[winterlove]

It there's something you can't forget in life, be it failure, hurt, regret, bad memories, unhappiness, burden, cannot face/ accept etc...

Would you choose to:

1. Forget it.
2. "Run away" from it
3. Drown in your own sadness/world
4. Avoid it
5. Treat as if it does not exist
6. Face it (though it's hard)
7. Others


I feel that I have been 2. Running away from it, I just couldn't accept my failure, or rather I don't want to accept my failure in life so I really don't know what to do next.

[MiddleMan]

I feel that I have been 2. Running away from it, I just couldn't accept my failure, or rather I don't want to accept my failure in life so I really don't know what to do next.

Can you name anyone who had never failed?
Everyone had failed at least once.
The greater ones always tried again,
To overcome in one way or another.

[jN x3 sK]

Whenever I fail at something I just face it. To me there is no point in running away from it. I learn from my mistakes and try to improve myself for the next time it comes around if I ever have to face it again.

[Irysinon]

I'm a failure. There has never been a time where I have never failed. I've always failed. I basically face my failures, burdens, regrets, bad memories, etc and repress them while being aware. But, that becomes a combination of all that you listed (except forgetting) and I end up feeling worse. So, in the end, I do drown in my "sadness." As long as it doesn't affect others, I'm fine with it though.

[HERMIT]

It there's something you can't forget in life, be it failure, hurt, regret, bad memories, unhappiness, burden, cannot face/ accept etc...

Would you choose to:

1. Forget it.
2. "Run away" from it
3. Drown in your own sadness/world
4. Avoid it
5. Treat as if it does not exist
6. Face it (though it's hard)
7. Others


I feel that I have been 2. Running away from it, I just couldn't accept my failure, or rather I don't want to accept my failure in life so I really don't know what to do next.

I would say almost all of the above. To me, each of those scenarios can sometimes be not so much mutually exclusive outcomes insomuch as they are 'stages' of one gradual outcome (though not in the same order as you've listed). But it depends upon what kind of 'failure' involved and the severity of it. But if it is a failure of the biggest kind, then as it relates to above #s 2, 4, and 5 (which are basically the same thing) initially comes first as a sort of state of denial phase; then, 3 as the reality begins to sink in; then, 6 as I come to terms with it; then, 7 as I try to evaluate the optimistic side ('what good can come from it/what have I learned as a result?) of the situation; and finally 1 - forget it, and put some closure to the issue.

[jshat4]

Another trick is to find yourself a new problem and the old one will disappear on its own now you're faced with a new dilemma. Doesn't solve the unhappiness issue though because you have a new problem lol.

[gisbiz]

I'm a failure. There has never been a time where I have never failed. I've always failed. I basically face my failures, burdens, regrets, bad memories, etc and repress them while being aware. But, that becomes a combination of all that you listed (except forgetting) and I end up feeling worse. So, in the end, I do drown in my "sadness." As long as it doesn't affect others, I'm fine with it though.

awww.....

[k25]

I'm a failure. There has never been a time where I have never failed. I've always failed. I basically face my failures, burdens, regrets, bad memories, etc and repress them while being aware. But, that becomes a combination of all that you listed (except forgetting) and I end up feeling worse. So, in the end, I do drown in my "sadness." As long as it doesn't affect others, I'm fine with it though.

Same. I fake happiness to the world even though I feel like dying.

[mz simmonz]

first I wallow in self-pitty (usually if its emotional pain) and have a mini anxiety attack (if it's failure) and then I sit and think for a long time about what I can do to fix it..if it can't be fixed then I try really hard to run away from it and forget it..although I can never really forget it does get easier with time I suppose?

[winterlove]

Can you name anyone who had never failed?
Everyone had failed at least once.
The greater ones always tried again,
To overcome in one way or another.

The worst thing is even you try again, you still fail...
But all of us should try again even if we have failed once.

Yet often, we are not given a chance to overcome the failure, you see.



Aja Aja fighting!

[Meenuh]

bad memories i forget em. pretend like they never happened. makes life easier but at the same time i know not to make that same mistake twice.

[Tuffcore]

Believe it or not, we humans can control how we interpret events that happen in our lives. Sometimes we don't know we are controlling it, but we are. Successful people in this world see the silver lining in everything. People who fail in life choose to focus on the negatives all the time.

Failure is part of winning, if you let it be. In one of Michael Jordan's most famous commercials, he tells how he failed a lot in life and that's why he succeeds.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc (the best Jordan commercials of all time in my opinion).

[709394]

Funny you list those options,
but instead of choosing which one I would pick,
reality is more like IN WHAT ORDER I picked, which looks something like this:

1. Avoid it <--deny reality
2. "Run away" from it
3. Drown in your own sadness/world
^ actually I think these 3 are tied...simulatenously experiencing it.

Then fnally as time goes by,
4. Face it (though it's hard)
5. Forget it.

Im learning to cope. Still learning.

[JDM6]

Failing is part of the learning process in order for you to succeed.

Benjamin Franklin had 500 failed attempts when creating the light bulb. He said he didn't failed 500 times. He just found 500 ways how not to make a light bulb.

[Meenuh]

Believe it or not, we humans can control how we interpret events that happen in our lives. Sometimes we don't know we are controlling it, but we do. Successful people in this world see the silver lining in everything. People who fail in life choose to focus on the negatives all the time.

Failure is part of winning, if you let it be. In one of Michael Jordan's most famous commercials, he tells how he failed a lot in life and that's why he succeeds.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc (the best Jordan commercials of all time in my opinion).

this reminds me of Meet the Robinsons. I think everyone needs to watch this movie. LOL.

KEEP MOVING FORWARD! haha.

[Aerolite]

Well, whenever I deal with serious problems like that I would do the following:

Dwell. Run Away. Forget. I'd kind of procrastinate with it until the very moment I have to deal with it (that's if I HAVE to, if I don't need to face it then I just forget about it).

I have a couple embarassing moments/experiences with people I still can't really get over about and it gets hard, but most of the time I just forget or 'hide.' When I have to face them again I just suck it in and act normal but it depends. A lot of times I just avoid contact.

[chinkboye22]

face it, theres no point of running away from it or forgetting about it because it always comes back to haunt you and that time it may be even worse

[Prot]

5 stages of grief you would go through:
1) Denial
2) Anger
3) Bargaining
4) Depression
5) Acceptance

I personally skip the 4th stage cause it is a waste of life.

1) Running away from the problem, ignoring it, pretending it never happened, etc would be the same as denial. It doesn't matter if you deny it or not, the situation still has existed and occured.
2) Once people realize this, they generally will get angry: Example: WHY ME?.
3) Some will decide to bargain: Example: Oh it wasn't that bad compared to this.
4) Some may hit depression: Example: This was the worst thing ever.
5) Finally you accept that the problem/situation has happened and you will work towards fixing it or just accept it. If there isn't anything you can do about it, you can only accept it.

Example: I squished your peanut butter jelly sandwich. Say it is the only one you have and you cannot make another one. All you can do is accept it (Though you may go through the 5 steps).

Example2: I squished your peanut butter jelly sandwich. You finally accept that fact and just make another one.

It all ends with accepting it because there is nothing you can do about something that has happened. (Unless you learn to time travel)

[709394]

^ Haha, I like your example.

You squished my peanut butter jelly sandwhich.
I will go through massive denial.
"uh UH you did NOT just squish my peanut jelly sandwhich!"