[heheimawesome]

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[amys_melody]

People want what they can't have. If you can't get back together with your ex, and you don't want to go for this other girl, try to focus all your attention else where...? Like, go out, meet new people, get a job, take up a hobby, etc. My answer's kind of lame, but seriously, if you don't want to fall for any of these girls then that's what you should do. Talk to them less if possible also. Doesn't mean you have to leave them totally. Just tone it down a notch.

[ShadowFoX]

I think you answered your own question.

Firstly, you're already 100% sure that your ex isn't going to come back to you.
Second, you're starting to fall for a girl. No matter how you deny it, you do think she's cute. I say to just let love do its work.

Hit two birds with one stone. You'll get over your ex and fill that gap in your heart if you get together with her.

[heheimawesome]

But I really really REALLY dont see me and that girl being together.. Seriously we've been like siblings for so long. Since I was like 13, and now I'm 22.

[D_K]

You wanna 'potentially' use your friend as a rebound material to distract you of your lingering feelings for your ex? Friends are hard to come by, especially those from your childhood, since by virtue they're in fixed -and limited- supply.

In other words, don't do it.

[!L0VE]

like the person up there wrote..

you answered your own questions lol.
you're done waiting for your ex & you know you'll never be with her. so i guess move on?
if you're not sure if she's over you then you should talk to her. if she is, then you can move
on without saying "what if". i mean, who knows, maybe she still misses you too.

as for your "sister" or whatever lol..don't date her cause you obviously don't like her enough.
you probably think you like her cause you're not over your ex yet.

good luck.

[GOOMBA]

If you don't like her genuinely, give it up. It'll hurt one if not both of you. As for the ex, you know she won't get back together with you so just let time take its course.

[meliawy]

Okay I have 2 problems.

One is, I have an ex that part of me doesn't want to get over. It just seems like no one compares to her its like the next girl is just.. Someone I'm settling for. When I think about the memories with her it makes me think of what could be if we could actually go out again.. But I know for a fact me and her will never be together again. But still, I keep wanting to wait. I mean I barely even talk to her anymore. It's like I'm chasing the wind. Pointless, right?

Anyways, my other one is I am starting to fall for this girl. She and I used to be VERY close but I don't want to fall for her because it'll be.. weird. It's like shes a sister, but I'm starting to think shes kind of cute. Physically. Thats the stage im in. I kind of don't want to like her, but at the same time what if my feelings for my ex completely disappear, because of her? Then thats a good thing.. right? but I still don't wanna go out with her..

What should I do? I'm pretty sure mostly everyone will say give up on the ex, and I pretty much think I will since I'm done waiting.. At the same time I keep hoping she'll change her mind.. What should I do..? I don't want to like this new girl and like I said no matter what it kinda feels like I'm settling if I go with a new girl.

Whatever emotional baggage you have with your ex... that is something you have to settle by yourself. I won't even bother to really comment on it other than point out the fact that only you will know when you are ready to let go of whatever you had with her.

About the second problem, you mention that you do not see yourself being with her in a long-term relationship... period. So, what is the point of wondering whether you should go out with her or not? Well, at least not for now, imo. Being attracted to her is normal, it is equivalent to "feeling a spark" for someone else even though you have a s/o; sometimes an attraction is temporary, sometimes it does not mean anything when it all dies down.

If you are so unsure that you are asking these questions, then obviously you are not ready to be in a new relationship, don't you think? Why don't you just chill, observe the situation for a little longer until you are sure you have sorted everything out. Trust me, when you stop holding yourself back, you will eventually be able to sort your feelings out. In other words, when you have cleared your head and learnt to remove her completely as an important aspect of your love life... that is when you will be able to move forward and finally stop looking back at what you both once had.

Anyway, I think that it is better to take it slow than to jump into a new relationship when you are not even absolutely sure that you even want to be in one.

That's me... because if I were in the girl's shoes, to tell you the truth, I'd feel cheated if I knew you were feeling this way. Put yourself in her shoes, would you feel good about the relationship (and even about yourself) if you knew that the other person got into the relationship even though he/she clearly still had some unresolved "issues"?

[heheimawesome]

Well I didn't say I don't want to be in a long term relationship with her.. I said I don't want to be in a relationship with her at all because I think it's too weird. But I came here asking what I should do because what if some people here went through the same thing, and it worked out great?

But you're right. I guess it's time for me to stop hoping and making my ex an important figure in my love life. I guess she'll just become one of those people I have on contact list but never call or get past "hey, whats up" "nothing", huh? Kind of sucks though. We used to talk as if no matter what we'd stay friends. Guess we were just foolish

Thank you.

[charmainee]

I cry in despair and rip my hair out.
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Nah. I just try and forget about them. x_x; I'm good at detaching myself from people-ish. Or get interested in other things.