[peacee]

ok does anyone know if "OPPOSITES DO REALLY ATTRACT? " ive never really seen a succesful relationship of 2 people who have almost nothing in common but are together. say if a guy and girl who are COMPLETE opposites, what do they talk about? interests,music,values and life long goals if they have almost NOTHING in common? the only thing i can think of them talkin about is THEMSELVES and being intimate with eachother. anyone kno someone whos in a relationship like this or if u urself are in one. tell me what u guys talk about and what u do when u spend time together

[tofu plushie]

I think people are more attracted to people they have similar interests to for the most part. It's just easier to relate to each other and talk about interests. It would definitely be harder to be a relationship with someone who just cannot agree about anything with.

[delacroix]

I think opposites do attract.
When I went out with a blunt, stereotypical white girl, my weapon of choice was innocence...
(which she enjoyed destroying because it felt like "being the first person to step on snow on the ground"
she thought I was really innocent - tsk tsk)
When I went out with an innocent Korean girl, my weapon was drinker/smoker/have problems...
She enjoyed trying to fix my problems, from what I saw.
I am attracted by opposites because its more fun that way, more challenge, greater thrill of the hunt
(the more effort it takes to get a girl, greater the pleasure of making her mine)

How do we spend time together?
The blunt girl was white, German to be exact, so she took me to oktoberfest, made me listen German singers,
and also her family members are politicians in Canada, so I talked to them about politics stuff.
The innocent girl took me to church, I met her friends, cooked together and I taught her how to bake and stuff.
It was a lot of fun to learn that there are other things in life that gives you pleasure besides partying.

[Sunshine 60]

^I just want to mention that both those incidents don't seem to be relationships as opposed to social experiments and are further from it because of the inherent aspect of...I dunno...DECEIT??

Sorry.

While in the beginning, opposites may attract and cause chemistry, most relationship experts will tell you that stable relationships are based more on compatibility.

Crazy, love obsessed, shipper girls will tell you the opposite, however.

Although, in the end it depends on how open you are a person. Still similarities should be more "attractive" than opposite values.

[Sasha100]

I get along better with guys that are more like me but I fall in love with guys that aren't like me. I love bad boys:(

[Im4evaraqt]

My psychology class says that this is not true and that people tend to gravitate to other people like themselves in some solid way. Like they can be opposittes in something (i.e. one is an introvert, the other an extrovert) but ultimately they are similar in something that is impoartant to the both of them.... I took this class last year, so I don't really rember all the little details though.... sorry!

But in my opinion, I guess, whatever works...

[cal023]

my bf and i are total opposites. i can make a whole list! we kinda balance each other out. for example, i'm more into school and he's more into the 'social life', i motivate him to succeed in school while he pushes me to be more open to people. i'm like the girl who stays home and studies, having no social life while he goes out. he just needs a little push to stay on top of his studies while i just need some encouragement to go out more. He's more of a people person than i am and he's more courageous too, not afraid to express himself, while i am. That's what i admire most about him, his fearless nature. I'm more cautious, which most of the time ruins the fun. He likes how i can motivate him to succeed and i like how he can encourage me to have more confidence in myself.

to tell you the truth, most of the time when we're talking, we seem to always insult or make fun of each other! haha. we have the same sense of humor and loads of inside jokes, so it's nothing we take personally. we're also sorta competitive with each other so we like to prove the other wrong. and yes we do talk about ourselves a lot but i find what i learn about him interesting.

when we're together, it's usually to watch a movie, watch his basketball game (i like to see the competition on the court it's entertaining), go to the beach, eat out, park, or he likes to take me to places that i've never been to since i don't go out as much as he does.

[Juli~<3]

my boyfriend and each other have nothing in common apart from that we went to the same primary school. even then we didn't know each other existed. at first it was kind of weird to talk to each other because there wasnt a common ground apart from primary school memories but now we're more open to each others interests and so we have more things in common. like before i only ever listened to asian music but now i listen to stuff by like boys to men, brian mcknight etc, stuff i would have never have listened to and now he listens to some of my music especially instrumentals. we spend so much time together that we have more things in common or that we're open to.

he's my first proper long term relationship. with other asian guys it was like their parents were too stuck up or whatever and wouldnt let the relationship progress. but because we've been brought up different ways we get to see that other story and there's nothing that's come in our path. and we want that future.

of course its easier to get along with someone that has some common interests.. but not having any doesnt mean that common interests cant be made. i think its more rewarding that way, you get to find out more about a person and truly understanding them.

