right, not to be conceited but he was.

i'm guessing you're still young? still in high school or so..

there are better guys in college. (:

Yeah , we're only freshmans , we started dating in 7th grade .
Lol , everyone tells me i'm too good for him , that's why i hate when he thinks
that too . why can't we be equal ? that SUN chick , ughk . she's ugly
no offense . ahahah , but everyone said he down graded if he cheated .
Ughh , ahah your right . maybe it is time we break up ...

[Trinity <3]

i didn't mean to discourage you or anything, but the way you put it you sound like you're deserve better.
way better (:

[mAy0_xYo0j]

i didn't mean to discourage you or anything, but the way you put it you sound like you're deserve better.
way better (:

Lmao , yeah that's what everyone says . =T
i just feel so bad 'cus he's actually really sweet and stuff
just he can't show it .

[super piggy]

DUMP HIM.
thanks<3.

from what i READ, he breaks up with you over stupid sh**.
yeah he may be your first & all but there are times where you needa just let it go.
i also didnt wanna let my ex go cus he was my first but then i screwed myself over cus i didnt let him go.
we got back together when i had minimal feelings & blahlbllah.
let him go, you can still care & all.

plus, if he did cheat. screw him. LOL (:

[GOOMBA]

Relationships that break on and off in my opinion aren't worthy of continuing.

Seriously. What happens when you get married? File for divorce every two seconds?

Man...

[thesisoflove]

well too mee.
relationships at this age arent worth it really..
because its like ... you dont understand if that person would be worthy to you and love.. o_o
liking someone does hurt.. a LOT. i think you should move on if its always like off and on ... because those relationships result... in a .. bad way.

[damyoungji]

Sorry to say this, but your boyfriend is not worth it. Why are you the one fighting to get to him on the battlefield when he doesn't do the same for you?

The constant breaking up thing seems like he is really insecure about the relationship. It is as though he is worried you will leave him so he leaves you first.
There must be something going on with the whole cheating because why else will people be talking about it? He must be doing something to give others that impression.

It is a shame that he does not seem to care much, while you care a lot about him (couples break up, but usually not as much as you two O.o).
All I have to say is that someone is not worth it when they don't respect you. He has apologized a lot for the things he did, but it seems like he does not want to change.

Pffttt, go get to know the cute kid at school. You don't have to be with him or anything, but you can be friends, right? That won't be considered as cheating.

As for the situation about being your first kiss, relationship, etc.. We all go through that. It is really rare for someone to marry their first love (I find it cool when that happens =P).
Before I dated my ex (it was a really bad relationship and I have never dated anyone since then), a guy told me that first relationships are not necessary the best ones.

I knew it was true after my first break-up.
I am not trying to persuade you to break up with him, but I am giving you my opinions. In the end, it is your decision to decide on what to do.

[nemo168vn]

Your 14 right? I don't think it should be that complicated at 14. I loved, i broke up all the time back at 14 but I wouldnt be frustrated like this. And I definitely dont think he's worth it - sound kinda childish to me. But I meant 1 year and 6 months - thats a VERY LONG TIME AT 14! Gratz that you made it, but decide on whether you will be happy or not girl? 14 doesnt need much, just the love and security plus happiness!

I hope this helps.

[Inspector]

I'm not going to lie... but I started to skimming through... sounds like he is cheating. Forget the loser.

[First Blush]

It all comes down to the list.

Reasons to break up with him:
1) You lost your (close) friend before, but now you have a chance to save a friendship:

[ o1 ] He broke up with me AGAIN , because he thought i was cheating on him
with my best friend but i wasn't , 'cus he's like my best
friend & we don't even talk as much anymore because of this incident.

2)Lame excuses:

[ o5] He broke up with me because he needed to focus on school .
but we don't even go to the same school !!

3)Don't confuse ideals with action. Despite 'saying' (or wanting to believe) that you trust him, you just read his 'stuff'... b/c you don't trust him

I was reading his stuff & he's been talking to Sun a lot . O.O & i was reading some of
he messages with his friends & he transferred to Sun's school . O.O

^^This is an instance where actions have a greater value than words.

OH & sometimes we fight about how i don't trust him , but i do . i just don't trust
other girls

See the previous ^^

5)New guy is cute as well


I'm not giving you any new information; all of that is what you wrote, those are your own words. That said, my rule of thumb for relationships or anything you are willing to give up on in life is simple. Make sure that you have given it as much as you are willing too- to the point where you'll have no regrets from your decision. And if you don't know 'how much is enough to have no regrets?' then give it your full 100% -- If its still not working after that? Well then you shouldn't have any regrets because you'll know you gave it everything and it still wasn't working.

This helps for 2 fold reasons: 1) When you break up, even if at first its a difficult thing to accept, just knowing in your heart (or gut) whatever it is, that you gave it everything and still it didn't work helps you move on. 2) You won't 'wonder at what could have been' anymore b/c you already know the extent of what it would have been.

*edit: one extra thing to point out - its psychological, a cheater has a greater tendency to believe his/her s/o is cheating on him/her so often they will accuse the other of cheating because they themselves are doing it.

that SUN chick , ughk . she's ugly
no offense . ahahah , but everyone said he down graded if he cheated .
Ughh , ahah your right . maybe it is time we break up ...

^^ Sigh* You're still young...

[MaryMagdalin]

um no if people cheated they would do anything (almost) to not let you find out.


um.......
think about it
he broke up with you like 10 times
for the most idiotic reasons.

if i still cared about him i would ignore him to see how much he really wanted me
but knowing me i would have dumped his ass a long time ago.

[sushiwhore]

he dumped youover random bad reasons o_O is that really worth it yorue 14 you''ll live on =; /

[eximius]

If he keeps breaking up with you over and over, doesn't that already tell you something?

You're only a freshmen in high school, losing him won't kill you.

[c0lap1nada]

LOL. Sorry but I totally laughed when I read this... You guys broke up quite a bit...

And I don't understand #7.

He broke up with me outta no where . i thought things were going good
& everything but then he just broke up with me . & then

He 'cheated' on you after you guys broke up? How is that considered 'cheating'??

But anyways.. just break it off with him.

[mAy0_xYo0j]

x BABY 814 : Well , i'm pretty sure he didn't cheat , well to me it seems like he didn't
he's a really shy guy & he wouldn't even do what his friend said he did with that
girl . wlel at least i think so ? he may be kind of a perv but he doesn't show it .

damyoungji ; Well his friends tell me he REALLY cares about me , & i think your right about
being insecure about the relationship resulting to dumping me . UGHK .

First Blush ; Wow this helped me alot , THANKS . I'm kinda speechless O.O
You should be my therapist .

MaryMagdalin ; Well usually when we talk i ALWAYS start the conversation .
& yeah now i'm just not talking to him , & seeing what will happen .