[Mo0fin]

This is a long story, but let's make it short, shall we?

Basically, this guy and I have been liking each other since fooreevvveeerr! Not a week goes by w/o at least one of my friends asking, "why haven't you guys started dating yet?" I often wonder the same thing... but anyway, it's pretty obvious that within the last month, he's lost those feelings for me. No phone calls, hang outs, or anything! He also seems uninterested when I'm talking to him. I'd be stupid if i didn't realize that this meant he doesnt like me anymore.

I've been thinking about it a lot lately... of course I'm wondering why. I'm ready to move on, but I just want to know what happened so I could stop wondering and fully move on. Of course, I may not want to know the truth, like what if he likes someone else now? But I'd rather have my heart fully crushed than wondering. My imagination could be worse than the real thing. And besides, being rejected that way will help me move on sooner.

I'm going to talk to him on AIM. I know it aint the best way but I'm afraid I'd start crying on the phone or in person. How should I ask him w/o making it awkward or seeming desperate?!

[Villian]

You: what do you say if i ask you to be my boyfriend?

him: uhh i dont think so

You: GOOD! CUZ I AINT ASKING!

[Mo0fin]

You: what do you say if i ask you to be my boyfriend?

him: uhh i dont think so

You: GOOD! CUZ I AINT ASKING!

HAHA (= in our situation, i'd expect it to be more like:

Me: what do you say if i ask you to be my boyfriend?

Him: sure, if that's what i must do to get some. but i don't really like you anymore.

Me: O________O

[Mo0fin]

i got it done and over with. i didn't want to wait any longer cus it was driving me crazy.

basically, he admits to not liking me anymore. he says that he "tends to do that", likes a girl for a while then stops for "some reason". for a while? GODDANGIT we've almost been "liking" each other for a year. i must be too mothereffing boring for him. Unlike him, when I like a guy I actually really LIKE that person. And it's not even like he's a freakin' player or anything, shoot.

aaaahh this hurts so bad and I can't stop crying. But if i wanna look on the bright side, I guess this officially settles it and I can try to move on.

but what sucks the most about this is... it's not even like we were together and broke up. nothing even HAPPENED, which leaves this feeling of discontentment. i hate it so freakin' much!

[Sleepy213]

just talk to him..on the phone or messenger.
it doesn't really matter.

it's good that you want to know the truth and get over with.
instead of getting stuck with confusion.

if you don't want any awkwardness..just hear him out..
and tell him that..you dont want this stuff ruining your friendship
between you and him ;D.

goodluckk

[meliawy]

i got it done and over with. i didn't want to wait any longer cus it was driving me crazy.

basically, he admits to not liking me anymore. he says that he "tends to do that", likes a girl for a while then stops for "some reason". for a while? GODDANGIT we've almost been "liking" each other for a year. i must be too mothereffing boring for him. Unlike him, when I like a guy I actually really LIKE that person. And it's not even like he's a freakin' player or anything, shoot.

aaaahh this hurts so bad and I can't stop crying. But if i wanna look on the bright side, I guess this officially settles it and I can try to move on.

but what sucks the most about this is... it's not even like we were together and broke up. nothing even HAPPENED, which leaves this feeling of discontentment. i hate it so freakin' much!

Aaawww
Well... the "couldas, wouldas, shouldas" would always sting a bit whenever you are reminded by them. Kind of sucks especially when you really wanted it to happen.

But yes, I do agree with you from the first post, it is much better to get a straight answer rather than having the curiosity killing you constantly inside. It hurts so much right now, but you will indeed be moving along much faster. Best of luck to you, cry your heart out if necessary... but you will be fine in the end, I'm sure of it

[Prot]

i got it done and over with. i didn't want to wait any longer cus it was driving me crazy.

basically, he admits to not liking me anymore. he says that he "tends to do that", likes a girl for a while then stops for "some reason". for a while?

Well its a good thing you didn't get in a relationship with him then.

[RawrRawr]

How did you do it ?

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[Mo0fin]

How did you do it ?

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something along the lines of... "I'm sure you already know this, but I liked you. I don't know if you liked me, but it seemed like it I guess. Anyway, It's pretty obvious that you don't have the same feelings for me anymore..." and then I asked what happened cus "i wanted to get this over with so i can move on from him."

[gingerpeach]

something along the lines of... "I'm sure you already know this, but I liked you. I don't know if you liked me, but it seemed like it I guess. Anyway, It's pretty obvious that you don't have the same feelings for me anymore..."

Ooh so you two had one of those ambiguous relationships? I mean, not relationship as in being together, but like.. just, that was kind of your relation to him, hm?

A friend of mine also has that kind of "relationship" with a guy. They both like each other and they are both pretty much aware of it, but they haven't gotten together (yet). (It's been.. a while, haha.) They don't refer to / acknowledge each other as bf & gf, but they've kind of just "claimed" each other. Which is fine, IMO; whatever rocks their boat. I think it's quite cute.

But I'm veryy sorry to hear about your case cheer up, dear! The world is big (really, it is) and you will meet someone new eventually. But just wondering, how come you guys never made it *official*? (You don't have to answer if you don't want to though. ;])

[Loveholic2u]

you should just ask him,
do you want to go out with me.
be direct, that's what i do.

