[rahrah]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=122635

anyways, i had to write this somewhere.

this thread that got shut down, i made this thread cus i want to hear cases of girls who got married over 30, so i can stop worrying about my noona who is 32, and unmarried. guys i tried to set her up with say she is too old, and now i just want to give up, hopefully by hearing cases of girls who got married while single past 30.

some people need to stop projecting their fears on everyone and learn to just talk like a normal person. it builds ur character. there's nothing inherently wrong with conflicts. its more important to have good judgement.

[watcher]

i only know one girl who's 30+ and hasnt dated. she's still not married yet, and i worry for her too. she's a great person. if i were 30, i'd date her. but i do have to say, that since she's got no experience, the guy might have to go through a few of the 'growing pains' while she learns how to manage a relationship.

[G-Nitro]

I have no problem with older women. I think worrying about age is BS. It's about the connection and attraction to one another. Age shouldn't mean anything unless illegal. lol

I am almost 28, and I wouldn't have a problem dating or even marrying in time a woman in her 30's

[HERMIT]

i only know one girl who's 30+ and hasnt dated. she's still not married yet, and i worry for her too. she's a great person. if i were 30, i'd date her. but i do have to say, that since she's got no experience, the guy might have to go through a few of the 'growing pains' while she learns how to manage a relationship.

Send her my way then. With our combined experience, we can fumble our way through it. Haha.

[watcher]

^ that would depend... she's very tied to her religious affiliation (catholicism) as well as traditional korean culture... what are your thoughts?

[HERMIT]

^
As for myself, I was just being facetious. But as for commenting in regards to her, I can see her devotion to the two as being potentially limiting if she is really adamant about finding a partner that fits these two characteristics. Hypothetically speaking, as it would relate to me for example, I would surmise I'd be out of the picture simply because I am not Korean. And whilst I am a Catholic, the degree to which I practice being a "good" one may not pass muster as well. So who knows?
If I were to come across a person like this, I would like to think that I could adapt to a certain degree - but would the other person also be willing to make concessions?

Let it be known, of course, that I'm making these presumptions based on the notion that by your citing her adherence to religion and culture, these were implications as to why she's over 30 and still single.

[rahrah]

eh...

personally, when it comes to asian-asian marriages, i think korean and filipinos get along pretty well. koreans and japanese do too.

as far as chinese-korean, i think korean girl-chinese guy couples work out better than the other way around (im a korean guy)

just like japanese girl-korean guy usually works out pretty well too... all generalizations of course, doesn't mean they are true for everyone.

[watcher]

^
As for myself, I was just being facetious. But as for commenting in regards to her, I can see her devotion to the two as being potentially limiting if she is really adamant about finding a partner that fits these two characteristics. Hypothetically speaking, as it would relate to me for example, I would surmise I'd be out of the picture simply because I am not Korean. And whilst I am a Catholic, the degree to which I practice being a "good" one may not pass muster as well. So who knows?
If I were to come across a person like this, I would like to think that I could adapt to a certain degree - but would the other person also be willing to make concessions?

Let it be known, of course, that I'm making these presumptions based on the notion that by your citing her adherence to religion and culture, these were implications as to why she's over 30 and still single.

i think similar... but i wonder if there's something else. perhaps the longer you go without a relationship, the less and less you hope for it, and the more you pick up an independant mentality?

[edward1849]

as far as chinese-korean, i think korean girl-chinese guy couples work out better than the other way around (im a korean guy)

I hope so.

* Looking at the girls at my avatar and banner *

[rahrah]

^ yeah wut they say is that chinese guys will let korean girls do whatever they want. and with chinese girls and korean guys, usually there is a power struggle and they butt heads.

japanese girls and korean guys are more compatible with each other in that way.

personally tho, i could marry a chinese girl if she was an ethnic manchu and can speak some manchu, esp. if she was direct descendent of royalty (and had the banners to prove it). i know, sounds weird, but yeah. lol

[HERMIT]

i think similar... but i wonder if there's something else. perhaps the longer you go without a relationship, the less and less you hope for it, and the more you pick up an independant mentality?

