[Korowa]

I rarely tend to start up topics here but I was just wondering if there were any other 20+ who are still living in the same area they grew up in and is just feeling "restless" for the lack of words.

I'm 24, still living with my mom because I can't afford to move out at the moment, but for about a year or so, I've just had this desire to just pack up everything I have, toss it into the car and just drive east and not look back. It's not that my life out here sucks, I have a great family, great friends, a so-so job while attending school and except for rare occasions, my mom tends to leave me alone and not ask what I'm doing 24-7. But I've just been wanting to just get out of here, maybe it's the monotony of living in the same area for my whole life.

Has anybody else ever felt this way, a desire to just disappear from your comfortable surroundings and just starting "fresh" in a place where you know nothing?

[Meenuh]

i know exactly what you are talking about. it's just a sudden urge and you feel like your life is dull and just .. you just have this feeling in your gut that tells you it's time for change. i have that feeling randomly and maybe for a day but it goes away. you just feel like you wanna start over new in a place you don't know with people you don't know and nobody knows you.

[Korowa]

yea, that's the feeling I get, but for me, it's been lasting for about a year. Maybe there are some other external issues that may be influencing it, but I'm not acting on it right now because I'd be a fool to.

[.moony.]

If you really want a fresh start then leave, start somewhere new. It's not easy but it's better than not doing it because then you would sit and think all the times about what would happen if you take the initiative to start somewhere new.
But I will tell you that not all fresh starts are good. Later you might realize that the place where you've been all your life is actually where you belong.
I personally don't have that desire to start fresh anywhere new because I've been at 2 places in my life, and now I just wish I had never left the first place where I grew up.
So if you want it that much (and not just because you have too much free time to think about a diff life, or bored of ur current life since things seem to be the same everyday,) then make a change and go.

[HERMIT]

From personal experience, I have learned to keep my mouth shut and suppressed having such feelings. The last time I entertained thoughts of actually spreading my wings and flying, I got arrested and summarily escorted off of the bridge.

[e00z]

yeah i know what you mean. i'm still in college right now and when i think about where i want to settle down after finishing school, i kind of dread the thought of going back to good ol' san jose. it's definitely nice, has a large asian community which i feel is pretty important considering that's what i grew up with my whole life. so even though my hometown seems like the perfect place to settle down, it seems too......boring? too familiar? i feel exactly the same way that you guys are feeling. sometimes i think about traveling the world, living on a paycheck from job to job, exploring different countries and cultures, and finally after having gotten the adventurist in me out of my system, i would be able to move back to my hometown and be content. wishful thinking buahaha

[watcher]

yea.. been there, done that. maybe i'll move outside of LA someday, but in a case like mine, most people spread their wings and fly here. plus, for all of you that complain about meeting people, there really is no better place than a major city to meet people. only other place i'd ever want to move to is nor cal. NY summers suck, and so does hurricane season down in houston. chicago is nice, but im all about the weather. LA, SF or BUST

[papabear]

I rarely tend to start up topics here but I was just wondering if there were any other 20+ who are still living in the same area they grew up in and is just feeling "restless" for the lack of words.

I'm 24, still living with my mom because I can't afford to move out at the moment, but for about a year or so, I've just had this desire to just pack up everything I have, toss it into the car and just drive east and not look back. It's not that my life out here sucks, I have a great family, great friends, a so-so job while attending school and except for rare occasions, my mom tends to leave me alone and not ask what I'm doing 24-7. But I've just been wanting to just get out of here, maybe it's the monotony of living in the same area for my whole life.

Has anybody else ever felt this way, a desire to just disappear from your comfortable surroundings and just starting "fresh" in a place where you know nothing?

Yes. But novelty is overrated, and it's possibly an escape from one's duties, which is not a good thing. Wouldn't it be better to look for a way to take the next step in life where you are now? Putting down some sort of roots in a society that prizes rootlessness may be difficult (perhaps even futile), but it's the sort of courage people need if communities are going to improve. Unless there's no hope whatsoever for your local community.