[predator]

i must be too mothereffing boring for him.

hun, it's not you. it's him.
wait for the right one to come around. (:

[d00lie]

umm maybe if you have lyk hc coming or something. you could ask like oh .are you going. and if he says yes. who he has in mind?

if u guys are good friends, usually it's not a big deal right. but if he's like super hesitant or something. then it's probably likely he likes you.

n if ur not interested, u shoudl be like. oh i want to go with so and so. or something.

lol. i had this situation before.. except i still liked him. and i've never lost interest. so i asked him directly. and he says he wanted us to be friends..

and lol. iono i was pretty hurt. but we're back to where we were again. so. lol. i don't relaly care anymore. i'm just happy. :]

[xLionHeartx]

Sometimes the chase is more thrilling then the capture.

[mintcracker]

exact same situation as me

being rejected would help with me movin on

at least it would give me closure.


sigh.

i got it done and over with. i didn't want to wait any longer cus it was driving me crazy.

basically, he admits to not liking me anymore. he says that he "tends to do that", likes a girl for a while then stops for "some reason". for a while? GODDANGIT we've almost been "liking" each other for a year. i must be too mothereffing boring for him. Unlike him, when I like a guy I actually really LIKE that person. And it's not even like he's a freakin' player or anything, shoot.

aaaahh this hurts so bad and I can't stop crying. But if i wanna look on the bright side, I guess this officially settles it and I can try to move on.

but what sucks the most about this is... it's not even like we were together and broke up. nothing even HAPPENED, which leaves this feeling of discontentment. i hate it so freakin' much!

I feel you. I feel so bad for you, cos I KNOW EXACTLY what you're feeling


it hurts alot doesn't it?

I have too much pride to text him to ask him what's up. He didn't reply my last text to him...one month ago. It was a really serious and honest text, where I got everything off my chest. I guess it's obvious he no longer cares at all. Hell guess we aren't even frds anymore. T-T

Yah and I get teary quite often. I still have the book he lent me, which isn't a good thing cos it reminds me of him.

Urgh. I'm also the type to fall hard, when I do like sb.




Guess I'll get over it eventually right? So what if nothing has changed after a month...It's only about time right? I'll be over it in a few weeks I hope. I hope you stay strong, I'm behind ya T__T. Gosh I hate this feeling I have in my gut...It's horrible.

[Mo0fin]

But I'm veryy sorry to hear about your case cheer up, dear! The world is big (really, it is) and you will meet someone new eventually. But just wondering, how come you guys never made it *official*? (You don't have to answer if you don't want to though. ;])

I think I know why now -___- we argue about stupid things sometimes, and that's probably why he got sick of it. My guy friend was talking to him like last week, and they started arguing and it got heated. then he said, "you're acting like Melissa right now!" when my guy friend told me about that I was like, eh. I realize that sometimes I get mad for stupid reasons, which is why I always apologize and make up for it... he's done his share of stupid crap that I had bared with... such as standing me up hecka times and whatnot.

umm maybe if you have lyk hc coming or something. you could ask like oh .are you going. and if he says yes. who he has in mind?

if u guys are good friends, usually it's not a big deal right. but if he's like super hesitant or something. then it's probably likely he likes you.

n if ur not interested, u shoudl be like. oh i want to go with so and so. or something.

lol. i had this situation before.. except i still liked him. and i've never lost interest. so i asked him directly. and he says he wanted us to be friends..

and lol. iono i was pretty hurt. but we're back to where we were again. so. lol. i don't relaly care anymore. i'm just happy. :]

Nah, I don't think I'll be asking him to any dances =| I still want to be friends with him, but I'm sure we won't be as close anymore. He's not really one of those guy friends who are really your friends. once the attraction has gone, so has most of the friendship...

exact same situation as me

being rejected would help with me movin on. at least it would give me closure.

I feel you. I feel so bad for you, cos I KNOW EXACTLY what you're feeling

I have too much pride to text him to ask him what's up. He didn't reply my last text to him...one month ago. It was a really serious and honest text, where I got everything off my chest. I guess it's obvious he no longer cares at all. Hell guess we aren't even frds anymore. T-T

Yah and I get teary quite often. I still have the book he lent me, which isn't a good thing cos it reminds me of him.

Urgh. I'm also the type to fall hard, when I do like sb.

Guess I'll get over it eventually right? So what if nothing has changed after a month...It's only about time right? I'll be over it in a few weeks I hope. I hope you stay strong, I'm behind ya T__T. Gosh I hate this feeling I have in my gut...It's horrible.

Oh gosh, the exact same thing! But I think you should also do what I did, which is to confront him and get rejected. It sounds bad but it's good for you! Like, I'm the type of girl who grieves over a guy for weeks, even months... and to be honest, I've never liked a guy this much, so I had predicted myself alone at home and eating gallons of ice cream for the next 8 weekends. But for some reason, I'm almost GLAD that this happened! Of course, I cried all morning yesterday, it was pretty bad -_____- but now it's almost like I don't feel anything! I mean, I'm glad that we didn't take it to the next level because, if he doesn't truly like me (it was prolly just a crush to him), then he's not worth it.

Also, I've always thought that every guy in my school was ugly, and could see no one but him. But for some reason all the guys that i used to not even take a second glance at seems so much cuter! can you imagine all the guys I could have dated and dumped in the time I was "with, but not with" him? okay, maybe not too much cus I'm not a flirt =P

And I have something of his as well, *sigh. It's the rose that he gave me a long time ago... a yellow rose because he knew that was my favorite color and said it reminded him of me. I put it in a text book so it could dry and preserve. I still have it b/c I couldnt bear throwing that away.

But anyway, if you're going to confront him, make sure you DON'T make it sound like you want him back or anything, haha! just say that you need to know so you can move on. good luck hon!

[eternal.happiness]

You never know how he's feeling unless you ask.
Don't assume something because it just might be wrong.