[chinkboye22]

lol yes its a very broad question, i don't wanna go in depth with my life cuz im really busy at the moment, maybe next week i'll make a thread about myself and ask for opinions

but says if your life blows, your not going newhere in life, you are in a rut, im sure a lot of ppl have well balanced lives and are content at where they are now and just let life unfold it self and let fate decide what happens
but for the people who have struggled and failed continuously without seeing any progress no matter how hard they fought

i just want to ask at what desperate measures did u go to achieve what you truly ever wanted or happiness?
yea it can be about a girlfriend, changing your life for better, moving out etc..i wanna hear some good personal stories and did u think it was worth it?
right now im in the mind set of live life without any regrets but its not as easy as you think

[GO!zilla]

the closest starbucks is a mile away... so that far. jk.

i think happiness is from within... a person who has nothing living in some 3rd world country with a civil war going on can say they are happy to be alive and such.
a person on the forbes richest can be unhappy for whatever reason.... even with all the $$ and whatever money can buy (everything except love according to the beatles).

im happy with what i have and the opportunities that are given to me.
i live happy therefore i am happy

[Pogichinoy]

Depends on your understanding of happiness, and depends on your understanding of desperate measures. Moving out can be seen as a desperate measure but also not, e.g. moving out to avoid a violent family, or moving out because you want to be on your own to succeed or fail.

For me, I would sacrifice a bit of fun time now, to be better off in the future.

[hangook/korea]

Well I graduated from college and ended up in a dead-end job and I was miserable. To make matters worse, there was all kinds of drama in my circle of friends and they basically turned on me because I didn't have a car anymore and once they started making more money than me they thought they were better than me. So at my low point I was pretty much alone, except for my coworkers and stuck in a $30K job that I hated. My boss hated me as well. I did not see a future for me and I remember when I turned 23, it hit me- I had no future and my life sucked. It started to piss me off and I started to think of what I really wanted out of life.

I ended up going back to school and getting into grad school. Happy ever after? No. I'm a smart guy and I got As in college. But grad school was much harder. I was no longer an A student. I struggled in class and it sucked. But finally I realized, do your best and enjoy life. If your best isn't enough to get As or whatever you want, then you just have to come to terms with that. That was one of the hardest lessons I've learned. Everybody has limits, but nobody wants to accept that. Now I'm happy with where I am.

So my advice to you is that if you're upset with where you are: change your life. Which is much harder than it sounds. Change requires that you give up the safe daily routine you have and take a gamble on the unknown. You could end up better or you could end up in a worse position.

And know and accept your limitations.

[HERMIT]

Interesting question.
How far would I go to achieve happiness?
I guess as far as Homestead Road in Pahrump, Nevada.

[Prot]

It depends on how you see things. Regrets only happen because you thought, what if, at the present time rather than doing that action back in the past when you had the chance. I would say living a life without regrets is easy, simply because you cannot change the past so there is no point in wondering what if or feeling bad about a choice you made in the past when you cannot change it.

As for pursuing happiness, really it depends on what happiness means for you. I much rather sacrifice a little time of fun and happiness to study for my exams and get a better job in the future rather than have all the fun now and be screwed working a "crappy" job with low pay in the future. For some people, the "crappy" job may be fun for them so they wouldn't mind going toward that path. "Crappy" is a relative term. I may consider accounting a crappy job whereas another may love the job.

In addition, everyone has their own limits. I know that I cannot stand going to grad school after I finish my undergrad though many of my peers will pursue the higher education. Sure I can push my limit but I personally am satisfied with a bachelors degree. If I were to attend grad school, I would not be happy. The benefit I get from attending grad school will not compensate for my loss of happiness for having to work through another four years of school in my mind. This goes back to regrets. Sure, maybe I will regret it in the future and wish I had attended grad school. However, I made the decision to not attend and I would not be able to change the past, only the future. So I would simply make due with what I have in the present and aim for the future.

If your life blows now, gotta ask yourself, why? Are you being too critical on your life? Obviously if you compare yourself to Bill Gates in terms of wealth, damn your life blows. If you compare yourself to the married couples out there and then you aren't married yourself, surely you haven't been trying long enough or just had bad luck. If you want something, the moment you quit is the moment your chance of getting it falls to zero.

[mofo]

how far would i go?
apparently not far enough lol

[Laxntiga]

To the ends of the earth.

[watcher]

lol yes its a very broad question, i don't wanna go in depth with my life cuz im really busy at the moment, maybe next week i'll make a thread about myself and ask for opinions

but says if your life blows, your not going newhere in life, you are in a rut, im sure a lot of ppl have well balanced lives and are content at where they are now and just let life unfold it self and let fate decide what happens
but for the people who have struggled and failed continuously without seeing any progress no matter how hard they fought

i just want to ask at what desperate measures did u go to achieve what you truly ever wanted or happiness?
yea it can be about a girlfriend, changing your life for better, moving out etc..i wanna hear some good personal stories and did u think it was worth it?
right now im in the mind set of live life without any regrets but its not as easy as you think

hanging onto that loose thread any tighter doesn't mean the thread itself will hold any longer.

i dont believe any decision for the sake of happiness is a desperate move. it may be a risky move that requires courage, but far from desperate. you do what you have to do, and you'll find peace in it.

i think hangook/korea made an important point. it's vital to know your limits. sometimes, you just cant do certain things. however, it's no reason to bash your head up against the wall. if you keep an open mind, you'll find ways around your limitations. there's more than one way to do most things in life. just because you cannot do it one way, it doesn't mean you can't do it another way. as long as you keep that open mind, the sky is the limit. just make sure that you understand that the certain limits you have are there, but they are just minor hurdles in the bigger picture.

i think the best lessons learned can be learned when you gave it your best and came up short, but only if you keep an open mind and take whatever wisdom is there to learn from. heartbreak will come and go, but wisdom will persist and that's what helps one to move on and figure out the puzzle.

[7thprincess]

I'm not sure yet, I guess what I feel now is happiness. Or maybe it is naivete.

[visuelz]

We should not limit ourselves but struggle to make ourselves better.

[cute_n_classy]

This raises another question.

How about you eventually achieved what you thought would make you happy, but once you got there it really didnt. Then you try again, and find another goal for happiness and once again you achieved that aswell, but again, once you were there it really wasnt what you expected or wanted.

I am just asking this, as I have gone through these stages, I thought I would be happy graduating with a good degree from a great university, I thought I would be happy getting that corporate job (being like all my friends). But once I got to those places, it just wasnt to be...happiness. Yes, I was happy when I graduated, I was happy when I got the job offer, but everything after that just went down hill. Hence I changed my course of life, thought long and hard of where I thought I wanted to be, got here and now....I am re-thinking again.

In the end, the lesson I have learnt is that, there is no one happiness goal, what you want to achieve and how far you will go will constantly change, as you grow and experience life. I have come to realise, what I may really want, may only be what I think will make me happy, but may not make me happy in the end.

Just realise that your happiness may be an unlimited number of achievements.

[jN x3 sK]

I'm am truly happy now. For that I thank my girlfriend, she really put things in perspective for me. Before I met her I was out of school and was up to no good. Things have really turned around for me since I've met her and been with her so I can say that I have achieved that state of happiness, without her I would still be lost and going no where in life.