[watcher]

Yes. But novelty is overrated, and it's possibly an escape from one's duties, which is not a good thing. Wouldn't it be better to look for a way to take the next step in life where you are now? Putting down some sort of roots in a society that prizes rootlessness may be difficult (perhaps even futile), but it's the sort of courage people need if communities are going to improve. Unless there's no hope whatsoever for your local community.

yea... says the man who fled to the east coast and came back to the wild wild west to roll around on a nicer flowerbed

[papabear]

yea... says the man who fled to the east coast and came back to the wild wild west to roll around on a nicer flowerbed

Boston was a temporary exile that finally ended, it was never intended to be permanent. (As if you haven't heard some of my complaints.)

We'll see if California is hopeless or not. I wish there were more gardens.

[Laxntiga]

Do itttttttttt don't live life with regrets. Plus, what do you have to lose? What do you have to gain? I think you wouldn't lose much, your fam isn't going anywhere, they wont hate you, hold grudges, etc. You have nothing but experience and wisdom to gain. Life is short!

[Tuffcore]

Been there. Done that.

As in, literally did pack up and go (AND thinking i'll never come back too on the day I left.) I've since moved back to my hometown after a 3-year hiatus (mostly because of money). Along the way, i've won some and lost some in just about every aspect of life. The stories are too many to share here but the experience has been unforgettable. I've slashed and burned my way to a life i wanted and to this day, I'm still reaping the rewards of my actions and at the same time, i'm still paying the price for the carnage I left behind. The triumphs in my venture have made me confident as a person and the failures have taught me essential life lessons that i'll carry with me the rest of the way.

It's an experience i wouldn't trade for anything else and is still teaching me lessons even after the fact.

[e00z]

Been there. Done that.

As in, literally did pack up and go (AND thinking i'll never come back too on the day I left.) I've since moved back to my hometown after a 3-year hiatus (mostly because of money). Along the way, i've won some and lost some in just about every aspect of life. The stories are too many to share here but the experience has been unforgettable. I've slashed and burned my way to a life i wanted and to this day, I'm still reaping the rewards of my actions and at the same time, i'm still paying the price for the carnage I left behind. The triumphs in my venture have made me confident as a person and the failures have taught me essential life lessons that i'll carry with me the rest of the way.

It's an experience i wouldn't trade for anything else and is still teaching me lessons even after the fact.

wow that sounds EPIC. can you elaborate a lil bit...lol. where did you travel to? and how did u come out of it a better man? what monsters and demons did you face on your epic journey?

[Korowa]

after a couple of drinks, i have to say i would love to move out, but I know that there's an ulterior motive that will only cause me pain. So it's probably in my best interest just to stay put and wallow myself out of this funk.

[Tuffcore]

wow that sounds EPIC. can you elaborate a lil bit...lol. where did you travel to? and how did u come out of it a better man? what monsters and demons did you face on your epic journey?

There's too much to elaborate. All i can say is, moving was a good decision overall and i recommend it to anyone who has that unending urge to "start off fresh" and/or "discover".

[jN x3 sK]

I get this feeling all the time, I too sometimes want to just pack up and go out on my own. I know my family will support my decision if I decide to do so, but my mind state isn't 100% there yet.

[HeartOnFire]

Yes, I had have that feeling before. My suggestion is that if you want to do it make sure you saved enough money to move and at least have a place to stay. Or you can try taking a long vacation away from the place and people. When you come back it makes you appreciate it even more.

[ginger]

That's why I moved to Korea right after college. I was afraid of falling into a familiar slump--I was afraid of committing myself to a particular lifestyle when I'm so young and still so thirsty for new experiences. Since I've been here, I've met a lot of people who were in the same boat or worse. Some of them just quit jobs, bought a plane ticket, came out here, and found a job.

If you think too much about it, it's going to drive you crazy. Honestly, I'm all for the random change of pace. If you can deal with the consequences, just do it.

-ginger

[little mixed girl]

yea.. been there, done that. maybe i'll move outside of LA someday, but in a case like mine, most people spread their wings and fly here. plus, for all of you that complain about meeting people, there really is no better place than a major city to meet people. only other place i'd ever want to move to is nor cal. NY summers suck, and so does hurricane season down in houston. chicago is nice, but im all about the weather. LA, SF or BUST

i feel like it can be kind of hard to meet people in a super large city.
people are hurried and don't want to be bothered helping out some newbie, everyone has found their little groups to be in...

nothing wrong with midwest weather!
where i am in japan the low in winters SOMETIMES reaches 32...usually it's high 30s mid-40s, and it SUCKS!
what's winter without cold and snow??