[lostieee]

This is too much of a scary subject

Do you guys have any experiences with changing schools when you've already met your best friends back in your old school? Are there any tips with coping in the new school without having people btching behind your back because you're the new kid around? Can you give me some tips on how to make friends FAST? I'm so freaked out with the fact that I might have nobody else but myself

What can I do so people won't alienate me? I'm looking for in-depth advices, not 'be nice' or 'be friendly'.

Thanks

[Daaarian]

Kids still pick on the new kids? Wow.

Be yourself, stay calm. Approach people in your class and say hi, get to know them. Join a club or something where you can interact with people. Whatever you do, dont put up some different personality (eg: youre a nerd and everyone at your old school knows that. you try to become one of those popular girls, not saying that you cant/wont be popular, just chill) just because you are totally starting off with a clean slate. Eventually they will find out and most likely you would be unconfortable. Don't be too yourself until you become comfortable with the people? Dont do anything thats offensive. Oh, maybe if someone wants to be your friend, just get along and eventually s/he may be your bestest friend ever.

[YUNMii.]

I was once on the same boat hun.
Since you're posting this now, I'm supposing it's the start of the school year?
Most kids DO make more friends when they transfer in the middle of the year.

"Make friends fast" huh?
Strangely, I transferred just half a year ago (feb o8) and didn't have an established group of friends until the beginning of this year.
So yeah, it really does take time. My best friend and I used to be in the same school until we both moved.
When I first got there, I only talked to one girl (she transferred WITH me, as in, we were in the same school before AND we moved at the same time)
then slowly I started talking to more people. SLOWLY. Yes it takes time.
But then again, it really depends on you.
If you're shy or outgoing, or just... if you're friendly or not. Yeah.
After half a year I don't feel like a new student at all anymore, I hang out with a group of friends whom I love now.

All I'm saying is, BE PATIENT.
Also, it's almost a guarantee that people WILL talk to you, that you WILL make new friends.
I was just like you when I moved, but then after a while I realized it's not all that scary anymore.
People DO talk to new students. You won't be left alone.
This school year, when I saw all the new students, I actually wanted to talk to them.
Making new friends is always a good thing, so I'm sure it'll be the same for the students at your new school.

I'm not saying they'll do all the work either.

Be confident and talk to other people. You may never know it when great opportunities come.
If there are clubs or other after-school activities, it would be a good idea to try those out, too.
Generally people make friends easy in them.

But yeah - bottom line is - I guess the 'fastest' way to make friends is to socialize with people.
Talk to people who seem nice, join a club, blah blah. You get the gist.
There's no magic advice out there, it's always the same process when you transfer.

Of course, I'll give you the obvious, be yourself. (:
This is a chance at a new you though - sure - but just don't put on a mask or you'll mess up big time.

Oh, and about the people talking crap about you behind your back...
Unless your school is THAT old-style then I highly doubt anything of the sort would take place.
Just try not to make a bad first impression to anyone while you're not totally comfortable with the school yet.

And talk to everyone that talks to you.
It might be hard to open up on the first few days, but you'll be fine.
Uhm, also, you don't really have to "do" anything so people won't "alienate" you.
Trust me.

All the cliché advice out there, they're cliché cause they're true. As simple as that.

Haha I'm sorry if I didn't make any sense...
Just ask me if you have any other questions cause I was exactly in your position half a year ago. (:

[kandi]

ive been in this situation as well.
i had to leave at the beginning of year 11 to a whole new setting where all the groups had already formed.

It did take me a while before i settled into one of the groups. Usually u need to go thru different groups and hang out areas before you find ur second home.

During or after class just talk to the people around you. Have some questions ready or in mind. Don't make it awkward with closed questions. People love talking about themselves so just put cues in for that. For the first day i spent lunch alone from what i can remember till i got an invite on the second day. I guess thats just a heads up of what can happen but im sure u'll be fine.

[its_anonymous]

yikes. I moved around a lot too when I was younger & it stinked. lately, there are a lot of clubs, events, and organizations that you can be involved in at school. Join something your interested in! Try to see which students have the same class as you and then try to begin a conversation from there. you'll be fine.

[._.]

Make a friend with someone you t hink is nice and can develop a good friendship with (and has a few of her friends of her own too)
that way you'll meet her friends as well

[randykiyoshi]

I've never heard of people picking on new kids. In fact, people tend to magnet toward new people in hopes of getting a good friend (around here). What I do is sometimes ask someone for help during class. I also look for laid-back people who seem smart and appear to be friendly at lunch.

[BU_RP]

dont worry, your over reacting LOL.
everything will flow smoothly.
If you're shy, it might take a while to make friends.
if your outgoing then its no problem.

when i moved, i went up to people in my class and started talking to them

[Honey.bee]

I kinda have the same situation with you. It hasn't been that long since I moved and I have to attend a new school near this neighboor hood. I'm alittle scared how I should get along with people. I even had a dream today about getting bullied by bunch of girls today because I was a new student. O_O Those girls in my dream didn't even bother to talk to me, when I give them a little greet, they just glare and walk away. That dream have made me even more worried. I just hope it won't happen in reality.

I didn't used to have that much friends back then because I was very shy, but I atleast have a best friend to be comfortable and crazy with. Lol. <3 I'm sure there will be some way of getting to know people easier if you just bring up a nice and steady subject. Let's just hope everything will be okay because I'm sure almost everyone experienced that situation before.

[HappyEndings]

I'm sure there are lots of clubs, activities and events at your new school, don't be afraid to participate in them. I started college this year, and I knew absolutely noone in my classes, so I also had to make new friends too. Start up a conversation with someone you feel you'd get along well with, be friendly and most of all, be yourself. Don't stress about it I'm sure everything will go fine!

[baabygirl]

Ohh, I moved to a new school a few weeks ago too. I thought it'd be so scary, but it was actually okay because people try to be really nice to you. No one picked on me ? : ) Just be yourself, and try and make random conversation with people that look approachable !

[kL.ove]

that happened to me too when i moved schools, totally new area and didn't even know my place around... it was so scary
something my bff told me was very meaningful to me, hope you can make use of it :]

"you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain"

it's going to be hard in the beginning, cuz everyone's gonna be talking about the "new person" and noone's really gonna be close friends so quick they just need to know you more, it takes time :]
goodluck if im not too late ;P

[charmainee]

Just be yourself? I've moved schools and stuff...
I just started by approaching people in my class and stuff...><