Funny that you would make that latter supposition. It applies more to me and my circumstances more than it does to your friend.

[Tuffcore]

http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=122635

anyways, i had to write this somewhere.

this thread that got shut down, i made this thread cus i want to hear cases of girls who got married over 30, so i can stop worrying about my noona who is 32, and unmarried. guys i tried to set her up with say she is too old, and now i just want to give up, hopefully by hearing cases of girls who got married while single past 30.

some people need to stop projecting their fears on everyone and learn to just talk like a normal person. it builds ur character. there's nothing inherently wrong with conflicts. its more important to have good judgement.

Well, what kind of guys are you setting her up with? How old are they?
Guys generally don't want to date/marry girls older than they are and guys who are 30-35 typically want to date/marry girls 25-29.

[rahrah]

^ yea... the hyung is 35.

yeah i guess 25-29 probably sounds right... anyways, im not worried at all now. i just told my noona that the hyung just got a gf so no setup... and she seems totally cool... this is one of those few few situations in life where telling the truth, is pointless.

yeah i guess that makes sense tho... im just glad I don't have a sister! omg.. imagine how much more worryng i would have to do then! sheesh!

[watcher]

^ yea... the hyung is 35.

yeah i guess 25-29 probably sounds right... anyways, im not worried at all now. i just told my noona that the hyung just got a gf so no setup... and she seems totally cool... this is one of those few few situations in life where telling the truth, is pointless.

yeah i guess that makes sense tho... im just glad I don't have a sister! omg.. imagine how much more worryng i would have to do then! sheesh!

you should refer that 누나 to a korean drama called 달자의 봄...it's about a single girl who's never dated, and goes through the motions of her first romance at the age of 33. haha... story of her life? who knows... but... she could probably watch and relate and maybe find some hope

[rahrah]

^ haha i dunno it seems like im more worried than her. i'd rather have it that way than her be more worried than me tho... i thiNK?

well anyways... thanks for the suggestion, i'll mention it to her, but most likely, she already saw it. she's a fiend when it comes to dramas, manhwa, etc...

[shiwi]

holy hell???? i just went to my very first yoga session. HEAT yoga, in a room set at 110 degrees. holy muther of god. it was the hardest thing in the world. how is this supposed to be stress relieving? i was sitting there totally stressed out during the entire session!

bartender, a tall glass of ICE COLD WATER please. thanks.

[watcher]

holy hell???? i just went to my very first yoga session. HEAT yoga, in a room set at 110 degrees. holy muther of god. it was the hardest thing in the world. how is this supposed to be stress relieving? i was sitting there totally stressed out during the entire session!

bartender, a tall glass of ICE COLD WATER please. thanks.

lol... i guess you'll be stress free after each session. perhaps life isnt so bad anymore after doing a few of those. hahaha
*passes over a glass of ice cold water and an extra bucket of ice*

[chairmanK]

holy hell???? i just went to my very first yoga session. HEAT yoga, in a room set at 110 degrees. holy muther of god. it was the hardest thing in the world. how is this supposed to be stress relieving? i was sitting there totally stressed out during the entire session!

Are you talking about Bikram yoga? I went to a party hosted by Bikram Choudhury's niece. (Yes, that Bikram.) She said that her uncle turned up the heat and humidity in his L.A. yoga studio simply because that's what the weather is like in Bengal. He was just accustomed to doing yoga in uncomfortably warm weather.

[JJM]

Someone give me the strongest concoction. PLEASE!!! Someone broke into my car this morning. Whoever did it didn't take anything in my car, but 30 cents from my coin compartment. I don't care about being robbed of 30 cents. I'm pissed off I have to spend $200 fixing my back window now. I curse the bastard who's responsible.

[Tr710]

Someone give me the strongest concoction. PLEASE!!! Someone broke into my car this morning. Whoever did it didn't take anything in my car, but 30 cents from my coin compartment. I don't care about being robbed of 30 cents. I'm pissed off I have to spend $200 fixing my back window now. I curse the bastard who's responsible.

*pours JJM a mix of Vodka, Tequila, Whiskey, caramel syrup and cranberry juice*