[UrMaiBaEbyBoY]

Please I need help, my 'so called mother' is someone who gambles 24/7 and is never home. She only thinks about my two brothers and treat me literally like s_hit. My face still stings from her slap. I hate her so much, but I don't have a job (one of the requirements to get emancipated) and i'm still living with her. THough she does not support me financially because she doesn't think i would needmoney. She gives money to my brothers who is now 18 (going off to college this friday) and my younger brother who's 13 who plays games all day.

Today I done nothing wrong, like always and school called saying I missed a class when I obviously didn't. Then she started yelling about how worthless I am and slaps me and tells me if I want to leave, leave. I want to but I know her tricks, right after I leave she'll call the cops and say that I've ran away. Just like last time when she kicked me out of the house and the next day she starts saying 'if i didn't get my ass home she'd call the cops on my boyfriend' which I dont have.

The school dean called my mom last year because she wanted him to talk to her if I had any affairs in school with a guy, which I dont. And the dean told her I had a boyfriend, which lead to her kicking me out of the house and the next day threatening me to get my ass home. I hate how she treats me, and she stabbed me with sissors last week, twice. Thank god I had a jacket or else I would have been seriously injured.

I just want to have her away from me, as far as possible. I can move out, but the thing is I can't without her permission. I live in Cali btw and As for emancipation in Cali you'd have t be 18 or graduated from highschool.

and Im in my last year of highschool, and I CANT wait until graduation. I need to get out of this house as soon as possible. I can not live in this house with that abusive mother.

[V12Juice]

Hey your probably just in shock from fighting with your mom right now...I know you dont mean for an emancipation....
Emancipation from your mom should be the last thing on your mind unless your mom actually feeds you garbage and treats you like dog mini cooper every single hour of the day. Talk to your brothers about it, Im sure they will understand. Take a deep breathe....!

[nelly]

she stabbed you with scissors? that's horrible! Go to a boarding school when you get to college or something but then again, you said that she's not spending money on you. Get a student loan then or stay at a friend's house. Your mother is crazy, stay away from her.

[UrMaiBaEbyBoY]

Uh she slapped me and abused me in front of my brothers and they didn't utter a word, I'm not 'shocked' from what's happened, it's acually kind of a daily thing that I have to go through.

I really cant take it, it's just the beginning of the school year and I still have like 160 days till graduation. That's a LONG time and I need to take action now.


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I can go off to college without her support, and I have money currently without her support. It's just that I don't have a job and am not living away from her for a long period of them. I do not quailfy those

and plus, I cannot see a school counselor or anything because they'll make this situation worse like talk it out, and when she says she wont do anything like hat ever again, once we're out of ear shot she'll go balistic. I mean i experienced it before. I talk to my church about it and they talked to her, and once i got home she gave me the beating of my life. I mean literally. I still remember that day. School counselors are paid to just sit there to look pretty, they do nothing else but that. They mind their own bussiness and they dont care about others needs but themselves.

[V12Juice]

http://www.ehow.com/how_2081285_get-emancipated.html
There are the steps, follow it.
Sue your parents.

[UrMaiBaEbyBoY]

^ the thing is I would have done it a long time ago but I dont quailify to get Emancipated.

[RE.]

sorry if im no help at all. first try to gather as much evidence you can of the abuse and whatnot

[V12Juice]

I really think you should call the authorities if your in dire need of help. FYI my mom beat the living mini cooper out of me lol but I never did anything since I guess it was just Korean culture to me..

[KittyAngelF4]

is there a school counselor you can go see? i'm sure they have plenty of information that could help you out. you really shouldn't have had to go through this for so long.

[Psychotic Otaku]

You really need to go and see someone you trust and get help like a friend.. Cause they can get you the help you need. But like RE. said, gather evidence as well so you have proof because the authorities will need it. Your mom stabbed you twice and that's not good... For the meanwhile, stay away from your mom. And try to talk to your brothers about this... They might help.