[Tenshi-Tenshi]

I think that opposites do attract as long as you can learn to accept each other's differences.
B/c my bf and me are really opposites. For instance I'm always talking to ppl while he tends to be more of a "ghost".
And he loves horror movies, spicy foods, amusement parks, etc. But I try to compromise with this.
It's not all bad. At first I thought it wasn't going to work out b/c we were so different. But everything is going good ^^

[djc89]

I think the "opposites attract" idea only applies to personality. Someone who is outgoing is matched ideally with someone who is not so much, talkative with not talkative, etc. That way, the two strike a middle ground of sorts.

Values and interests, however, must coincide.

[delacroix]

^I just want to mention that both those incidents don't seem to be relationships as opposed to social experiments and are further from it because of the inherent aspect of...I dunno...DECEIT??

LOL
you could say that...
since I'm neither an innocent cute thing that the blunt girl thought I was
or that badass dude that the innocent girl thought I was.
But hey, what can I say, I kept them happy for a while =P

[randykiyoshi]

I think it's mostly related to behavior, not necessarily interests. As an example, I'm really quiet yet I've had mostly outgoing girls 'attracted' to me. Rarely quiet girls. But I think that's because outgoing girls have the confidence, whereas quiet people just keeps it to themselves.

[shakki]

lol
me and my best friend are opposites
we have like nothing in common.
so if there were no dbsk.
we wouldnt be best frends

[ATRANN]

I think that like most people here have already said, it depends on whether or not you can learn to accept it.
I've always been drawn to guys who are more like me than not; i feel like it just makes it easier for us to get along.
I felt like my ex and i had so much in common that it surprised the heck outta me.
Same taste in music, morals, goals, etc.
However, i always imagined what it would be like to date a total badass who would find interest in a girl like me.
I'd be totally open to find out how that relationship would go.

[Christinaisweird]

they do attract if you do it correctly.
i mean you can't always be fighting all the time.

[arianna90]

perfect opposites! LOL u should try watching that movie.

[Kira_Hyuu]

Okaii well i mean i've been in like a psychology session sort of thing so this is how i so of learnt it to be:

The reason why opposites attract is that we can see values or features in the other gendar that we find valuable or like jealous. So wat happens is our mind tries to mimic and adapt that certain value. So in reality wat happens is that infact opposites can maintain a relationship by trying to be more like kindreds.

[sodaniechea]

my bf and i are total opposites. i can make a whole list! we kinda balance each other out. for example, i'm more into school and he's more into the 'social life', i motivate him to succeed in school while he pushes me to be more open to people. i'm like the girl who stays home and studies, having no social life while he goes out. he just needs a little push to stay on top of his studies while i just need some encouragement to go out more. He's more of a people person than i am and he's more courageous too, not afraid to express himself, while i am. That's what i admire most about him, his fearless nature. I'm more cautious, which most of the time ruins the fun. He likes how i can motivate him to succeed and i like how he can encourage me to have more confidence in myself.

to tell you the truth, most of the time when we're talking, we seem to always insult or make fun of each other! haha. we have the same sense of humor and loads of inside jokes, so it's nothing we take personally. we're also sorta competitive with each other so we like to prove the other wrong. and yes we do talk about ourselves a lot but i find what i learn about him interesting.

when we're together, it's usually to watch a movie, watch his basketball game (i like to see the competition on the court it's entertaining), go to the beach, eat out, park, or he likes to take me to places that i've never been to since i don't go out as much as he does.

lol that's how my bf and i are!

[lilliannn]

i think opposites DO attract. even though sometimes its hard to imagine 2 ppl with nothing in common getting along, i think its part of that x factor. when some people meet others who are opposites, they can learn from each other rather than always having everything in common.

[peacee]

My psychology class says that this is not true and that people tend to gravitate to other people like themselves in some solid way. Like they can be opposittes in something (i.e. one is an introvert, the other an extrovert) but ultimately they are similar in something that is impoartant to the both of them.... I took this class last year, so I don't really rember all the little details though.... sorry!

But in my opinion, I guess, whatever works...

Yea i took an anthropology course thats also an introduction to psychology and sociology. i learned that people are more likely to go for someone like their parents. i mean personality wise.