[boilingpoint3]

There's a girl who's been giving me extremely mixed signals. She's hung out with me twice when I asked her, and called me to ask me if my profile was the right one to add on facebook, but otherwise never calls me. Yet when we're hanging out everything seems to be going well. So finally I had enough of guessing, and sent her this text:

"Hey, I had a good time before, so I was wondering if you'd like to meet again this week? But only if you really want to... I don't want to always bother you if you don't. Talk to you later."

Already sent it, but what do you think of it? Good idea? Bad? Because honestly, otherwise I would have just stopped calling her period.

[Lilaaa]

That txt you sent is good but the 2nd half was unnecessary.

Hey, I had a good time before, so I was wondering if you'd like to meet again this week?

Just that would've got the point straight across.
The 2nd part makes you seem kinda unsure of yourself or something, I can't explain it haha

[PhuongNguyen]

Some girls just aren't comfortable with calling others. I know that I've never called anyone unless they call me first.

Anyways, I think your text is fine... in a way, it kind of let her see you're bothered, but it doesn't come off as very confrontational.

[angeliquelle]

i agree with lilaa completely

the second part makes you seem...i can't find the word for it, but kinda like you're not trying to get what you want or something. it's hard to explain. But you should've just left it at the first part

[e00z]

like someone said above...2nd half is not necessary. u don't want it to seem like ur sorry if ur cutting in to her time. it should be her who's happy to make time for u. even if this isn't how she sees u, it still gives her a good impression of u that ur not clingy. don't make it seem like she would only hang out with u if she has nothing else to do

remember, u call the shots, not her...girls like that loll (look above for examples)

[boilingpoint3]

The second part was kinda the reason I sent the text in the first place. I'm pretty sure she would have said yes anyway, just like she did the other two times. But if she's just doing it because there's nothing else to do, or to be nice, then eh. I really didn't feel like hanging out with her one day, and getting ignored for days or weeks until I took the intiative again.

[perzbenz]

"Hey, I had a good time before, so I was wondering if you'd like to meet again this week?"

is good but i would do

"Hey, I had a good time with you, we should do it again sometime soon"

saying sometime soon keeps it open ended.

The second part was kinda the reason I sent the text in the first place. I'm pretty sure she would have said yes anyway, just like she did the other two times. But if she's just doing it because there's nothing else to do, or to be nice, then eh. I really didn't feel like hanging out with her one day, and getting ignored for days or weeks until I took the intiative again.

you should just let it marinate. don't take any initiatives. let her do it.

[PhuongNguyen]

Uh, people aren't getting his question. He's not looking for a way to ask the girl out. He's looking for a way to confront her about never calling him and doesn't seem that interested.

[perzbenz]

Uh, people aren't getting his question. He's not looking for a way to ask the girl out. He's looking for a way to confront her about never calling him and doesn't seem that interested.

like i said. he should let it marinate and don't confront her.

[boilingpoint3]

Uh, people aren't getting his question. He's not looking for a way to ask the girl out. He's looking for a way to confront her about never calling him and doesn't seem that interested.

Yes, exactly.

like i said. he should let it marinate and don't confront her.

I'm not confronting her, but I can almost guarantee if I stopped calling that'd be the end of it. I just want to know if her aversion to calling is because she's shy... or because she's not interested. Because if she's not really interested in me then I'm not going to waste my time or hers.

[e00z]

well we can't really tell you whether or not she's interested. the way i see it, you should just get a feel of how things are going with each other. if you feel the spark and that you consistently hit it off with each other then i'd say you're good to go and you don't need to be so unsure. i still think your text came off as being a little unconfident of yourself.

[PhuongNguyen]

like i said. he should let it marinate and don't confront her.

And like he said... he doesn't want to waste his time chasing someone who he doesn't know is interested in him or not. Some girl would just go out with a guy to have something to do; he wants to make it clear that they're moving somewhere; not just hanging out.

[RawrRawr]

Haha this is tricky.

You can just IM her and be like, oh, hey, why do you talk to me ? Because if I'm bothering you and you're just trying to be nice, it's okay, I don't wanna waste your time or mine!

*shrug



Tough..

[아이돌FAN]

Yup, 2nd part was unnessary but its still good
I'd message you back, with a time we could meet.

[ashtee]

I agree with Lilaaa
the 2nd half makes you sound unsure


there's not much you can do about her not calling you except asking her directly..but yeah, that would be confrontational.

[viper2788]

There's a girl who's been giving me extremely mixed signals. She's hung out with me twice when I asked her, and called me to ask me if my profile was the right one to add on facebook, but otherwise never calls me. Yet when we're hanging out everything seems to be going well. So finally I had enough of guessing, and sent her this text:

"Hey, I had a good time before, so I was wondering if you'd like to meet again this week? But only if you really want to... I don't want to always bother you if you don't. Talk to you later."

Already sent it, but what do you think of it? Good idea? Bad? Because honestly, otherwise I would have just stopped calling her period.

weak sauce.

[Rekidai]

you should get rid of the "I don't want to always bother you if you don't. Talk to you later." : ) but other than that its good omg when i first read this i thought it was this guy i knew from my school! lol, cause thats what i did with him too i asked him if it was the right profile on facebook and everything lol. Also, we hang out alot too....freakkyyy! : ) but its gooddd just have the first part

[sokky]

seem u lack confident in yourself, you cant let a girl know that your shy even though you maybe, make a image of yourself show confident, pride in yourself girls see that and will be attracted to that aurora around you. shyness is cute to a point. thats about it.

- Sokky

[CorrectionYourWrongImRight]

second half blew it, you showed unassurance and low confidence in the situation. if you really wanted a girl to say yes, you shouldve called. girls think texts are for woosies when it comes to this stuff...

[MaryMagdalin]

The first sentence is fine
the second was unnecessary lol...