[nomad_olga]

Hey guys
just wondering if any of you have been in a long term relationship and can't stand some of your
s/o's relatives.
For me i would have to say at times it is my bf's mother but i can cope. Mostly it's the grandma that i can't stand grandma. His grandma tends to nitpick
at everything i do, and in some instances makes me feel as though i should prioritise their family over mine. I guess she may be the was she is is
because: a) senile, b)has some stupid asian tradtion where she thinks the grand daughter in law should always do as they say or c) both.

I probably sound a bit cold about this but i just spent the day with them at my bf's graduation and I was THIS CLOSE <--> to kicking someone in the head.

SO care to share?

[GOOMBA]

I probably sound a bit cold about this but i just spent the day with them at my bf's graduation and I was THIS CLOSE <--> to kicking someone in the head.

I'm <-> close to kicking someone in the head everytime I spend time w/ the bf's family. Haha

[mintcracker]

um in asian families, the in laws ARE always like that. You just have to deal with that, and show you're willing to make the extra effort.

Nothing's wrong with that. ---

[Inspector]

For me i would have to say at times it is my bf's mother but i can cope. Mostly it's the grandma that i can't stand grandma. His grandma tends to nitpick
at everything i do, and in some instances makes me feel as though i should prioritise their family over mine.

You're not alone... I don't know this personally... but I'm sure this is how my gf feels sometimes. My mom is a sweet lady, but she always seem to make comments that insult my gf. Most of the time she don't do it on purpose. My gf HATES and DESPISES to meet my grandfather. He is probably the only person that can make you feel down when you're at your happiest. Hes always saying things about her... "Hes not marrying her for some obvious reason.", stuff like that. Trust me it gets worst.

He's old and the way he was brought up is probably the reason hes like that so I don't hold a personal grudge. My gf usually don't either... but she just hates to be around him. Trust me, if it gets out of hand I will step in. On the other hand, she loves my dad, and my dad adores her.


As for my potential in laws... well she never knew her dad, and well her mom is half viet and half chinese. She is one of those americanize asians. Shes nice and pretty easy going... so I have no problems with her. I always tell her that her daughter is in good hands.

I probably sound a bit cold about this but i just spent the day with them at my bf's graduation and I was THIS CLOSE <--> to kicking someone in the head.

I LOL-ED at this. That someone is usually me. Girls are so unreasonable.

[sodaniechea]

I'm lucky, my bf's family is so nice to me as my family is nice to him

[nomad_olga]

I'm <-> close to kicking someone in the head everytime I spend time w/ the bf's family. Haha

well in my defence it was a hot day too! lol.....

but yer, i talked to my bf about how i felt around his relatives and he told me to just ignore it. i guess its just hard for me to do so
when i do like my bf, and his mother so i do want to leave a good impression, but not at the expense of compromising my own family/ wants/needs.

or its just that my own family doesn't ask of me what my bf's family askes of me. did that make sense? lol

[GOOMBA]

or its just that my own family doesn't ask of me what my bf's family askes of me. did that make sense? lol

Yeah.

It's irritating when the overjudge.

[eximius]

Only his dad bugs me.
He doesn't speak English... but he's always drunk... Always mumbling stuff in Chinese and always pointing at me and laughing. And when I ask my boyfriend what his dad said about me, it's stuff like "You should give her some fruit/left overs/whatever to take home." >__>;;
And he's like, the leech of the family. He doesn't work, actually refuses to work, takes my boyfriend's mom's money and goes out to drink everyday... throws random drunken hissy fits... etc.

I always feel like grabbing him and throwing him off the balcony everytime he shows up home drunk and just complaining about everything (so I'm told, I don't understand what he says).

His cousin kinda irritates me too. Thankfully I only met her once...
She called me "girlfriend." Not "<my boyfriend's name>'s girlfriend," just... "girlfriend." That bugs me a lot for some reason.