[tomatomato]

i think you should talk to a counselor in school. abusive mothers can be arrested if given proof that she does abuse you. (bruises, cuts, marks)

just a note: treating you "literally" like mini cooper would mean she'd REALLY flush you down the toilet..sorry just wrong usage of words is one of my pet peeves hehe

[ChouChou]

i can totally understand what you're going though, altough i've never actually been physically attcked by my mum
just threatened and constantly emotionally and mentally abused
she would always call me slut and selfish and lazy and say how i have millions of bfs and give out blowj$$$!! like WTF!!! i never did anything to bring about these accusations
and then one day it all came out and we had an explosive argument which ended with her fuming and me in tears in my room
i couldn't take it anymore..like..there is only so much a person can take ya know!

so i rang my bf and he said to move in with him and his family..and here i am...and i haven't spoken to her since

the thing is..i was 20 when it happened...and i was in a serious relationship with my bf so i had a place to go

i wish i was you friend...and i had my own house lol, i would let you stay with me haha

but ... its not like that so...

i would suggest conviding in a really close friend
don't bother with your brothers because they don't sound like the type to do anything
you need to tell someone...soon...before your mum does something bad to you..smething that won't be able to be fixd
and i know some soompiers might say "aw your mum loves you deep down, she wouldn't really harm you"
thats not true, i mean she's already gone as far as to try and stab you with scissors...just lucky for you, you had a jacket on
you don't know what her intentions where, she might not have been counting on you wearing something that would cushion the blow

really..the best thing is telling someone...but the thing is..i don't know who
obviously someone older, like an adult, someone you trust completely
and don't just tell them the stuff she does...tell them that you've already tried talking to people and tell them that when she finds out, she hurts you
tell them that your bothers do nothing to help and that you basically have no where to go

.......or....you could tuff it out until your 18...disown your mum and get the hell out of there!

[elperro]

some people might think you're overexagerrating but i can vouch that psycho moms do exist. sure they may love you, but some people aren't meant to be parents in the first place. your mom does love you, though it seems hard to comprehend that (she wants you to come home when you call her bluffs. if she didn't love you, she'd just let you roam around on the dangerous streets yourself) but it seems that your mom has serious issues... maybe stemming from the absence of a husband? ( i assume your parents are divorced because you never mention your dad), leaving her with three children to take care of, which can be very overwhelming, especially when she really is not adept at parenting. no person should ever live in an abusive situation such as this, where you can't even trust yourself with the one person you should be able to trust, even with your life. ... however... legal emancipation will also be very, very tough on you because even though your mom is the way she is, she is still a source of housing and food, even though she doesn't give you extra money. as an 18 year old, you won't have sufficient means to fully take care of yourself and life will be raw and tough... housing is very expensive, especially in california, and as an 18 year old, you shouldn't have to live paycheck to paycheck quite yet... you still need to worry about college because let's face it... the world is really competitve and you need any extra edge you can get for that job.

so things might look bleak for you... but trust me, it's not. things have a way of working out in the end. what you need to do is simply stay put, but ignore her antics. it may be hard to but with practice, you can eventually tune her out. in the meantime, study hard and do very well in school so you can get financial aid to go to a good college that is far away (like your brother).

[colloquy]

I think what you need to do is see a juvi lawyer and see if there's any way whatsoever in which they can block your mother's contact from you. That is, you need to see/talk to a lawyer or try to get legal advice off the internet, not a counselor or L&R. If you're 17, there might be a way. #1 advice is, get a job and it'll be more convincing.

I don't think you have to be 18. Emancipation is for minors only - I got this from a Cali website:

How do I get emancipated?
There are 3 ways to get emancipated:

Get married. You need permission from your parents and the court.
Join the armed forces. You need permission from your parents, and the armed forces must accept you.
Get a declaration of emancipation from a judge. To get a declaration of emancipation, you have to prove ALL of these things:

You are at least 14 years old.
You don't want to live with your parents. Your parents don't mind if you move out.
You can handle your own money.
You have a legal way to make money.
Emancipation would be good for you.
Click here to learn about the steps get a declaration of emancipation.

http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/famil...ncip/emanqa.htm